over investing in relationships

[mugatts]

I know in dating that things should be balanced and one should not go above and beyond for someone who does not reciprocate. In the beginning everyone is on their best behaviour and when things get serious one party may becomes distant. I think what I've learned is we should always leave room for disappointment, and being vulnerable comes with risks. But again I feel if you meet someone who is emotionally available they should not be scared of your vulnerability or intimacy. Your thoughts.

 

[Poon King]

The way to avoid this stuff is to think like a man instead of a woman.

A man thinks about power, sex, achievement and success. A man doesn't make relationships with women priority #1. Men who make women priority #1 ALWAYS lose. Not sometimes, but always. Every time. Because it makes a man weak.

Women need men more than men need woman. So act like it. Desperate betas chase chick-flick ideals like morons.. while in many cases the woman is using the man in some way and doesn't give a sh!t about him.

The sudden disappearance of interest from a woman is proof of its illusion. Women con men on the daily with fake affection and other attention wh0ring. Then she will lose interest and disappear once her priorities change.

Ask yourself what is your rush to get so "close" to these women? It should be the women who are in a rush to get lose. Not you. You're a man. You should be happy in situations where you can pork a woman without deep commitment. They need you more than you need them. Act like it.

 

[mugatts]

There is no rush to get close. That happens naturally when two people are spending more time together, getting intimate etc. The question is whether its a good investment based on the behaviour and vibe you get when you're together. I would also not want to be a woman who needs me as you suggest. My life is busy and hectic already so having a needy person would be an added stress. But it all depends on what you're looking for. If you just want to get laid nothing serious then you have the right mindset.