Parents messed up the whole situation

[jigga23]

Everything between me and my gf was going to be fixed because we had problems for about a week or so, things were on the edge, basically broke up. Everyone on here was saying its over she doesn't want you. Ha we'll she did want to work things out.

I DONT BLAME HER FOR FEELING LIKE HOW SHE DOES RIGHT NOW.

We were practically skating on water. She wanted her space I gave it to her mostly. She eventually came around and called me to fix everything. But before that call I was talking with my parents and said I was upset because of everything that was going on I sounded upset to them and asked them for advice. They said just drop her or whatever but I wasnt looking for that answer. Anyways when I got the message from my gf I was happy and was willing to fix things.

Then later on I got another message from her before I could call her back saying "leave people out of our situation I dont appreciate people calling me and saying blah blah blah (basically mean things)." I came to the conclusion my mom had called her and said all this messed up sh%t to her. (She got her number through my cell phone bill.) Like leave my son alone and stuff like that. She did it cause she thought I was getting hurt and stuff and my brother disapproves of her so he runs his mouth and adds fuel to the fire. Its understandable that she wants to protect me but not like that. Man, everything was about to be so cool between me and my gf, now this happens. I dont know how to handle this one too well. I of course called my mom and said in a nutshell to stay out of it and never call her.

Me and my gf had a talk about everything she was like "I was going to try to fix everything but I dont know now." We have been together for about 8 months and she is now thinking about the long run saying stuff like I want to maybe move forward still but your family values are weird I cant deal with that, I will never ever go to a family gathering, never talk to your mom. Basically I say dont worry about all that stuff right now. She has her guard up so much right now and is so pissed. Yea i have slept with her and boned but she is still raging and starting to show how mad she is and saying stupid sh*t to me cause she is really hurt right now. I have to be very careful right now. And my mom refuses to apologize to her. I know to keep my mouth shut from now on.

I think she is raging because she can't say anything to my mom cause she doesnt have her number and she was really disrespected. So I think she wants to take it out on me cause she really can't on her friends or anything. I am the affiliate.

I told her to chill and not to say sh%t to me if she is thinking that it will do justice and told her if she wants to get through this hard time and fix things then do it or dont do it. Well see what will happen. Anymore input let me know.
What else can I say to her to help with the situation? Cause she doesn't know what she should do right now.
My parents are coming to town in about 2 months should I try to have them meet? This whole situation is fvcked up.

 

[spider_007]

.......and haw old are you little boy?????

 

[xblitz44x]

Yeah I was wondering the same thing. How old are you?

If your mom is stepping in and calling your girlfriends, you are too young for women anyway.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

your mother loves you........no matter how old you get.

Your mother heard of the problems going on, and she thinking you are still an afc (are you by the way) she figured she would step in and help you out....hey, that love buddy, your mother actually said what the hell you SHOULD have said in the beginning to your girl.

And do not EVER let a girl talk down to your parents like that. Because when that btych leaves you, mom and dad will still be there.

Your girl shows a lot of low interest, and honestly, the only reason she CAME BACK to you was for show and because she has nobody else right now.

next the *****, she cant even respect your family. So what if your mother dawged her, she dawged you first and your mother was just taking up for you because she probably thought that you were too nice to take up for yourself. Got me kid.

 

[jigga23]

im 22 but my mom spoils the living sh*t out of me and it kind of sucks.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

jigga what I am saying is that her intent was not wrong, and that what she said to your so called girl, YOU should have said.

You can tell your mother that you will handle your woman problems, but honestly kid, your mother did what the hell you wasnt doing. Thats all.

And it aint nothing wrong with being spoiled. Have dreams and goals, and you will be able to spoil your kids too.....thats if, you dont give all your money to your current (clears throat)
GIRL-FRIEND .

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by jigga23
im 22 but my mom spoils the living sh*t out of me and it kind of sucks.

I LOVE MY MOTHER, MORE THEN ANYBODY IN THE WORLD, but if she called my girlfriend, I would bich slap her.

I leave her and my stepfather to sort things out, i expect the same curtasy in return.


And by the way, be a litle independent, don't be running to your moma always......

 

[jigga23]

what do I say to my GF or currently non GF cause I dont know? I already handled my parents situation.

 

[Spokes]

Jigga, let me help you out bro.

Tell this girl, "look, my mom is an independent woman who has the power to choose her own actions just as me and you do. Do I approve of what she did by calling you and trying to solve my problems? No. In fact, I already spoke to her and reprimanded her for intruding on my life like that. However, she is my mom, and I love her. I cannot side against her in life over a thing like this. I want to continue a relationship with you, but if you really can't handle my parents and more specifically my mom, and you don't think we can overcome an obstacle like this together, then I respect your decision; maybe this wasn't meant to be. Otherwise, I see a situation like this as a way to strengthen our bond and understanding of each other."

Approach your girl from this angle. This way, you lay all the facts on the table, cut to the heart of the matter, and decide if this girl is ultimately a waste of your time. Good luck.