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Master Don Juan
I get the feeling alot of people on this board have been 'damaged' by at least one or more girls. Your self-esteem took a big hit, and only takes a couple before it is virtually nothing, and because of it, your insecurities are greater and putting the blame on yourself becomes commonplace.
I can speak from experience, have had three long term relationships with AWs, only to be cheated on in the end. Each relationship started out totally wrong (no dating, just right on into the relationship sexually).
It destroyed my self-esteem, and made me doubt myself. What i have learned from this?
1) The girls i had LTRs with were ALL very insecure with themselves. This was by all means the common denominator.
2) ALL had a some history of serious emotional problems stemming from abuse and neglect in some form or another.
3) ALL loved attention from guys and would often say it was just fun to flirt when confronted about it
Serious emotional issues = major insecurity = the need for attention (and sex to feel wanted if the insecurities are great enough).
Through some self introspection i've learn that i was attracted to these types of girls because of my own lack of self-esteem. I didn't think i could do better, and putting up with the drama was something i had already been well accustomed to.
Since, i have improved myself in all facets of my life by continuing to achieve my goals. The insecurities are still there. I am more cautious then ever not to get involved with an emotionally disturbed girl. Now that i know what to look for, it takes some time before getting to know someone and if they are really like this or not. I feel it is a necessary step as i am looking for an LTR.
Because i am highly logical thinker, i often found myself analyzing anything and everything and more often then not using my insecurities as the governing protocol to explain why things were happend the way they did.
Lately, i decided to just start ignoring these insecurities and just do what i need to in terms of achieving my goals. In other words, only focusing on the goal and what it will take to achieve it. If my goal with respect to women is an LTR with a great girl, then i know i have to step up to the plate and get to know her and not play games. It is true, her actions will tell you how she really feels about you.
I can speak from experience, have had three long term relationships with AWs, only to be cheated on in the end. Each relationship started out totally wrong (no dating, just right on into the relationship sexually).
It destroyed my self-esteem, and made me doubt myself. What i have learned from this?
1) The girls i had LTRs with were ALL very insecure with themselves. This was by all means the common denominator.
2) ALL had a some history of serious emotional problems stemming from abuse and neglect in some form or another.
3) ALL loved attention from guys and would often say it was just fun to flirt when confronted about it
Serious emotional issues = major insecurity = the need for attention (and sex to feel wanted if the insecurities are great enough).
Through some self introspection i've learn that i was attracted to these types of girls because of my own lack of self-esteem. I didn't think i could do better, and putting up with the drama was something i had already been well accustomed to.
Since, i have improved myself in all facets of my life by continuing to achieve my goals. The insecurities are still there. I am more cautious then ever not to get involved with an emotionally disturbed girl. Now that i know what to look for, it takes some time before getting to know someone and if they are really like this or not. I feel it is a necessary step as i am looking for an LTR.
Because i am highly logical thinker, i often found myself analyzing anything and everything and more often then not using my insecurities as the governing protocol to explain why things were happend the way they did.
Lately, i decided to just start ignoring these insecurities and just do what i need to in terms of achieving my goals. In other words, only focusing on the goal and what it will take to achieve it. If my goal with respect to women is an LTR with a great girl, then i know i have to step up to the plate and get to know her and not play games. It is true, her actions will tell you how she really feels about you.