LMFAO said:
It adds up though. Say you get a couple of rounds of alcoholic drinks, 30 dollars or more 10 dates that's 300 dollars, 20 dates that's 600 dollars. The point is that it doesn't add to your game by paying for the whole thing comparing to just splitting the bill.
Just read the thread. One of the guys (think it was Mauser) made a good point about her being happy spending time with donjuan so she shouldn't mind paying her half. I'll bear that in mind in the future. I used to buy her one drink, then maybe she would get second.
I've found this question of
who pays...do we split the bill very interesting as it seems people have very different views.
I think I have started a thread on it in the past on here. It's the costly dates that concern me like going for a meal. I think some girls for the second date like to go somewhere nice like for a meal instead of going for walk through the woods you know. Depends on the girl.
I used to try & warn them after I read the story below by sending a text something like "
we can go for meal, but I like to split the bill in the early stages. Are you ok with this..if not maybe we can do something else". I text that to one woman who I'd actually been out with a few times & further down the line she told me that she nearly deleted my number because of that text the reason being that she thought I was implying she was only after my money. So from then on I've thought i'll just see if the woman offers on the date...if not on later dates with her i'll just take her on dates that don't cost & never pay for anything for her again unless she offers to pay beforehand.
Waiting to see if she pays at the end of the meal does put me in a vulnerable position though because she might not pay. I remember a thread...I think it was on here where a guy said "things were going great until :-
Guy :- You got your half of the money
Girl :- OMG I though you were paying
Guy :- No, we can go halfers
This was an expensive restauraunt
Girl :- (looking embarrassed & as if she was about to cry) ok, erm I haven't brought any money. I thought you were paying. I'm so emabarrassed.
Guy :- It's ok, don't get upset. I'll get the bill.
They were walking down the street & he said her mood went from being in a good mood & being into him to looking down & upset. He went in for the kiss to which she refused then she started crying & ran away from him.
The guy was asking don juans what had happened. Don juans had a go at him saying "what did you expect...if you take a girl to an expensive restaurant she is expecting you to pick up the bill. You didn't which was a mistake, but then to go in for the kiss not long after when you can clearly see she is upset which is ridiculous. Sidenote :- the guy who started the thread wasn't me in case any of you are wondering..am not that stupid
Like I feel it does put me in a vulnerable position leaving it to chance to see if she will pay....meh.