Original approaches while clubbing

[Engetsu]

Usually, when I go clubbing, I end up playing lottery. I approach as many chicks as I can, and if I hit the jackpot, good for me.

Tonight however was a disaster. I got in the place at about 1 am (it was our 2nd choice because we had a problem with the bouncer at the original club we were supposed to go to) and started approaching anything that was female, and edible.

However, since it was a foam night, the club was basically an orgy... and we arrived a little too late, because from what I saw, all the girls who actually DO dance were taken, and were having their nipples checked up by some future physicians, and the hot ones left did not want anything to do with a single guy all night...

Indeed, out of my 50+ approaches, I got only 4 dances, 2 of which were ****ty and that I let go, and 2 others that had CB's drag them away...

This brings me to the following: I am not an amazing dancer, but I know how to stay on beat, and I don't do any awkward movements. Still, I'm not the best in the place.

Post your original ways to approach a girl in a club here.

I'll start with one of my "techniques" if you want to call it that... I usually come up to the girl on the side while trying to establish EC, put a hand on the waist, and ask her if she dances. It's pretty easy for them to say no politely, but for the ones who have a bit¢h reaction, I stick around, face them, and pretend to wipe a tear from my eye. Then I just give them a huge grin, turn around and leave.

 

[Engetsu]

61 views and 2 days later, and still not a single reply?

You guys can reply to a "how can I escalate to a kiss" thread, but not to something like this? You've gotta be kidding me...

 

[quest]

i'm king of picking up in clubs..
except i more often then not i can't remember what i did, and more often then not, i wouldn't touch them if i wasn't so drunk.

but from the pick ups i can remember.

DON'T DO IT ON THE DANCE FLOOR!

thats the first mistake guys make when moving into the club scene.

whenever there is a post on how easy it is to pick up at a club, someone will always mention "some girls just want to dance" these girls are on the dance floor! SOME girls on the dance floor will want to pick up. MANY will just want to dance.

however, make your way to the bar, and the space between the bar and the dancefloor, and you've got girls who are drinking and chatting, maybe they are chatting to guys, maybe they are chatting to girls, maybe they are chatting to their boyfriends. thats all good and expected.

the point is, they are drinking (relaxed) and chatting. they are not having a bunch of sleazy guys trying to cop feels on them.
they'll be open to chatting to new people, and drinking with new people. create just a little bit of rapport and mention how u love the song that just started and take them to dance, if thats your thing.
its not mine.
i just chat, until i feel that the girl is ready to kiss me. and i lean in and do it. after that, number closing is as easy as sticking ur phone infront of them.

 

[ketostix]

Quest, this is just what I needed to read. I don't dance and I work the area between the bar and dance floor. This is where I'm comfortable. I'm still working on my club pick up, but I just treat it like any other cold approach. It's good to hear that this method worked for you.

 

[quest]

Originally posted by ketostix
Quest, this is just what I needed to read. I don't dance and I work the area between the bar and dance floor. This is where I'm comfortable. I'm still working on my club pick up, but I just treat it like any other cold approach. It's good to hear that this method worked for you.

stick with it bro..
i've been HEAVILY in the club scene.. talking twice a week minimum for the last 3 and a half years.. (minus 8 months when i had a girlfriend which ended last december) since december, when i broke up with the girlfriend, there would be very few nights out when i didn't atleast kiss close a girl. but i really need to work on getting hotter girls..
mine would tend to range from lowly 8's to 6ers.. been in the gym for 3 weeks straight and killing protein, seen a small improvement in my body. i'm thinking that with a better body i'll go 9's to lowly 8's ignoring the 6's and 7's..

i've naturally always had good game. i'm smart and witty. i used to have MAJOR confidence problems in my looks as can be seen if u search my early posts here. but in reality, i'm actually "good looking" if there is "good looking" and "ugly" guys, i'm good looking. but there is guys ALOT better looking. but f*ck'em they aint hitting on the *****es anywhere i go out..

 

[ketostix]

I forgot to mention that a lot of times I club alone, as I don't have a good and reliable wingman at this time. (I assume you go with a group.) This is a mixed bag because it hurts your social proof and you have no moral support, but it beats a bad wing. It just takes more work in social proofing yourself at the club.

I can almost always come up with an opener but I tend to ask a lot of informational questions about my target and have problems coming up with stuff to keep the conversation going, and sometimes they'll eject within seconds. I've even been opened by the girls on several ocassions and they ejected quickly (in these cases I usally used C&F, so I'm biased agianst it).


I asume you just use a natural approach but I was wondering if you use C&F, charm or just general fluff talk. If you wanted to go into any detail with what type of approach you use that would be good. And do you usually number close?

 

[Engetsu]

Originally posted by quest
i just chat, until i feel that the girl is ready to kiss me. and i lean in and do it. after that, number closing is as easy as sticking ur phone infront of them.

