our double standard

[BootsOfEscaping]

Hey fella's, I have a little story for ya'll.

I got dumped by my ex of 6 years about 4 months ago. We used to have a very passionate and loving relationship, things were good, blah blah. Then we had financial troubles, etc etc, she cheated, we stayed together, I turned AFC, blah blah.

Short story- it got bad.

Anyway, during our relationship we had several threesome's with other girls. She never got jeolous because she knew I wouldn't leave her for the other girl. Needless to say, I was liking life getting threesomes now and then. Ok, so here we are after our 4 months of being broken up and my ex still calls me and says she loves me. We still talk but its uncomfortable and pointless in my opinion. I will be honest, I still have a sexual attraction to her. She is great in bed. I wouldn't trust her if you paid me but she is a great lay.

Well, I found out from someone that she has a new boyfriend since right after we broke up. Then I find out she plans to have a threesome with some other couple from her work! So, I am thinking she is basically just a ho-bag right? I told her as much and she at first just lied and said she didn't have a bf etc but after awhile she admitted the whole thing. She said, "whats the differance between us having a threesome and me doing one with other people?" To which I thought
"well if you do it with me its ok but with other people your a *****". I never had all that much respect for the "other girl" we had threesomes with. It was usually a girl my ex knew and not really close friends or anything.

Meanwhile the ex still wants to have sex with me. I moved to another state after the breakup so I dont physically see her anymore. Why am I still talking to this girl I wonder?! Would you even think it worth it just for sex? Might be more trouble than its worth. Anyway...

So is it a double standard we have? If your girl lets you have a threesome do you think she is a ho? Probably not, you'd like it. However, if she broke up with you and did one what would you think? See what I am gettin' at?

I am torn with the madonna ***** complex. We all want an innocent sexy girl who is a freak in the bedroom yet only with us. Do girls like this exist?? It seems to me because of my sexual appetites I have chosen girls who are morally not what I would like but sexually what I like. I wonder why my gf's cheat on me?! DUH!!!

Anyway, just some food for thought for those guys rarin' for threesomes. I have done some pretty amazing stuff sexually and sometimes its not all its cracked up to be in the long run.

Thoughts? Opinions? Tips on losing the emotional attraction to an ex?

 

[Qualtran]

Why am I still talking to this girl I wonder?!

Yeah, I was wondering the same thing...

Would you even think it worth it just for sex? Might be more trouble than its worth.

Get a new girl, there is too much history for it to just be about the sex. If you start having sex with her again, you are just going to make everyting harder on yourself and moving on will take longer and be much more difficult. It IS more trouble than its worth, way more!


Now the double standard thing is a bit more difficult to answer, but there are definitely girls who are hot in bed and loyal at the same time. When it comes to a girl willing to have threesomes with you and another girl, its my instinct that such a willingness to be expiremental lends itself to such girls not being as loyal, but I could be wrong, and I unfortunately can't claim personal experience!

Your best bet is to move on from your ex, and play the field until you find a girl who is hot in bed and not a hor!

 

[BootsOfEscaping]

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Good advice, advice I myself have had in the back of my mind for some time. I am really trying to focus on things in life besides sex, after all- screwing won't really get us anywhere. Its a whole lot of fun but more or less unimportant in the long run.

Sometimes I wish I had anti-viagra, I feel I would be more productive. ha.

 

[--R/J--]

The only time something like this bothered me was when I found out my girlfriend had a threesome when she was 14. Yea. I don't mind sexually active girls at all, pretty much to any extent, but when I find out how early they started, (Or the number of partners they've had, I wish they wouldn't tell me that) that **** scares me. To make this post a bit more ironic, we just split less than an hour ago! I was a little upset at first, but hell, after seeing this board again, I'm not down at all anymore.

 

[Lost In Translation]

girl in threesome = HO

don't care who she is. she is a HO.


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by BootsOfEscaping
We all want an innocent sexy girl who is a freak in the bedroom yet only with us. Do girls like this exist??

Ya I totaly understand the feeling. I felt that way lot of times. I think that is just jaleousy, and posesiveness. It's perfctly natrual feelings. Unfortionetly, at this age, it is unreasnable to expect that, condidering the sexual liberation of man and woman. MAKE YOUR PIECE, I HAD TO

 

[JohnJones]

Guys like girls who do threesomes (or any other kinky thing as far as your standards are concerned).

Girls like guys who kiss azz, bring flowers, get dopey and chumpy over them -- in fact, that's what they all claim to want generally.

Guys have no problem dumping (using, not dating, treating poorly) girls who are SO submissive or skanky or sexually permissive as to do these things. Because while she will do these things, he doesn't respect her because she peddles her submissiveness out too much.

Girls have no problem dumping (or LJBF, or "see other people, or cheating) on the AFC they claim to want. Because while he will do these things, she just doesn't find him formidable, she doesn't think he's a big deal ('cause he caved emotionally to her).

It's not a double standard -- the sexes just have different categories of standards. Each side has human capital that makes them attractive -- it's up to them whether they pimp it out too much.

 

[Muppet]

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Originally posted by BootsOfEscaping
Good advice, advice I myself have had in the back of my mind for some time. I am really trying to focus on things in life besides sex, after all- screwing won't really get us anywhere. Its a whole lot of fun but more or less unimportant in the long run.

Sometimes I wish I had anti-viagra, I feel I would be more productive. ha.

Haha join the club, wish I could flip off the hormon switch, would make things a ton easyer.

 

[djbr]

Haha, this is a fvcking classic.

"Great in bed, threesome all the time. Broken up: NEW BF THE DAY AFTER!"

Ohh dude... I feel for ya. But I must say: KEEP THAT MEMORY OUTTA YOUR HEAD.

Other girl. NOW!

And let us all beware of the girls we choose for a fvcking LTR!!

No man wants to be exclusive with a goddamn HO!

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Originally posted by JohnJones
Guys like girls who do threesomes (or any other kinky thing as far as your standards are concerned).

Girls like guys who kiss azz, bring flowers, get dopey and chumpy over them -- in fact, that's what they all claim to want generally.

Guys have no problem dumping (using, not dating, treating poorly) girls who are SO submissive or skanky or sexually permissive as to do these things. Because while she will do these things, he doesn't respect her because she peddles her submissiveness out too much.

Girls have no problem dumping (or LJBF, or "see other people, or cheating) on the AFC they claim to want. Because while he will do these things, she just doesn't find him formidable, she doesn't think he's a big deal ('cause he caved emotionally to her).

It's not a double standard -- the sexes just have different categories of standards. Each side has human capital that makes them attractive -- it's up to them whether they pimp it out too much.

This is probably one of the most insightful replies ive read in a LONG time. Wayt o go.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

"There's nothing wrong with a sllut, so long as she's my sllut."

Let me explain the term double-standard to you. There are just as many double-standards for guys as there are for women. All you have to do half the time is simply revers the genders in any situation. The problem is that women have claimed ownership of the 'double-standard' term over the years and men have gladly confirmed this for them as well in an effort to better identify with them in order to get at her intimacy.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Women have merely played the victimhood card and done it very well. Same with queers and dykes. Scream loud enough and people will believe anything.