Indeed I am an AFC and a victim of oneitis. I am in a bad place for sure. What I have is a desire to rid myself of the oneitis and make the best of what should be a good situation. I live on-campus at a fairly large university and I should be pursuing all of the many possibilities that are out there. How can I get over the oneitis and get myself on track? What should my next step be?
Overcoming AFC Oneitis
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Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Talk to more women. Talk to ALL women, whether you are interested in them or not. Have the mindset of "I'm going to talk to her just because she is a woman!"
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
best advice I ever read on this forum, and it's so, so true.
I had oneitis for this one girl to the point to where it was sad, but once I accecpted the fact that we would never be together and started talking to other women, I litearly wouldn't sleep with her if I had the opproutnity.
I had oneitis for this one girl to the point to where it was sad, but once I accecpted the fact that we would never be together and started talking to other women, I litearly wouldn't sleep with her if I had the opproutnity.
the_great_gaia
Senior Don Juan
the ultimate solution to your problem
okay you had one-itis.
i had a terrible case of one-itis in the past; and the make matters worse.. I wore my heart on my sleeve, y'know.. easily able to fall for any chic that has any remote interest in me.
But I overcame this, and this is how:
You have one-itis probably because you're searching for a closure or something serious with a certain girl. You're afraid of rejection too. Not even the BEST DJ gets the job done every time, because getting over with the girl isn't the point. It's how you are. Self-control plays a very important role to you now.
Look, any girl below the age of 28 has a tendency to cheat on you because they have raging hormones like we do. They way we look at T&A, is the exact same way they look at masculinity in other guy. Females are rebels, basically.
They want what they DON'T think they want, and they DON'T want what they think they want.. that's why they change their minds all the time. They'll tell you ANYTHING to manipulate you and to convince themselves. Truth is... they all want to be naughty.
You wanting a relationship with a girl is perfectly normal (which you one-itis exists), but you'd be a fool to take it serious. They don't care about your feelings, their goal is to step on your heart and THEN walk all over it. They want to tell anyone, especially their friends how "sprung" you are over them, your emotions for them gives them ultimate satisfaction, because they know its there.
They're gonna use it against you to get what they want because they know you'll give it to them. You can't say no, you can't stand up to them, because if you even try it.. they'll threaten you with an ultimatum to leave if you don't let them get their way; that they can find someone who will do it that's better than you.
Oh, they're gonna leave you anyway, but your one-itis mind won't let you see that for yourself. You'll be under the cover with goosebumps and misery, wondering "WHY? WHY? WHY?" Then you're gonna blame yourself thinking that you couldn't been better; that you could've did what she said, perhaps even with a smile. She doesn't call you or be a friend like she tells you she will. She only calls you when she needs something, like to use your car or some $hit. While you're thinking about her, she's off somewhere f*cking some other guy she met over the weekend at the club or something...
What are you doing? Thining about her... you even attempt to call her, hoping that you'll get to hear her say "hello..", which you'll hang up, but she knows its you. You feel worse and worse, and you feel like $hit. All up until you get over her.
Want a short-cut? Stop giving a f*ck right now!! DON'T WAIT. I know what I'm talking about, this has happened to me, many, many times. You have to be mean and cruel to women. They aren't better than you, you're what they need! be confident, believe that you're the BEST DAMN THING in the world. CHANGE!!
I hope this can help aid your deadly virus... because if this doesn't affect you, the above will happen. Trust me! And YESS! I'm crazy, but I'm wiser. Thanks.
okay you had one-itis.
i had a terrible case of one-itis in the past; and the make matters worse.. I wore my heart on my sleeve, y'know.. easily able to fall for any chic that has any remote interest in me.
But I overcame this, and this is how:
You have one-itis probably because you're searching for a closure or something serious with a certain girl. You're afraid of rejection too. Not even the BEST DJ gets the job done every time, because getting over with the girl isn't the point. It's how you are. Self-control plays a very important role to you now.
Look, any girl below the age of 28 has a tendency to cheat on you because they have raging hormones like we do. They way we look at T&A, is the exact same way they look at masculinity in other guy. Females are rebels, basically.
They want what they DON'T think they want, and they DON'T want what they think they want.. that's why they change their minds all the time. They'll tell you ANYTHING to manipulate you and to convince themselves. Truth is... they all want to be naughty.
You wanting a relationship with a girl is perfectly normal (which you one-itis exists), but you'd be a fool to take it serious. They don't care about your feelings, their goal is to step on your heart and THEN walk all over it. They want to tell anyone, especially their friends how "sprung" you are over them, your emotions for them gives them ultimate satisfaction, because they know its there.
They're gonna use it against you to get what they want because they know you'll give it to them. You can't say no, you can't stand up to them, because if you even try it.. they'll threaten you with an ultimatum to leave if you don't let them get their way; that they can find someone who will do it that's better than you.