Could you give us an example of an opener that you use? And what is the general vibe in your whole conversation?

 

[quest]

Originally posted by quest
i'm king of picking up in clubs..
except i more often then not i can't remember what i did, and more often then not, i wouldn't touch them if i wasn't so drunk.

ok, you must remember that i posted that bit in my first post.. does the stuff i do work on 9's? i don't know. i haven't really tried. i'm content with going for a 6-7 and trying to get a quick lay, where as if i go for a 9 i feel asthough i need different game; i probably don't, but i'm yet to test it, and i really need to.

the club which i normally go to, i have too much social proof. its the local. i've been going there on and off for about 3 years. alot of people from my high school go there.
so i know a hell of alot of people there. the girls which i know all love me, always hugging me, occasionally buying me drinks. always open to dance with me.

but i don't think this matters to much because i can still pick up when i'm at clubs where all i know is the 1 or 2 guys i go with.

as an example of an opener... hell, i don't know..
anything from whats going on? to you don't mind if i sit here?

one i can remember working well was with a 25 year old girl who was buying 2 beers. and i made a comment about it, i can't exactly remember what it was, but ahhh.. "thats alot of beer for 1 girl" something like that.. that worked well. choked when i told her i was 21 though..

ok now with talking to girls.. it is tough to get a flow going on.. but can i be deadset serious.. you may not like it, but try it out. some of the best conversations i've had lately have been about dioreah..
after bringing it up, 1 girl was in hysterics saying how she's never spoken about it with a guy but talks about it heaps with her girl friends. the other girls have just been laughing and smiling..
if u want to steer a conversation that way, i'll even let u steal a story which is true to me, and u may have to adapt parts of it for yourself.

story:
So I went to the opening of a new club not so long ago, and for the first hour they had a range of drinks for free. I did what most people would do, and drank the most expensive drink over and over until they stopped being free. The drink was vodka cruisers, and i was drinking the blue one cause thats my favourite.
cut to the next morning and i woke up, went to the toilet, and did my business. it was green! i was looking at it and i was like... WHAT THE ****!? so i cleaned myself up and asked mum if i was going to die? i was so scared. i'd never done green pooh before.
anyway, later that night i was talking to one of my friends girlfriends, and i was still so scared, i thought, if i do another green one tomorrow, i'm going straight to the doctors. but i was talking to the girlfriend, and she told me that it happens to her if she drinks too many blue drinks, it must be the dye in it! safe to say, the next day my pooh was normal, and i didn't die.

what i've found with that story is they'll laugh and say, OMG YOU TOLD YOUR MUM!? then an even bigger OMG! YOU TOLD YOUR FRIENDS GIRLFRIED! also, they'll probably have had the same experience or know someone who has because its not uncommon for a girl to have spent the night drinking blue drinks, whereas i'd only ever drank beer.
the story isn't going to turn them on, but they will see you as fun, a good story teller, able to command attention and an open person.

but my game changes each time.. some times i'm boring and can't get a good conversation going - i think its more about what the girl gives you to work with.

ketostix. i find it VERY easy to number close. BUT in saying that, i'll only number close a girl i've had fun with. if i haven't had fun with the girl, i won't want to number close.

 

[I-am-someone]

Dancing in clubs will most definitely get girls. If you're a good dancer (and I honestly believe everybody can be one just by practicing at home) you can dance your ass off and women will flock towards you. The key to dancing well is basically in the amount of power that you put into it. As you have probably heard, dancing demonstrates the way you have sex. If you stand around wiggling like a little worm, girls aren't going to notice you and won't like you for the way you dance. If you stand there like a big mountain of rock, making strong, thrusting motions and basically put a lot of power into every move, you will attract a lot of female attention and a lot of male respect. Make sure your posture is right too. Head up high, use the muscles in your shoulders, and just stand up straight.

As for openers... Good question... just start talking to them, introduce yourself 'n stuff... There's a range of things you can say, you shouldn't memorize them. Just make it natural.

 

[DeathDealer]

Go to gay dance clubs. they'll teach you how to approach.

LAME POST.

 

[Don_Joffe]

You can use the standard Hi approach or you can use many others, Ill let you in on 1 approach for time constraints...

Look at her and then look around her...
HER: "What you looking for?"
YOU: "I lost A SMILE, care to help me find one?"
HER: giggles probably.

NOW..INTRODUCE YOURSELF.

 

[quest]

Originally posted by Don_Joffe
You can use the standard Hi approach or you can use many others, Ill let you in on 1 approach for time constraints...

Look at her and then look around her...
HER: "What you looking for?"
YOU: "I lost A SMILE, care to help me find one?"
HER: giggles probably.

NOW..INTRODUCE YOURSELF.

dude.. no..
using something humorous, that is clearly pre planned doesn't make u look funny or charming or anything..
it makes u look stupid.

