p1ssed the fvck off. wanna call her out right now

[jay07]

maybe its because i had a few beers. or maybe its because i know i made a mistake. maybe both. i needed to vent.

made a huge rookie mistake tonight. Ex gf (you know, the reason i signed up for this forum after googling what was wrong with this chick, BPD) snapchats me that shes at the bar. and after a few exchanges i drive up. idk if i was curious or because ive been in a drought the past few weeks, but i go. dumb dumb.

get there and the bartender is hitting on her and her friend. I knew it was going to end w. me being angry but i stayed anyways. we have a few conversations about how things are going and after like 20 minutes of that we were sorta quiet. She even called me out on it. It was me her, our friend and her friends boss. She tells me about her "sweet" apple orchard trip, but throws in cues to let me know she went with a dude.

i then start playing on my phone to act busy, and the bartender and her just start talking, it was like she purposely had me go up to piss me off, because i had sex with some chick a couple weeks ago and she caught me.

So i buy one more round, for everybody since they all bought me one. chug it and hug her and our friend goodbye. As im walking out she says "dont be a stranger". HAAAAA. Touchee'.It never bothered me before when she came around, but tonight it did. And i know what she is, and i tell everybody else about these chicks, and for some reason although i know, i wanna fvc*ing text her something calling her a$$ out.

I know it gives her attention which is what she wants, but sitting here in my bed thinking about it doing nothing is aggravating the piss out of me. Shes a toxic bpd b1tch who holds a part of me that i always succumb to. I thought i was over it completely til tonight. Its been almost a year, and nope. to top it off, its been an hour and a half and not one text from her. Not one snapchat or call. Thats what aggravates me. If she did i could ignore it and feel better. But i cant cause i know i lost. And i know i lost because the first thing i did was check her facebook, which then led me here.

I've layed 8 different girls since december, 2 of them short relationships. Figured id be good.

I need to kill her ego boost somehow...

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Ya, this bish keeps playing snapchat games with me too. I kniw dat feel

 

[Jariel]

You're angry, but that anger should be directed at yourself. You're falling for her games, you're allowing yourself to be hurt and humiliated, and you're losing even more of her respect. Yes, she sounds like a b1tch, but you sound like her b1tch and that's all your doing and that's something you can change!

You can shout at her and call her out and throw tantrums until you collapse, but this just shows her how much you care and how much control she has over you.

Walk away, cut her from your life, delete her number, delete her from every social app and don't look back. Once you break that attachment, you can begin healing and can rediscover your power.

Trust me, 2 weeks ago I wanted to fvck up my ex girlfriend's life, but now...I'm spinning plates, getting numbers and moving on, and it feels great.

 

[betheman]

stop playing her games, you fell for it, you're angry with yourself, it will pass. observe the no contact rule

 

[NileWaters]

Waaah

 

[palisade]

Delete her.

Delete her number, delete her Facebook, delete her Snapchat whatever it is, delete everything that reminds you of her and allows her access to you. Whilst she has some pathway to you, she has an ego boost whenever and wherever she needs it. Chances are, as brutal as this is, she'll have gone home with the bartender and dragged you out to gauge his interest levels, using you as bait to lure him into her game.

Don't give her the attention she's after. Don't call her out on it, just leave it as it is. Walk away, live your life. Take everything you had and have with her, hang it up on the wall and close that door. The fact she dragged you out there just to use you as lure to score with a different guy is disrespectful in full, use that as motivation to drive your life on from her.

 

[Cremasta]

You're angry, she's happy.
You're losing, she's winning.

Stop playing her game. Go and find yourself another girl and forget about her.

More often than not, calling a girl out about anything is like showing your cards to everyone at the start of a poker game. You've lost almost before you begin.

Good luck!

 

[PlayHer Man]

You are angry at her because she has turned you into the female of the relationship. She is living her life and having fun while you huff and puff over every move she makes. Emotionally.. you are pedestalizing her --> Making her important when she is actually insignificant.

Why is she insignificant? BECAUSE you're not f*cking her and won't be in the future. Therefore, she is a non-entity as far as you're concerned.

