oneitis - for a man this means that he`s tied his self-worth to the approval of a woman`s view of him.
oneitis - for a woman this means that she`s fallen in love and is totally smitten with a man.
For the man, oneitis is to be avoided always, even though he may be in a marriage that has already endured for decades. Although he may love and care deeply for his wife, his marriage should not incapacitate him if it does not endure. The marriage should be a part of his life and not his life. A man`s self-worth should always be defined by him and no one else.
For the woman, this is something to be avoided in the very beginning of a connection with a man, because falling quickly into love usually means falling quickly out of love. The fire of lust and passion will swiftly exhaust itself but love endures and brings discipline to lust and passion, thereby giving it longevity. Women define themselves by the relationships that they have.
Just my 2 cents.
Cheers,
Mav