 

[Luveno]

Best thing to do is field test. A great place to hone convo skills is in a line up. You have a captive audience and if you're good she may even buy your drink for you (REMINDER: Never buy a girl you just met a drink)

 

[frivolousz21]

I love the bar/club...we have a few awesome ones here in STL..I prefere not to dance...until after I get close and talk to her..

 

[PRMoon]

You said this was a night of disaster where nothing was going right. Usually when I don't get into a club because of the bouncer (Grrr only scotty would do that to me!!) I'm usually a little down about my second choice. If I arrive i a club at one it's definately still happening and there are girls ripe for the plucking. But If there weren't by that time of night I would change my strategy. Usually 1 is still kind of early at a bar or something so I'd head there. But if none of the fish are biting or already caught I see no real reason to stick around. Some times I'll tough it out with my room mate or one other friend but usually we'll just end up going home.

Sometimes we get lucky but for when the rare times roll around that we're not in the zone in a club we'll skip out. Why stay there when there are plenty of other girls out side? Why work in a dry room when you can go lay bait somewhere else?

 

[duke007]

Originally posted by quest
story:
So I went to the opening of a new club not so long ago, and for the first hour they had a range of drinks for free. I did what most people would do, and drank the most expensive drink over and over until they stopped being free. The drink was vodka cruisers, and i was drinking the blue one cause thats my favourite.
cut to the next morning and i woke up, went to the toilet, and did my business. it was green! i was looking at it and i was like... WHAT THE ****!? so i cleaned myself up and asked mum if i was going to die? i was so scared. i'd never done green pooh before.
anyway, later that night i was talking to one of my friends girlfriends, and i was still so scared, i thought, if i do another green one tomorrow, i'm going straight to the doctors. but i was talking to the girlfriend, and she told me that it happens to her if she drinks too many blue drinks, it must be the dye in it! safe to say, the next day my pooh was normal, and i didn't die.

Nice one quest!

Girls are nastier than many people give them credit for. I was talking to my female cousin last week and got her laughing the hardest I've ever seen her after talking about toilet humour. I mentioned some guy in a public toilet who had a lot of pressure buildup and then about my mate who works at Donut King who accidentally farted in the direction of the fresh donuts.

They always laugh at fart jokes in the cinema too.

 

[quest]

Originally posted by duke007
Nice one quest!

Girls are nastier than many people give them credit for. I was talking to my female cousin last week and got her laughing the hardest I've ever seen her after talking about toilet humour. I mentioned some guy in a public toilet who had a lot of pressure buildup and then about my mate who works at Donut King who accidentally farted in the direction of the fresh donuts.

They always laugh at fart jokes in the cinema too.

its like the first time you go to the beach, u stick one toe in, then ur ankle... i think i'm up to about my waist with toilet humor with girls. i'm expecting to get dumped by a wave sooner or later, but i know theres alot more fun to be had if i persist.

 

[napoleon]

Here are some of my tips:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=71056

 

[Engetsu]

Nice story quest! I'll be sure to try some nasty stuff out since you say it bites...

And the "lost a smile" bit got me laughing, I'll try that one out too. If it doesn't work, too bad.

Thx for the good advice guys Good thing the forum isn't full of trolls like DeathDealer.

 

[duke007]

Quest, I liked your story so much I decided to field test it. Hope you don't mind me borrowing it!

Since posting I have spoken to some different female cousins and the topic somehow got on to toilet humour. Then a few days ago my conservative 50yo mum was laughing uncontrollably about fart jokes.

On a "sort-of" date last night the topic once again turned nasty after I told her a toilet roll had scribble next to it saying, "Arts degree's, take one" (She did Arts). So she starts talking about female toilets and needing to use some funnel at a rock festival to pee into!

I tell her I have a theory about women - that although girls might act clean cut and sensible, they find toilet humour funnier than most guys. She laughs and says, "Yes, when my girlfriends and I have group conversations the topic inevitably turns to poo or farts"

Hahah I couldn't believe it!

So I told her the green poo story and had her in stitches. Especially the part where I told my mum.

Now that the mood is lightened she tells me about the time she pissed her pants in grade 5 (about 10-11yo!). It only happened because she was laughing hysterically with a mouth full of water. I grin cheekily and tell her to take a big gulp of her beer.

Girl: "haha oh I couldn't do it now"
Me: "Oh hell no! I don't want you to!"
Girl: ""
Me: "If you did I'd run away!"
Girl: "hehehe "
Me: "I'd run up to the bar and say, 'that weird girl in the corner needs some fresh panties,' and then head for the door!"
Girl: *in stitches*

I then accused her of leading the conversation into toilets and changed the subject. This technique is so money! Like quest said it wont turn her on but will make her feel comfortable around you.

And this could just be a wild theory but I believe any girl who is willing to talk about poo and pee and dirty stuff would have a sexually open-mind also.