Overcome Approach Anxiety

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What is your worst fear? How do you over come your approach anxiety? Please show me the way and your experience with it :(
 

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I think I'm gonna make a journal about it
Experience = 0 My opener is situational but mostly: Hi, can I make you smile?
Goal = Long conversation. I don't use lines because they're a waste of time. What else do you need to point out?
 

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Long conversations are a waste of time if your goal is to close on girls and will only serve to work against you. The interaction should be natural yet short and sweet.
 

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Approaching girls on the street is generally a waste of time nowadays unless you drive a Bentley and shes for sale. Other than that, in a social setting, whether you get introduced through friends, or you notice the cute girls on the table next to yours are checking you out, you go up to her, extend your hand and say "Hi Im XXXX". And thats it. Dont use bull**** lines it works only in movies. I think everyone has heard girls making fun of and insulting some dude that hit them with a stupid line. And all of them are fukin retarded. The lines, not the girls. From then on you must notice if she likes you, because ultimately women choose not us, and maybe she does, but you hit a bad timing - she has an important issue or some work and is not open for a flirt. You can tell by the eyes. I cant teach you how to flirt its not something you can explain well and everyone has a different style. Ill try.

Ofc start with general questions about work, education, etc. And compliments, a good compliment is an art - if you notice she has big earrings compliment her on that, or that necklace, or the nails - ofc what you really like is her boobs or how feminine and sweet her neck looks but compliment the jewelry or the dress or whateva because women spend countless hours in trying to look their best. Notice the little birthmark on her leg and touch her there while you pointing it out. Touch everything that you complimented, but not rudely. And talk. Talk, talk, talk, women love with their ears. Also most tend to ****test - to the heaviest ****testers I reply more rudely but with a smile on my face - esp if shes younger its easy to be condescending. I also use self irony, but its an instinct with me, its what my mother told me ages ago - before you start joking with other people you must joke with yourself first. I dont even notice those things anymore, I had even forgotten the word ****test. It becomes an instinct.

What I can tell you is you need to be confident. Which means you are handsome, smart and good and your junk is huge and you are good in bed and no mothefuker can convince you otherwise. When I was a kid girls used to like me the same as now - the difference is now I know it When I think about all the ***** I missed at highschool for example I feel ashamed. But dont get too ****y thinking you are god. Us men tend to do that - in reality there are some problems which you cannot solve, some situations that will leave you helpless, some games which you will lose. Women know that, they dont expect gods, its us who have a problem with that. Try to tell girls stories in which you were basically losing, or made a fool of yourself, or something else embarrassing, or that you fear spiders or whateva but ofc laugh it off. It has great effect.
 

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Initiating and holding eyes contact is a big problem to me. Luckily, I don't look at people eyes when I talk to them. The anxiety level is very real. I don't think it comes from the mind like everybody says it is. I am doing successful approaches instead of hitting up random chicks.
 

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How I overcame fear/anxiety...my friend who was the PUA stuff challenged me to games:

20$ per girls I don't talk to that he points at......

Oh did I say he picked up my intro line?

It usually was: "tell me the worst way you would reject a man"

Boy did I get rejected... but I saved 20$ and talking / escalating is easy.

Also, remember: Will you feel better doing it and be rejected.... or regret never talking to her
 

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I had a friend that was so shy so scared of being embarrassed by rejection. I/we used that technique to where he was to go to a bar or club and walk up to women and get rejected as many times in the night as possible. After a while he thought it was just funny.... the sting diminished.... Later he did so much better as he learned game
 

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I talked to the barber today. I guess its a sign of progression but I made her feel better. At least, I tried to be smooth but I wasn't all that afraid. Next step = approaching girls
 

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Initiating and holding eyes contact is a big problem to me. Luckily, I don't look at people eyes when I talk to them. The anxiety level is very real. I don't think it comes from the mind like everybody says it is. I am doing successful approaches instead of hitting up random chicks.
How does it not come from the mind? It's your feeling, it is inside you. Anxiety is a form of fear, what is it about women you fear?

The usual reason is fear of rejection. Even if that's the cause for anxiety it's hardly a rational fear, because there's mostly no danger of any real harm in being rejected. It's just them expressing no interest and that's the end of it. If you knew you would be punched hard in the face or stabbed with a knife if you got rejected then it would certainly be reasonable to have anxiety. But nothing happens, they say no and life continues.

I once had approach anxiety myself, but there was no way I could really defend or rationalize it. There was no real argument to support my fear, women aren't dangerous or deadly to just approach. My mind was fooled by my irrational feelings and it played tricks on me, until I looked critically at it.
 

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Hi, can I make you smile?
this is not "situational", and if this is what you are saying in light of no situation... it's bad.

you:
"Hi, can I make you smile?"

her:
no
what?
I doubt it
ummm... *turns away
 

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I made an approach today. It was a guy but I asked for a cigarette and he gave me one. My goal is to do that with chicks. I am not confident enough to open a set
 

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best lines are reactionary, observational or sarcastic, best a combination of them.

"open a set"... are you fvckin serious?
 

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I always go situational sarcastic. What ever someone's doing or if they look interesting I just walk up and crack a joke and start conversation.

I'm not even looking for numbers. I had a 5 min discussion with a older gal about kayaks at a sports store. Another gal I sarcastically commented on the nice buns she was buying. It's whatever. I play it like Lloyd Christmas from "dumb and dumber".
 
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