Magma
Senior Don Juan
Ask any 21 year old if they want to buy a Lamborghini. Chances are, they'll say yes (of course). BUT, they'll say they can't afford it. But what is cheaper? A nice sports car like that, or raising a child to adulthood?
And having a child at such a young age puts a man so far behind the 8-ball. The stress of raising and providing for a child (or children?) combined with the stress of keeping a young marriage alive is just too great. C'mon man! We all know the statistics! So eventually the guy is paying a lawyer in order to get his fair share of the custody. In addition, he pays alimony to the ex-wife as well as child support. A person just cannot deny the statistics here. I could disregard statistics and bet my house on 17 on the roulette wheel too. But would it be wise? Not when you're aware of what you're up against.
So what does this hypothetical young twenty-something man do for a living? Well, he's the guy that came out to my business the other day and unclogged my sewer drain. Sure! He and I got to talking. Turns out he's divorced with two kids. He couldn't have been more than 26 or so. These are the guys that are shacking up with women in their early twenties and getting them pregnant. Birth control? Not in their vocabulary.
It's a different time and a different legal environment out there than when our parents were young. The matriarchal legal system that is in place allows no safety net for the man in marital and parental issues. And that's the bottom line.
Listen, if the laws weren't so f'd up here in the states, I wouldn't have this point of view. But the sad fact is that men are going to get screwed if they get caught up in this circus at such a young age.
Furthermore, there is nothing contradictory about my posts. Sure I'll tell guys in their twenties to bang every woman they want to. BUT, I also advocate in using condoms 100% OF THE TIME and to make sure the woman is on some form of birth control as well. That's just smart practice. The broad implication of this is that a man gets to experience as many women as possible, so that when he decides to have a child, it will be with the right woman for the right reasons.
Men in today's world need to be more vigilant about who they decide to give their sperm to. And at 21, IN TODAY'S WORLD, neither the guy nor the girl are mature enough to bring a child in to this world.
Like Lex said, we're all living longer. So what's the rush? I advocate that young men at least GIVE THEMSELVES A FIGHTING CHANCE out of the gate. Why would someone willingly put themselves at such a disadvantage in life?
And of course there are exceptions to the rule. It would be nice if the statistics were not so bleak. And I'd like to build a ladder to the moon, too. But that's not realistic, and neither is the idea that a young man in his early twenties can justifiably have a child and provide for it accordingly against all odds to the contrary.
I'm not saying men shouldn't have children. What I'm saying is that guys should WAIT until they are older, more mature, and more financially stable before they decide to bring another human being into this world. I don't take the concept of children lightly. It's the biggest responsibility anyone take on. So why should I advocate for such a laissez-faire mentality when it comes to such an important decision?
Having kids at a young age just so the parents can still be "young" when the child is 18? Hogwash. How many young twenty-somethings still live at home? How many young men still count on their parents to bail them out? The maturity gap is growing wider by the generation, and it's unavoidable.
It's not that hard to figure out. Just wait a little longer until you have a more stable (financially and emotionally) life.
That's all I'm sayin'...
Respect.
And having a child at such a young age puts a man so far behind the 8-ball. The stress of raising and providing for a child (or children?) combined with the stress of keeping a young marriage alive is just too great. C'mon man! We all know the statistics! So eventually the guy is paying a lawyer in order to get his fair share of the custody. In addition, he pays alimony to the ex-wife as well as child support. A person just cannot deny the statistics here. I could disregard statistics and bet my house on 17 on the roulette wheel too. But would it be wise? Not when you're aware of what you're up against.
So what does this hypothetical young twenty-something man do for a living? Well, he's the guy that came out to my business the other day and unclogged my sewer drain. Sure! He and I got to talking. Turns out he's divorced with two kids. He couldn't have been more than 26 or so. These are the guys that are shacking up with women in their early twenties and getting them pregnant. Birth control? Not in their vocabulary.
It's a different time and a different legal environment out there than when our parents were young. The matriarchal legal system that is in place allows no safety net for the man in marital and parental issues. And that's the bottom line.
Listen, if the laws weren't so f'd up here in the states, I wouldn't have this point of view. But the sad fact is that men are going to get screwed if they get caught up in this circus at such a young age.
Furthermore, there is nothing contradictory about my posts. Sure I'll tell guys in their twenties to bang every woman they want to. BUT, I also advocate in using condoms 100% OF THE TIME and to make sure the woman is on some form of birth control as well. That's just smart practice. The broad implication of this is that a man gets to experience as many women as possible, so that when he decides to have a child, it will be with the right woman for the right reasons.
Men in today's world need to be more vigilant about who they decide to give their sperm to. And at 21, IN TODAY'S WORLD, neither the guy nor the girl are mature enough to bring a child in to this world.
Like Lex said, we're all living longer. So what's the rush? I advocate that young men at least GIVE THEMSELVES A FIGHTING CHANCE out of the gate. Why would someone willingly put themselves at such a disadvantage in life?
And of course there are exceptions to the rule. It would be nice if the statistics were not so bleak. And I'd like to build a ladder to the moon, too. But that's not realistic, and neither is the idea that a young man in his early twenties can justifiably have a child and provide for it accordingly against all odds to the contrary.
I'm not saying men shouldn't have children. What I'm saying is that guys should WAIT until they are older, more mature, and more financially stable before they decide to bring another human being into this world. I don't take the concept of children lightly. It's the biggest responsibility anyone take on. So why should I advocate for such a laissez-faire mentality when it comes to such an important decision?
Having kids at a young age just so the parents can still be "young" when the child is 18? Hogwash. How many young twenty-somethings still live at home? How many young men still count on their parents to bail them out? The maturity gap is growing wider by the generation, and it's unavoidable.
It's not that hard to figure out. Just wait a little longer until you have a more stable (financially and emotionally) life.
That's all I'm sayin'...
Respect.
