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I got into a relationship with a girl that lives in the middle east. I never expected it to go this far. Fast forward almost 4 years and we are engaged. Parents met and everything. She is head over heels in love with me.

Due to complications she was not able to get any visa to come to the USA ( i really didnt want her to come anyway). She still wants to be with me and wants me to either move to her or find a 3rd country for us to start a family.

I am having second thoughts about having children overseas. I make enough to support a family but I can only make money in the USA.

I know some people work in one country and send money back home. I dont know if I can be away from my kid for months at a time. The kid might lack fatherly discipline.

I am wondering how people do it and still raise functional kids?

Btw I had a central American roomate whose father worked in the USA and sent money back to Guatemala. He turned out very well and he is now an engineer. So it can work i guess. Idk.....

Btw I found that Andrew Tate clip after I was already involved with this girl. She is great and I wont have to worry about divorce rape but still....

 

[FlirtLife]

Do you know what you want?

You say "we are engaged", but also you "never expected it to get this far", and also "parents met". You're taking all these steps to progress the relationship, and then questioning how the relationship progressed.

If you're worried about "divorce rape", you should get a prenup. If you want to be cheap, at least give her enough time that she could get the prenup reviewed by a lawyer. Better yet, you two can each get a lawyer to represent you, and go over the prenup. It's a good idea to offer to translate the prenup to her native language. Divorce doesn't require bad intent - people can grow apart or realize it was a mistake. A prenup dramatically lowers the 50% chance you lose 50% of your assets.

I don't get the appeal of an extreme long-distance relationship where you can only visit a few times per year. If this is your first or second relationship, I suspect desperation could play a role.