Party tips

[S.Y.L]

Hey, im going to my first real party with girls and drinking etc. Afterwards almost everyone is sleeping over.

I already know all of the guys who are going and 1 or 2 girls, theres like 20 other chicks I don't Know at all who are going too.. I'm pretty well known to them, and they all basically respect me and stuff.

I'm not going to drink, because I don't want to, but everyone else will be drinking a lot.

What are some good tips to use at parties, if there are some good looking chicks there I will be wheeling em for sure. How should I approach people there?

 

[wd40]

its going to be hard to game drunk chicks when you're sober. actually the gaming wont be hard but people might think you're taking advantage... especially if a girl is really drunk and her friends are around you dont want that on your rep. My advice: have a couple beers and act a little drunker than you are... solves this problem. If you really dont want to drink then only go after the girls who are at least mostly sober. From personal experience dude I can tell you that you dont wanna be seen as the guy who stays sober and takes advantage of drunk chicks.

 

[Analyzeit]

Listen to Wd40 man, you don't wanna be the weird take advantage guy. Even if your not your going to get blamed lol. Have few beers act drunker then you are, all the drunks will get you in the mood to act it.

Just walk up if everyones drinking.

My fav tip is keep away from the chicks that are way drunk, they not gonna remember and they probably gonna coma and your gonna waste your time.... it happens to all of us lol

good luck

 

[S.Y.L]

I don't really give a **** about talking to any of these chicks ever again in my life to be honest, they go to different schools as well. And these chicks friends (who I sort of know) are a lot less popular than me anyways, and wouldn't do ****

Ive never drank before at all ever before, so I don't want to tomorrow really. My parents are drunk all the time, and I really don't want to be like them, plus, I work out every day, and if you have over 1 beer it starts to increase estrogen, which is terrible to say the least.

Plus If I react like my dad does to alcohol, which I would, because me and my dad are like Genetically the exact same, its freaky, I will end up trying to fight everyone, which is not good lol.


I guess I'll act drunk, which might not be too hard, because I'm always hyper and **** anyways. And I'll keep away from the ones who are smashed lol

 

[Analyzeit]

One beer increasing estrogen.... geeze man ease up a little your allowed a few in the weekend man.

Not everyones an angry fighting drunk, even if you think your exactly the same at least try it man. I know i shouldn't encourage drinking but to me drinking is all about stories, your going to be one boring guy if your worried about some estrogen and your just going to a party to get a bit of *****, you don't want to live your life going to parties for ***** have fun with the boys bro.

 

[Exhumed]

Estrogen isn't why alcohol decreases your gains in the gym as far as i know...

 

[Hughman]

Estrogen isn't why alcohol decreases your gains in the gym as far as i know...

It's to do with it messing about with metabolic pathways in your liver. Your body has to use NAD to deal with alcohol first, rather than fats. Alcohol metabolites are also toxic. Also messes with vasodilation.

 

[S.Y.L]

w/e, I'm not going to drink, I'll just stay away from the chicks who are wasted, and game the ones who arent haha.

 

[saturos]

Hey i feel you, i don't drink either.
Is this your first party with drinking? You're going to be disappointed if you go in with the wrong expectations.
I havent gone to any parties with like 30 people, but i have been to a lot of get togethers from 5-20 people who drink. As one of the only non-drinkers in my friend group and people i hang with in general, its a bit rough.
As there are girls there, that will be better. The less trashy girls tend to not drink as much and won't be totally wasted, and you can have fun with them. I avoid all guy drinking things now and i'd recommend you do the same.

I dunno if there are going to be drugs (but probably) but if there are people smoking cigars then make them get the fvck outside because that shlt smells.

The first few parties i would drink like 1 shot and it would be too much for me, haha (wouldn't get drunk, just feel like ****, don't rec you start drinking if you want to have fun). I can take more now but i don't. If any of your friends don't drink it will be a LOT better for you.

Oh and don't take advantage of any girls unless they are just tipsy. If a drunk slut wants to blow you or something, stay the hell away. You'll regret it.
It's going to be pretty boring for you depending on how much the people drink, so just go in with a i-dont-care-about-anything attitude and you'll have a better time.

 

[S.Y.L]

K well, heres what went down.

I ended up drinking as soon as I got there, I didn't give a ****, drinking at a party once a month isn't gonna do anything that bad. I drank 3 Beers, so I wasn't completely hammered, but, enough to get it going. Holy ****, you feel like you have all the confidence in the world with alcohol, its actually amazing, I was approaching every single chick there lol.

None of the girls were smashed at all there, just a bit tipsy, but one of em was good looking, and i made a few moves and seemed to be going good, i grabbed her ass (it was a nice ass) a few times, dropped a few lines and had her it seemed, but she kept saying that we were both too drunk lol. w/e, her friend seemed to be ****blocking me as well, but i dunno if she was or not.

Then 2 of her other friends asked me if I wanted to hook up with her, but I really did not know how to answer that, so I said maybe lol.

Anyways, they all took a taxi home not long after, so I didn't hook up with her. And all the girls that were left were 4/10s, so im like, **** it

But one of my best friends got laid with his gf, but unfortunately, they were so ****ing noisey, that they kept everyone up all night lmao

 

[S.Y.L]

btw, can someone evaluate that, and see what i should have done different possibly?

