Someone posted a good topic about fear and how it should be confronted. The reason we fear rejection is that we automatically overgeneralize, for instance I used to in particular.
Overgeneralization is part of a protective feature in our minds at times. For instance when you get stung by a wasp you learn to fear all wasps to avoid getting stung again. Unfortunately our mind does this for other things like rejection. Sometimes if you get rejected alot you start to fear it so bad that you avoid all dealings with women. But realize we all have picked up hot women and failed with not as hot women in our lives.
The truth of the matter is take responsibility for failures that are obviously your own, such as when you were drunk and obnoxiousness trying to score the girl. Also know where to place responsibility when it isn't your fault. For instance if you followed the true DJ tactics were witty, smiled and had a good conversation and the girl still didn't bite, then you know it is her problem not yours.
That's just how I look at it now. I wish I was that way a while ago.
Overgeneralization is part of a protective feature in our minds at times. For instance when you get stung by a wasp you learn to fear all wasps to avoid getting stung again. Unfortunately our mind does this for other things like rejection. Sometimes if you get rejected alot you start to fear it so bad that you avoid all dealings with women. But realize we all have picked up hot women and failed with not as hot women in our lives.
The truth of the matter is take responsibility for failures that are obviously your own, such as when you were drunk and obnoxiousness trying to score the girl. Also know where to place responsibility when it isn't your fault. For instance if you followed the true DJ tactics were witty, smiled and had a good conversation and the girl still didn't bite, then you know it is her problem not yours.
That's just how I look at it now. I wish I was that way a while ago.