Party advice

sceneparade

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2017
Messages
88
Reaction score
9
I going to a Christmas party tonight where there will be a lot of women.

One of those women is a woman who was interested but her attraction has dropped lately.

Any advice on how to deal with her at the party? Ignore her and focus on other women?

And how do I conduct myself in general?
 
Last edited:

Divorced w 3

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2022
Messages
2,592
Reaction score
1,464
I going to a Christmas party tonight where there will be a lot of women.

One of those women is a woman who was interested but her attraction has dropped lately.

Any advice on how to deal with her at the party? Ignore her and focus on other women?

And how do I conduct myself in general?
Ignore her until she says hello to you, unless you make obvious contact at which you tell her it’s great to see her, small chitchat about holidays and wish her the best. Immediately break out of the convo. Something to the effect of someone either walked in, or you need to use the bathroom keep it short and sweet.

Meet the rest of the room. After you say hi and give a gift to the host (yes, get something you cheap fvck), go find your closest friend or friends and then you start working around the room. Optimally you post up and let folks come to you. Depends on setting. Talk to everyone. Keep it light and funny. Don’t talk about work. If someone ask’s about it your answer is “I don’t even know” and then you pivot to what they do. One of two things is going to happen, and I hope it’s the first. You meet some other amazing broad and you smash her later.Otherwise your girl sees you as the guy to know and you’re good there too. Nobody gets more from the female side of it than a few bits of your time intermittently.

in summary, keep it short, funny and keep moving. Your Mohammad Ali.
 

Dr.Suave

Moderator
Joined
Mar 6, 2017
Messages
3,823
Reaction score
4,140
Pull a younger/hotter girl in front of her.
 

In2theGame

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
2,194
Reaction score
1,144
Age
41
Location
New York City
This one is too easy...

You do not ignore her but you also don't go out of your way to say hello to her. If she happens to be in your vicinity/space and you both happen to make eye contact, then you say "Hey, (Name), how are you? You look good tonight..." Keep the convo very short then excuse yourself to get a drink.

You continue with your night and talk to other Women. If her interest has dropped noticeably, it will be of no use to you trying to conversate with her because she will WASTE YOUR NIGHT.

Talk to other Women and enjoy yourself. I repeat... TALK TO OTHER WOMEN.
 

SW15

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 31, 2020
Messages
13,312
Reaction score
11,277
You do not ignore her but you also don't go out of your way to say hello to her. If she happens to be in your vicinity/space and you both happen to make eye contact, then you say "Hey, (Name), how are you? You look good tonight..." Keep the convo very short then excuse yourself to get a drink.

You continue with your night and talk to other Women. If her interest has dropped noticeably, it will be of no use to you trying to conversate with her because she will WASTE YOUR NIGHT.

Talk to other Women and enjoy yourself. I repeat... TALK TO OTHER WOMEN.
This is perfect. It'd be ideal if she never enters your vicinity/space at that party. Depending on the size of the party. this could happen.

The focus needs to be other women.
 
Last edited:

sceneparade

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2017
Messages
88
Reaction score
9
This is perfect. It'd be idea if she never enters your vicinity/space at that party. Depending on the size of the party. this could happen.



The focus needs to be other women.
If her interest is there, will she notice me with other women and make an effort? If so, then what do I do?

The last time I saw her last week, I was smart casually dressed, and she glanced at me and looked away and then glanced back a couple feet later (couple seconds)
 

In2theGame

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
2,194
Reaction score
1,144
Age
41
Location
New York City
This is perfect. It'd be idea if she never enters your vicinity/space at that party. Depending on the size of the party. this could happen.

The focus needs to be other women.
This is true however with Women.... if they have the slightest knowledge that you will be at the same party, they will seek you out in a subtle way.

Women are attention seeking beings, so even if her interest in him has dropped, she will still want to know if he's there. The bullseye for him would be her catching him talking to another (of equal or better attractiveness to her) and making her laugh.... she will see this and "magically" make her way into his space.

Women... :)
 

In2theGame

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2005
Messages
2,194
Reaction score
1,144
Age
41
Location
New York City
Just to add...

The opposite is also very true...

If she were to catch him sitting in the corner by himself sipping on a drink alone... she will think "Heh, I knew he was a loser..."

Then make her way to talking/flirting with other Men, so... with that said....

OP, make SURE you are talking/flirting with other Women all night.
 
Top