Oh, they're gonna leave you anyway, but your one-itis mind won't let you see that for yourself. You'll be under the cover with goosebumps and misery, wondering "WHY? WHY? WHY?" Then you're gonna blame yourself thinking that you couldn't been better; that you could've did what she said, perhaps even with a smile. She doesn't call you or be a friend like she tells you she will. She only calls you when she needs something, like to use your car or some $hit. While you're thinking about her, she's off somewhere f*cking some other guy she met over the weekend at the club or something...
What are you doing? Thining about her... you even attempt to call her, hoping that you'll get to hear her say "hello..", which you'll hang up, but she knows its you. You feel worse and worse, and you feel like $hit. All up until you get over her.
Want a short-cut? Stop giving a f*ck right now!! DON'T WAIT. I know what I'm talking about, this has happened to me, many, many times. You have to be mean and cruel to women. They aren't better than you, you're what they need! be confident, believe that you're the BEST DAMN THING in the world. CHANGE!!
I hope this can help aid your deadly virus... because if this doesn't affect you, the above will happen. Trust me! And YESS! I'm crazy, but I'm wiser. Thanks.
the_great_gaia
Senior Don Juan
one last thing...
you can't start at the top, because you'll have a LOOONG fall ahead of you. Try from the bottom and work your way up.
Also, find exactly what you want from a female. You looking for a relationship? Think... What's the point of being in a relationship? To fukc puzzy until you get tired of it.... and that is all. Have numerous chics, not just one. NEVER just one!! NEVER!! And don't see life as "it all about getting girls.." it's not about getting girls, it's about improving yourself.
you can't start at the top, because you'll have a LOOONG fall ahead of you. Try from the bottom and work your way up.
Also, find exactly what you want from a female. You looking for a relationship? Think... What's the point of being in a relationship? To fukc puzzy until you get tired of it.... and that is all. Have numerous chics, not just one. NEVER just one!! NEVER!! And don't see life as "it all about getting girls.." it's not about getting girls, it's about improving yourself.
Scrumtulescence
Master Don Juan
the_great_gaia is a hurt, hurt man. 
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
thats pretty intense..I was reading thinking well ive had one-itis..then you went offfff the way deep end. Is that what happened to you or is that what it really is?
calling so she can hear you say hello then hang up?
my god!
calling so she can hear you say hello then hang up?
my god!
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
There is no ONE. There are good Ones and there are bad Ones, but there is no ONE. Ask any married person if they'd remarry if their spouse died after 5 years, 99.9% of them would. Behavior and statistics bear this out. There is no ONE.
Oneitis is the worst.
I met this HB a while ago.... had all the right signs.. from her... but i was too stupid to act on it... just tried building rapport. saw her about 4 times.. each time thinking.. i was making progress.. i will get the digits next time..well this was a vicious cycle over our few encounters. Then one day i thought... FU*k IT.. i gonna get the digits tonight.. and hook this up... Well.... guess what... i havent seen her again.. its been like 6 weeks.
The thing is.. i have been active getting numbers.. going on some dates etc... but i still cant get this HB out of my mind.
Not Good
I met this HB a while ago.... had all the right signs.. from her... but i was too stupid to act on it... just tried building rapport. saw her about 4 times.. each time thinking.. i was making progress.. i will get the digits next time..well this was a vicious cycle over our few encounters. Then one day i thought... FU*k IT.. i gonna get the digits tonight.. and hook this up... Well.... guess what... i havent seen her again.. its been like 6 weeks.
The thing is.. i have been active getting numbers.. going on some dates etc... but i still cant get this HB out of my mind.
Not Good
TheNonPedant
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Simply put:
Ian 19.
realize this...everyone...since the beginning of time have been sexin it....lots of sex goin on.
and every man has had their problems and issues with women.
Know that every one of those men ended up having sex later on....all of them....unless they die early.t
So realize that you will be fallin in love, out of love, sexin it....at some point in time.....
that point is reached through time, trial and error, pain, ....so
Do what you want to do
seriously.....give her flowers if you want....be the mega AFC.
Then have her dump your ass....you will feel pain...a lot of it....for a long time.
time will heal it....you will learn from it.....and in time...life is good. REAL GOOOD
Tha'ts my idea of life....guess it wasn't that simple
Hope all that made sense
Ian 19.
realize this...everyone...since the beginning of time have been sexin it....lots of sex goin on.
and every man has had their problems and issues with women.
Know that every one of those men ended up having sex later on....all of them....unless they die early.t
So realize that you will be fallin in love, out of love, sexin it....at some point in time.....
that point is reached through time, trial and error, pain, ....so
Do what you want to do
seriously.....give her flowers if you want....be the mega AFC.
Then have her dump your ass....you will feel pain...a lot of it....for a long time.
time will heal it....you will learn from it.....and in time...life is good. REAL GOOOD
Tha'ts my idea of life....guess it wasn't that simple
Hope all that made sense