Party sluts?

[GuitarMike]

Hey all first post.

I'm a little bit older in my 30's and I'm a musician that plays out in a lot of clubs, and pubs. Being a musician in and around the night scene I'm around a lot of party girls. Even though I'm slightly older I look young and with the music talent (which helps a lot), I can still manage to pick up girls that are in their early 20's. I love to party, but I just don't understand a lot of these younger girls these days. I don't know if it is the whole 2000's mtv hip hop sexed up reality show culture thing or what but; its seems the majority of these younger girls I'm dating all seem to think its mad cool to exhibit behavior as a wanna be stripper/porn star type. I end up finding out that they have 2 or 3 **** buddies going on all the time, flaking all the time to hang out with whatever one of their buddies has the most going on that day. Maybe I'm just attracting the wrong girls but man all these early 20's girls think they are gangster and that being a slut is cool. None of them ever seem to want to commit to anything much. What are some of the things you guys do when you start ****ing/seeing one of these typical party sluts. The only thing I do is once I get a lay if they start being flakey I roll with it for a short while to try to get a second lay and if nothing comes of it I and move on to the next one. Anybody have any advice to stop these party sluts from being so wild and to get them to focus more on you?

 

[Zarky]

Tryin to make a ho a housewife eh?

Best idea: bang 'em a couple of times, then find the next one. Develop a rotation of your own.

 

[pinkfl]

It's where you are picking them up. That environment is going to attract that type of person.

A good girl isn't going to go the club. She's probably involved at school, or she's involved in a club. She's probably spending a nice evening in with some friends where their idea of a "party" is basically everyone brings food and they sit around and watch a movie or tv show together.

Trying to find a classy person in a club is like trying to find a Chanel purse at a garage sale. Does it happen? Sure, once in a blue moon. Is it common? No.

 

[mrmention]

Trying to find a classy person in a club is like trying to find a Chanel purse at a garage sale. Does it happen? Sure, once in a blue moon. Is it common? No.

Funny cos it's true!

 

[NewToTheGame]

I'm in my 30's, but look younger, and have been doing the club/bar scene a lot the last two years. I used to be pretty anti-social so I have been trying to get out there more. I hardly went out in my 20's (former extreme pothead) so the scene is still somewhat new to me.

I have dated and messed around with 15+ early 20-something girls during this time. I guess I'm making up for lost time. But I have noticed the same things that the OP has.

They're flighty. Flaky. Slutty. Attention *****s. I'm not saying all younger women are like this. But definitely most of the ones in the club/bar scene. Especially the better looking ones. Even when they find a good thing, they are off to find the next thing before you know it.

If you really want to keep one of these girls around (which I'm not even sure is a good idea) you have to do a few things. Be aloof. Let them chase you. Ignore some texts and calls. Don't be available too often. Never give them all the validation they are looking for. Never put up with any sh1t. Never let them think they have you. Keep one foot out the door and keep looking for other girls. Above all, don't take them too seriously or get emotionally invested. Don't be a total d1ck, but being a supplicating nice guy here will get you nowhere. Most other guys are being nice, kissing their ass, buying them drinks, and doing anything possible to get in their pants. Its just the way the scene works, clubs/bars revolve around these early 20's attention *****s.

In the end you may keep one or more of them around for awhile. But you will likely get sick of their overall insecurity and stupid behavior.

 

[Packers2010]

wow.. i really need to get my **** together... if they are being so slutty. i'm 23. i should be able to get an 18 year old. ( though they are so dumb... it's a turn off for me)