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Master Don Juan
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- Jan 22, 2005
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I read a post today, which I wont link to because it's really a waste of your mind's time; but the gist of it was a now-manosphere blogger who had undergone an involuntary period of celibacy. Not a year, or two, or even five, but TWELVE YEARS. Seemed like his late teens and most of his twenties. It was a scathing, profanity-laden, angst-saturated diatribe of hatred. And rightfully so, I cant imagine that level of protracted emotional torture in modern hook-up culture. I had a similar level of angst in my teens before I got laid.
But what stood out to me was the lack of personal ownership for his celibacy. All of his rage was directed at women, PUAs, and frat boys (the parties actually getting laid). The post may have just been catharsis for him, but it got me thinking about how a lack of personal accountability for your failures is not only weak and anti-MAN, it's dangerous.
We are now in an era where hundreds if not thousands of betas, herbs, white knights, and social outcasts are coming into the fold of red pill knowledge and getting themselves laid. I think it's fantastic. Game (true game, not PUA parlor tricks), benefits everybody. Unfortunately, however, once guys are indoctrinated into realistic critical thinking regarding women, there is an initial period of rage, cynicism, and flat-out misogyny for the years of wasted life and beta banality. It's an understandable growth phase, but many men never leave this phase. Think the MGTOWs. They live in a perpetual state of quasi-rebellion based in large part on their past failures.
So let's call it what it is: a failure. For all the years you got tooled on, dumped, LJBF'ed, used, and ignored; there was a fundamental failure of your manhood and social intelligence. That doesn't mean that YOU yourself are a failure; the failure is multifactorial. Perhaps your father was a beta himself, or a terrible family leader. Perhaps you were slowly emasculated by a single mother. Perhaps you had a traumatic experience that stunted your growth socially and caused a ripple effect that extended for years. Regardless of the circumstances, there were a multitude of events, relationships, and personal fears that kept you from getting the satisfaction with women you wanted. And that's ok, that's why the manosphere exists, but OWN UP TO IT.
You used to be a b!tch.
You used to be a beta.
You used to be a herb.
You used to be an emotional tampon.
You used to be skinny.
You used to be shy.
Whatever it is you used to embody, that is all on you, my friend. Own up to it. No one cares but you. You cant go back in time and change it, you cant make the people pay who may have had partial responsibility. You cant make women pay as a whole for your failures. You must OWN it, as unpleasant as it may be, for that is what a Man does. He owns his mistakes and failures, and he learns from them. He adapts and overcomes, then looks at his conquests victoriously knowing that HE changed his own course and is wholly responsible for his own victories.
If you don't, you will hold on to this angst forever and carry it into your future relationships. Let go of your hatred and your rage against the female gender. They are what they are, and you can either get BETTER and start WINNING, or p!ss and moan and blame everyone else for your sad state of affairs. Don't be the guy who channels his rage into a sociopathic tragedy, or who never moves beyond the slights of others. Be the guy who USED to be a chump, but now is unrecognizable as his former self. A Phoenix. Reach down into your pants, feel your testicles and your c0ck, and start making decisions that will make you better. Every day. Dozens of them in accumulation, until one day you will realize what a boss you've become compared to your former self. You wont even be p!ssed off at other dudes who hate on your game, because your game WORKS. You are the one who is out there, meeting, dating, and laying the women you like, at your leisure. And you'll keep learning. The game never ends, amigos. Pass on your knowledge to other guys and stop the disease of AFCism. Instead of wailing away at what feminism has done to our culture, bemoaning how you got raped in your divorce or how your ex cheated on you, take ownership in your own life and development.
But what stood out to me was the lack of personal ownership for his celibacy. All of his rage was directed at women, PUAs, and frat boys (the parties actually getting laid). The post may have just been catharsis for him, but it got me thinking about how a lack of personal accountability for your failures is not only weak and anti-MAN, it's dangerous.
We are now in an era where hundreds if not thousands of betas, herbs, white knights, and social outcasts are coming into the fold of red pill knowledge and getting themselves laid. I think it's fantastic. Game (true game, not PUA parlor tricks), benefits everybody. Unfortunately, however, once guys are indoctrinated into realistic critical thinking regarding women, there is an initial period of rage, cynicism, and flat-out misogyny for the years of wasted life and beta banality. It's an understandable growth phase, but many men never leave this phase. Think the MGTOWs. They live in a perpetual state of quasi-rebellion based in large part on their past failures.
So let's call it what it is: a failure. For all the years you got tooled on, dumped, LJBF'ed, used, and ignored; there was a fundamental failure of your manhood and social intelligence. That doesn't mean that YOU yourself are a failure; the failure is multifactorial. Perhaps your father was a beta himself, or a terrible family leader. Perhaps you were slowly emasculated by a single mother. Perhaps you had a traumatic experience that stunted your growth socially and caused a ripple effect that extended for years. Regardless of the circumstances, there were a multitude of events, relationships, and personal fears that kept you from getting the satisfaction with women you wanted. And that's ok, that's why the manosphere exists, but OWN UP TO IT.
You used to be a b!tch.
You used to be a beta.
You used to be a herb.
You used to be an emotional tampon.
You used to be skinny.
You used to be shy.
Whatever it is you used to embody, that is all on you, my friend. Own up to it. No one cares but you. You cant go back in time and change it, you cant make the people pay who may have had partial responsibility. You cant make women pay as a whole for your failures. You must OWN it, as unpleasant as it may be, for that is what a Man does. He owns his mistakes and failures, and he learns from them. He adapts and overcomes, then looks at his conquests victoriously knowing that HE changed his own course and is wholly responsible for his own victories.
If you don't, you will hold on to this angst forever and carry it into your future relationships. Let go of your hatred and your rage against the female gender. They are what they are, and you can either get BETTER and start WINNING, or p!ss and moan and blame everyone else for your sad state of affairs. Don't be the guy who channels his rage into a sociopathic tragedy, or who never moves beyond the slights of others. Be the guy who USED to be a chump, but now is unrecognizable as his former self. A Phoenix. Reach down into your pants, feel your testicles and your c0ck, and start making decisions that will make you better. Every day. Dozens of them in accumulation, until one day you will realize what a boss you've become compared to your former self. You wont even be p!ssed off at other dudes who hate on your game, because your game WORKS. You are the one who is out there, meeting, dating, and laying the women you like, at your leisure. And you'll keep learning. The game never ends, amigos. Pass on your knowledge to other guys and stop the disease of AFCism. Instead of wailing away at what feminism has done to our culture, bemoaning how you got raped in your divorce or how your ex cheated on you, take ownership in your own life and development.