 

[saturos]

Weak resolve not to drink, i see >.> But i suppose that part of the reason i dont drink is that i have made it such a point that i will not drink that i'd lose a lot of respect if i turned my back on my word and started getting drunk.

Terrible response to the "do you like her?" question though. Probably ruined you hooking up with her. Did you get her number?

 

[Lumberyard]

Seems like you did most of the things right. Personally I don't know about the ass grabbing, there's a time and place for it, but she may have taken it as strange and mistaken it for you just being drunk and wanting ass. This is something that's completely dependent on time/place/presentation and can't really be assessed on a forum.

Also the "were too drunk" can go in either direction. Most common being that the girl simply didn't want to do anything despite appearing as though she does (This is where the alcohol can come in from both sides). Other being that she may have personal boundaries, such as your initial decision not to drink, and chooses to not hookup with someone she just met or while drinking. She may have a bf as well unless you know otherwise.

 

[S.Y.L]

Seems like you did most of the things right. Personally I don't know about the ass grabbing, there's a time and place for it, but she may have taken it as strange and mistaken it for you just being drunk and wanting ass. This is something that's completely dependent on time/place/presentation and can't really be assessed on a forum.

Also the "were too drunk" can go in either direction. Most common being that the girl simply didn't want to do anything despite appearing as though she does (This is where the alcohol can come in from both sides). Other being that she may have personal boundaries, such as your initial decision not to drink, and chooses to not hookup with someone she just met or while drinking. She may have a bf as well unless you know otherwise.

She was liking the ass part, I had my arm around her, and she had her arm around my neck, so I went in for that, and she was laughing so I supposed she liked it lol.

But yeah, shes like Ill add you on facebook, which she hasnt yet, but it was her birthday today, so I doubt she has been home anyways. I didn't number close, as I was looking for a 1 night thing, but she will be at the next party where we were, so Ill start talking to her before she drinks next time, and make a connection before we drink much. Any ideas on what else to do?

And yeah, I still don't know what would be a good answer to that, I didn't wanna give anything away, so thats why I said mabye.

 

[S.Y.L]

I'm sorry to bump, but I wanna know this.

 

[Lumberyard]

I'm sorry to bump, but I wanna know this.

A maybe in this situation, coming from a guy, is 95% of the time assumed as a yes. I personally think this is a perfect spot for a short and concise ****y-funny response, "I'm too wild for her." While not even answering the question, when she hears this from her friends, if she was interested she is now qualifying herself to you or wondering what the hell she did wrong when she thought you were all go. Vs a maybe, where after hearing it she'll understand it may as well have been a yes - girls can be in it just for the chase too.

 

[wd40]

in my experience dude, when the friend asks "would you hook up with her?" you have to understand that the friend is going to tell the girl what you said. SO your options are A)YES B)NO C)MAYBE D) Nunya. Im probably not the most experienced guy in the high school forum, but i like to consider this my area of expertise (ive never had a real gf... almost every hookup ive had has been a drunk/high one... had a couple ****buddies but that usually didnt last much longer than a month because they got sick of it and wanted more) anyways i digress...

A) usually just go with this. the friend is probably asking because the girl told her to ask you.... which means she probably wants to hook up. and even if she doesnt, you will usually find out pretty quickly after saying yes and wont waste any time. usually just go with this option. just dont sound desperate

B) The maybe option is what you need to say when the girl is really not shy. shy girls will be too scared to try to hook up with you when they get a maybe and then it just means more work for you. on the other hand girls that are hotter/tougher to get might respond better to this cuz it makes them curious and they'll want to prove to themselves they can get you to hook up with them.

C) never say this if you want to hook up with her. her friend will tell her you said no, she"ll avoid you all night.

D) Nunya. If you think the friend is a ****block. just avoid getting into this conversation with this friend. say "none of your business" and leave it. the ****block friend will screw you over. you can also use this option as a maybe... depending on the tone of your voice when you say "none of your business" but be careful... the ****block friend will manipulate you.

Overall when this situation happens (which i have found to be really often) you should almost always go with A. only go with B if you feel like its really borderline whether or not she"ll hook it with you... the challenge might swing her. and never go with B if the girl is shy. and if the friend is a ****block ignore the sitation entirely.

in your particular case dude i think you screwed up. should have just said "yeah shes cute id probably hook up with her" and once word got back to her that you said that i think things could have been easier on you.

one last thing... you know how she kept saying "we're too drunk"... that really means "if i hook up with you ill feel slutty". it doesnt mean "lets not hook up". the only time you should take the "we're too drunk" line seriously is if you get a "this will ruin our friendship" or "wer're just friends" along with it.


alright wow i really got into it. later man, hope this helps

 

[Lumberyard]

one last thing... you know how she kept saying "we're too drunk"... that really means "if i hook up with you ill feel slutty". it doesnt mean "lets not hook up". the only time you should take the "we're too drunk" line seriously is if you get a "this will ruin our friendship" or "wer're just friends" along with it.

This is part of my point though. "if i hook up with you ill feel slutty" is in fact a no. It's your job during your approach, conversation, and close to make her feel as comfortable as possible with you. Sure some girls are exponentially harder than others, but the point remains.

 

[S.Y.L]

Alright, any more advice would be appreciated, but I guess I know what to do next time.