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Master Don Juan
My father is a deputy in my county's sherrif's office. He described to me a type of accident that he frequently goes to. The driver feels himself losing control of the car as result of going around a corner too fast. Out of panic, the driver makes an aburpt move to regain control of the car. He jerks the steering wheel forcefully in the other direction and ends up in the ditch on the other side of the road. He visits the site of one of these accidents about twice a month.
Think of your seduction of a woman as a brand new Porsche 911 Turbo. The potential exists for excitement, fun and a great ride. However, this ride can end disapointingly if you allow the Porsche that is your seduction to get away from you. As men we like to believe that we can control outcomes in a way that this is to our advantage. The mature man realizes that there are certain things he is not able to control and attempts to control them may end badly for him.
If a man is attempting to seduce a woman and for whatever reason he feels the seduction slipping away from him, he may try to take remedial action out of panic to "fix" the situation to where he feels he is back in "control" of things like he feels he needs to be. In many cases, the actions he takes end up being AFC behaviors that may actually be mistakes that are fatal to his seduction rather than remedies to the preceieved problem.
For example, let's say that a woman says or does something that makes her interest level questionable in the eyes of her would be seducer. The guy feels like he's losing control of the situation (which may or may not be the case). He starts calling her all the time to see what she's doing or somehow look for some indication that his seduction is still on track. We all know this to be an AFC behavior that will turn the woman off because the guy seems too available/desparate/chumpish. If this guy had relaxed a little, maybe give her a few days to reflect on the time they spent together, maybe she would be glad to hear from him when he did finally call after giving it some time. Of course, there exists the possiblity that the guy's suspicion is correct. Not the end of the world. At least he did not resort to things that are known to put the seduction in serious danger.
So...When you feel your Porsche slipping away from you, stay calm. Only make clear-headed, deliberate moves and never act out of panic or worry. Ride it out. You may end up back up on top of things easier than you think. You may slide of the road anyway, but you won't be the first nor the last. Overcompensation is sure to leave your car in bad shape. If you do make such a mistake, learn from what happened. It will make you a better driver. Most importantly, don't let the loss of the car make you feel bad about yourself as a driver, there are plenty of cars waiting in the wings for you to drive them that will not be wrecked because they will be driven by a more seasoned and experienced DJ driver.
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Look out for number one and don't step in number two!
Think of your seduction of a woman as a brand new Porsche 911 Turbo. The potential exists for excitement, fun and a great ride. However, this ride can end disapointingly if you allow the Porsche that is your seduction to get away from you. As men we like to believe that we can control outcomes in a way that this is to our advantage. The mature man realizes that there are certain things he is not able to control and attempts to control them may end badly for him.
If a man is attempting to seduce a woman and for whatever reason he feels the seduction slipping away from him, he may try to take remedial action out of panic to "fix" the situation to where he feels he is back in "control" of things like he feels he needs to be. In many cases, the actions he takes end up being AFC behaviors that may actually be mistakes that are fatal to his seduction rather than remedies to the preceieved problem.
For example, let's say that a woman says or does something that makes her interest level questionable in the eyes of her would be seducer. The guy feels like he's losing control of the situation (which may or may not be the case). He starts calling her all the time to see what she's doing or somehow look for some indication that his seduction is still on track. We all know this to be an AFC behavior that will turn the woman off because the guy seems too available/desparate/chumpish. If this guy had relaxed a little, maybe give her a few days to reflect on the time they spent together, maybe she would be glad to hear from him when he did finally call after giving it some time. Of course, there exists the possiblity that the guy's suspicion is correct. Not the end of the world. At least he did not resort to things that are known to put the seduction in serious danger.
So...When you feel your Porsche slipping away from you, stay calm. Only make clear-headed, deliberate moves and never act out of panic or worry. Ride it out. You may end up back up on top of things easier than you think. You may slide of the road anyway, but you won't be the first nor the last. Overcompensation is sure to leave your car in bad shape. If you do make such a mistake, learn from what happened. It will make you a better driver. Most importantly, don't let the loss of the car make you feel bad about yourself as a driver, there are plenty of cars waiting in the wings for you to drive them that will not be wrecked because they will be driven by a more seasoned and experienced DJ driver.
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Look out for number one and don't step in number two!