Pathetic!!!

[bugsquish]

Think of it this way, lets say you did win her back, and you stayed together, had kids, house, car etc.

When youre 45 and getting divorced you're gonna look back and think "Man, I coulda had so much fun when I was young and handsome, DJing all these different women, living my life to the max! Now it's too late cuz I wasted all those years with that cow!"

That kinda mentality helped me get over Emma my 4 year ex. Also, if she dumped you - even ONCE - doesn't that mean that she just AINT WORTHY of your attention?? You could be missing a HB (who totally respects you and is perfect in every way) because you're not paying attention while you're infatuated with this non-worthy chick...

My 2 cents.

 

[KiInCollege]

Pathetic is the correct description. If you wanted reinforcement I will offer some.

If you don't start meeting and dating other women you will die alone.

This girl is giving you hints to get the **** away and you are still considering being an annoyance by calling her or her friend.

Stop posting about this woman. Your AFC descriptions makes me want to vomit.

Never read this post again. Forget you ever wrote it, and edit your own posts to stop reading them if you have to. Focus on improving yourself for the future.

 

[Survivor]

Dave and MrMiceGuy,

You guys are gonna be just fine. The relapses you two are experiencing are normal.

I recommend to the two of you what I consider the BEST cure for oneitis.

Using this cure helped me personally get over my oneitis. The cure is called TIME, and lots of it. As much as possible, avoid contact with the girls you are infactuated with, then give your body and mind time to purge itself of whatever fantasies you've poisoned it with. Its simple and DJ Bible tested. Avoid all contact, find other things to do, then wait patiently.

Oneitis, by definition, is a man's severe dependance on one woman to confirm his own desirability. By removing from your life the object of your obsession, it forces you confirm your desirability through other things such as your hobbies, career, other women, etc. There will be times when you will relapse but don't get sidetracked by them. Be assured that relapses and occasional negative thoughts are normal. The fact that you relapse is just more indication that you are on the right track to curing your oneitis. Just maintain your self-awareness, ignore your own negative thoughts, apply the lessons learned from your mistakes and press on.

It took me YEARS to get over my oneitis. Tapping ten other women might have worked sooner, but think about it. If a guy had the ability to attract a large number of women in a small amount of time, he would not have developed oneitis in the first place.

I think you two are gonna be just fine. Self improvement is never easy so be patient and hang in there.

- Survivor

 

[MrNiceGuy]

thanks survivior, at the moment I am going through up and down phases, sometimes I think the one-itis has passed, then something happens and I realise it hasn't.. but the times when I feel like I'm over it are getting longer..

Like you said, given time we'll be fine.

 

[davelmn2003]

Thanks for all the advice!

I need A LOT OF TIME indeed.

Good luck to you Mr. NiceGuy, as well as other people like us.

 

[princelydeeds]

There will come a day when you will look back on this and say what the hell was I thinking. I can't believe I wasted all that time over that b!tch. It always happens. Life is short and sooner or later you will get over her. focus on you. Get some hobbies, focus on yourselves be very selfish for a while. Throw away all the little things that remind you of her. Everything needs to go let go of all the pictures and trinkets and other memories. dont call her today. Tomorrow when you wake up say im not going to call her today. Take it one day at a time. Go read some books on somethign you like. Go to the mall, go see a movie, just get out of the house and stop moping around. Go to the club and dance with every girl you see. You have to break your routine, go volunteer with some kids or something. Just let go and move forward.

 

[Ser_i]

I ment with.. "just let it happen" that you should be seducing women not out of a thought that consists of thinking I'm gonna seduce her,

The perfect way of just letting it happen will be once you realise you are seducing her without actualy having the initial intention of doing it.

 

[Bonhomme]

Just ignore her

She'll forget you, and once you learn the game you'll forget her.

If you see her again, just go on doing what you're doing as if she isn't even there, unless she literally grabs your attention. It takes a bit of strength, but I've done it with gals who mildly dissed me like that.

