Passive Or Aggressive?

[superslothx1]

Alright, I've been having this problem with many of the girls I approach lately... Maybe Im taking the "Be a challenge" thing to seriously, but even with girls that are giving me signals that they want me, im being passive (too much small talk, too "friendly", that I keep falling into the LJBF catagory... But If im too aggressive, won't I just be shrugged off as a desperate AFC for coming on TOO strong? Or does it really matter if the girls givin you signs that she wants you? Which will get you into less trouble, small talk or sex innuendo... or should I say, which will get you laid faster?

 

[MetalFortress]

Not everything is in black and white... look for the gray area between "friend talk" and "coming on really strong".

 

[die4me]

Just think "laid back" while you're talking, let her feed your arsenal, and use what she says to push it into the sexual direction. It's hard to explain, because there are a million things she could say that you can bounce right off of.

 

[Superman X]

A woman is passive. A man is active.

Be aggressive, but in the right way. Go for what you want, but don't be needy.

But the only way to find out is, to be aggressive and see what is the wrong way.

More to come on this in a later post.

 

[superslothx1]

Still confused

So how do you be "Aggressive", and stil come off as a challenge? Is there a such thing as "Passive Aggressive" ?

 

[Superman X]

This is how.

Be aggressive with kino until you get rejected HARD, like slapped.

Then you know what's too aggressive.

 

[superslothx1]

THANKS!

Imma try it as soon as possible!!

 

[kevbo]

Originally posted by Superman X
This is how.

Be aggressive with kino until you get rejected HARD, like slapped.

Then you know what's too aggressive.

i don't know if that's such a good idea. after slapping you, she'll probably just walk off. just go up, get a conversation going, then cut it off because you "have to go" or something, getting her number before you leave. you do want a lot of kino, but not enough to get slapped. don't touch her anywhere that would offend her, considering you've just met. i'd probably suggest walking up and asking, "hey, what's your name?" if she gives you her name, tell her yours, offering your hand for a handshake. that's a good start for kino. from there, during you fairly short convo, do whatever kino fits the situation.

 

[SteesKnowsall]

if ur too aggressive ur too easy... no challenge... if ur passive ur a pussie... these thoughts are whats going in ur average girls mind... i would give her something to think about... let her know she MIGHT be someone ur interested in... it will make her want u to be interested in her... remain somewhat passive for awhile to let her thoughts marinate... then when the timing is right show ur aggressive side but be smooth about it... definitely dont come on strong... always remember to be smooth calm and collected