Patience or boldness?

[Yuurei]

Alright, I'll try keep this short.

Met a chick in my uni lecture, got her number at the end, we've had lunch (casually, not really an official date) twice. I've kino'd her and she's been kino'ing back (most amazing discovery ever btw). Some of the other class mates have started chilling with us so naturally I want to get her alone.

Problem is, she broke up with her boyfriend 2 weeks ago(says its "complicated" to be specific) and hes a bit of a nut job, has not accepted the break up and is in denial.

My question is, do I:
- Boldly ask her out and not give a **** about that dude (my favourite).
- Ask her if shes officially single yet and tell her to make up her mind because I want to ask her out (iffy about this)
- Wait a bit for this situation to settle then ask her out (my least favourite).

Keep in mind the other dude has already grabbed her phone and complained about my name being in there.

Help me o wise ones, this ones a hotty

P.S.
Why do I always fail at keeping **** short?

 

[Iceberg]

My question is, do I:
- Boldly ask her out and not give a **** about that dude (my favourite).
- Ask her if shes officially single yet and tell her to make up her mind because I want to ask her out (iffy about this)
- Wait a bit for this situation to settle then ask her out (my least favourite).

Definitely don't ask if she's officially single. That has nothing to do with whether she's attracted to you or not.

So, looking at your 3 options, I can't find a good one. Why don't you just tell her about some happy hour at a bar near campus, and have her get some drinks with you? It's not as serious as "Boldly asking her on a date." and it's not as lame as doing nothing at all.

This is my usual approach for going out with girls, and it works well for me. I never make things as big as "I'm asking you out." because it makes it too serious. If the girl's gonna hook up with you, she'll do it no matter what you call the "date". And since she's just leaving a relationship, she'd be less likely to go on a "date" with you, unless she was 100% set on banging you.

So just ask her to get a few beers with you, and see where it goes. You get your isolation, without having to put the pressure of a date on the arrangement.

 

[Yuurei]

Hmm, those are some good points Iceberg

There's actually a university bar on campus, so that's a damn good idea

Thanks for the advice.