Remember:

1. Always care LESS than the girl

2. Spin plates

3. Don't think about girls you're not f*cking.. wasted energy.

 

[dasein]

BPD ex or just garden variety ex, responding to attention crumbs where they can get you in their wheelhouse (attractive woman out at night with friends and male attention showered on her) is never a good idea and you realize this now. If for some reason you must have contact with exes due to whatever factors, owed money, shared finances, etc., let it be on your terms, during the day, no alcohol, and face to face alone and never in meat market environments. Anything you send her or say to her after...anything... is essentially decoded as "you win, I still think about you." Do you want to tell her that she has won? Consider other's advice to move on entirely and remove this person from your life for good.

 

[zinc4]

maybe its because i had a few beers. or maybe its because i know i made a mistake. maybe both. i needed to vent.

made a huge rookie mistake tonight. Ex gf (you know, the reason i signed up for this forum after googling what was wrong with this chick, BPD) snapchats me that shes at the bar. and after a few exchanges i drive up. idk if i was curious or because ive been in a drought the past few weeks, but i go. dumb dumb.

get there and the bartender is hitting on her and her friend. I knew it was going to end w. me being angry but i stayed anyways. we have a few conversations about how things are going and after like 20 minutes of that we were sorta quiet. She even called me out on it. It was me her, our friend and her friends boss. She tells me about her "sweet" apple orchard trip, but throws in cues to let me know she went with a dude.

i then start playing on my phone to act busy, and the bartender and her just start talking, it was like she purposely had me go up to piss me off, because i had sex with some chick a couple weeks ago and she caught me.

So i buy one more round, for everybody since they all bought me one. chug it and hug her and our friend goodbye. As im walking out she says "dont be a stranger". HAAAAA. Touchee'.It never bothered me before when she came around, but tonight it did. And i know what she is, and i tell everybody else about these chicks, and for some reason although i know, i wanna fvc*ing text her something calling her a$$ out.

I know it gives her attention which is what she wants, but sitting here in my bed thinking about it doing nothing is aggravating the piss out of me. Shes a toxic bpd b1tch who holds a part of me that i always succumb to. I thought i was over it completely til tonight. Its been almost a year, and nope. to top it off, its been an hour and a half and not one text from her. Not one snapchat or call. Thats what aggravates me. If she did i could ignore it and feel better. But i cant cause i know i lost. And i know i lost because the first thing i did was check her facebook, which then led me here.

I've layed 8 different girls since december, 2 of them short relationships. Figured id be good.

I need to kill her ego boost somehow...

I can literally feel your pain from here...this is why it's so important to never break NC....if she sends you messages just ruthlessly ignore them.....have no mercy on her because you can bet she won't have any on you....

but also it's a character issue and a personal challenge....each time you break NC you are losing in your quest for true manhood....this is more about your inner strength and personal goals than it is about her, or should be at least....

like one poster said, you are really angry at yourself and i would be too...forget about her mind and her ego thinking she has you under her control and just start from scratch again NC.....

there is nothing you can do at this point to "get the best of her or kill her ego boost" i know that feeling all to well...but she shouldn't even be that important for you to feel that way in the first place....would you feel the need to kill a kindergartner's ego boost? of course not..treat her the same...

And what's done is done....you lost the battle last night, but what's much more important than how she perceives you and things with the relationship is you doing this for YOURSELF not for her.....just wipe her out of your life 100 percent...block her number if you have to and if you see her in public just look the other way and pretend to be busy to effectively not communicate with her....it's all about cutting off communication 100 percent..

 

[VladPatton]

You NEVER re-contact exes, man. Do you chase down garbage you threw away last month at the city dump yard to see how it's doing?

 

[5string]

Just call in a drone strike on the b!tch. Problem solved.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Just call in a drone strike on the b!tch. Problem solved.

hahaha.

I got a second job to keep myself busy. Lonely nights at home will be your demise. Spinning plates is great, but once she walks out the door and you're back by your lonsesome self, your mind starts to wander.....

Start moving in a different direction, separate yourself. Get out....live man live!

 

[Petra]

Don't contact her. Your anger will only show her that you still care. If she contacts you and you answer her keep it short act like you're busy.

 

[nismo-4]

Your princess is in another castle. Go ghost on her cuz she's getting off on your attention, and she knows it.

Case closed.

 

[Greggie W]

Yep....ignore her. Don't answer calls, texts or anything...just ditch her completely.

It's the whole attention thing that she's feeding on...and she's driving you crazy on purpose. You ignore her...and watch the magic

Move on.

 

[gravityeyelids]

DO. NOT. TALK. TO. HER. IN. ANY. WAY.
DO. NOT. SNAPCHAT. HER.

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