I ran into one gal this weekend who gave me a bogus phone number. Not by any means a one-itis situation, but it illustrates the point. She was pleased to see me, but after a tiny bit of chit-chat, I matter-of-factly told her I called the number she gave me, but got some middle-aged man. She attempted to give some bull**** excuse, and said she has my #, but she could see I wasn't buying it. This was a person I run into frequently, and had considered at least friendly acquaintance. I didn't talk with her for the rest of the night. She actually appeared disappointed.

I think she got the message I consider her unworthy of my company. She went straight from a hottie to a nottie. Well, she wrote her own ticket.

She's not worthy of you. Ignore her.

If, for some strange reason she tries to pretend to be friendly with you, just act with perfunctory good manners and indifference, and go back to what you're doing as soon as you can without betraying concern by being rude.

 

[icehot]

dignity gents, dignity

Yup, you gents are pathetic alright.

I can't believe you got one-itis over a girl you had three dates with 2 months ago!!!

Jesus, you have to remember to keep your dignity at all costs.

In case its not clear, SHES NOT INTERESTED IN YOU. Now suck it up and move on.

By calling her, you basically threw your dignity out the window.


Read Pook's post in the bible on "being a man" and on "killing the desperation". That should help you.

-iceH

 

[RazzleDazzle]

It sux to have oneitis. We have all had it at one point or the other. I would have it now over a girl i dated for a little over a week. A week!!! She dropped me for her ex and we haven't talked since. I act indifferent to her but i still enjoy my life.

I think the only reason i am not obsessing like you guys is because of my pride. Whenever i get stupid thoughts about how i miss her and stuff my pride says "that wench used you for a rebound, she dropped you for the puppy dog she used to date. She isn't worth your time, or effort."

Maybe one day she will be, maybe she'll grow up and see her error, but if not oh well. I'll be living my life and enjoying every minute of it.

Just think, "i'm better than that" because you are.

 

[djbr]

Dave and MrMiceGuy,

You guys are gonna be just fine. The relapses you two are experiencing are normal.

I recommend to the two of you what I consider the BEST cure for oneitis.

Using this cure helped me personally get over my oneitis. The cure is called TIME, and lots of it. As much as possible, avoid contact with the girls you are infactuated with, then give your body and mind time to purge itself of whatever fantasies you've poisoned it with. Its simple and DJ Bible tested. Avoid all contact, find other things to do, then wait patiently.

Oneitis, by definition, is a man's severe dependance on one woman to confirm his own desirability. By removing from your life the object of your obsession, it forces you confirm your desirability through other things such as your hobbies, career, other women, etc. There will be times when you will relapse but don't get sidetracked by them. Be assured that relapses and occasional negative thoughts are normal. The fact that you relapse is just more indication that you are on the right track to curing your oneitis. Just maintain your self-awareness, ignore your own negative thoughts, apply the lessons learned from your mistakes and press on.

It took me YEARS to get over my oneitis. Tapping ten other women might have worked sooner, but think about it. If a guy had the ability to attract a large number of women in a small amount of time, he would not have developed oneitis in the first place.

I think you two are gonna be just fine. Self improvement is never easy so be patient and hang in there.

- Survivor

And THAT piece of gold was hanging over on a dark corner of the DJ Forum?

Well, I found it.

 

[TxCowboy]

And THAT piece of gold was hanging over on a dark corner of the DJ Forum?

Well, I found it.

If that h0 isnt thinking of you, y in the HELL would u even bother thinking of her ? .... Remember, when a woman moves on to someone else, she doesnt look back - the deal is done and the h0 is on to the NEXT guy she intends to work her tricks on ...

Delete her number, throw all her stuff away, never contact her again ... and look to better opportunities ... the authentic way to make her realize what she left is simply by her seeing you one day (at random and w/o contacting her) out in public and noticing that you have moved on for the better ....I.E. you have another girl with you, new clothes, positive attitude towards life, and the confidence that a MAN displays!