Since we all agree that paternity tests should be administered, I'd like to know what the most graceful way - and moment - is to broach the subject. Keep in mind if you say that you want to get one, you are saying "I don't trust that I'm the only penis who was in your vagina 9 mos. ago." While it's sensible perhaps to THINK these things, how do you say them without sounding like an insecure idiot?
And when? Early on in a marriage? At the moment of birth? How much time is there between the actual birth and the signing of the certificate to do it secretly? I really know very little about this subject.