Orbiter/"guy friends"=never willing to commit

[Soolaimon]

A one minute conversation on the definition of exclusivity when she makes the request for exclusivity is hardly "trying to control every interaction".

And when she loses interest and attraction she will forget about this one minute conversation when she is fvcking another man.

Your boundary is there as a security blanket to ease your worried mind of her wanting other men. You need to hear her verbally "agree to your terms" so you can feel secure.

It is pointless cause she might not follow what she agreed to before when she decides now to break "your terms".

Woman: Ok Danger I agree to your terms.

A few weeks later she hangs out with an old flame for lunch without you knowing.

What good was your boundary? It was useless.

She just broke it and you think she's following it. LOL

Solly,

We are all boundaries, including you mr "stop smoking in my car".

No we are not.

You set exclusivity boundaries out of fear of your woman cheating on you. I don't.

I'm doing what I want in my relationship cause I can.

Taking action for a woman trying to smoke in my car is not the same as you trying to get your woman to stop seeing other men to fit your expectations on how she should behave.

But of course I am not trying to changer her behavior as I have previously stated that if she has male friends she is already eliminated. Your campaign of disinformation and strawmen is inteelectually dishonest and you know it.

Here we go again with the lies. Funny how you outed yourself on this one. LOL

Of course you are trying to change her behavior cause you believe that women do not know what is acceptable in an exclusive relationship.

You believe that women do not know exclusive means until you "define it" for them.

So if they don't know (according to you) you are telling them what it means to change them to have the correct mind set. That is changing her.

You also believe you need to "train" women in order for them to behave in your relationship.

So when you are "training" them to follow "your terms" you are changing them from how they would normally behave.

You also claim that women won't cut other men out on their own. So the women won't be eliminated cause they will still have those men until you prod them to get rid of the men when you define your terms to her at her request. You are lying!

Nothing strawman about that. That is what you believe and have posted many times.

You claim strawman cause your crappy boundary argument has run out of gas a long time ago.

You say women don't know any better. So when they don't know they are still going to have men right? That's the whole point of your boundary to inform her that you don't tolerate her with other men.

So the women are not eliminated as you just claimed since you claim no woman knows what "exclusive is" until you "define it" for her at her request of exclusivity.

You are a liar!

I do not find 50's housewives icky at all, but I DO find the current modern concept of marriage corrupted. You however already know that, you just have a hard-on for me and your cutesie little disinformation campaign.

Obviously you do find 50's housewives icky cause you refuse to marry your de facto housewife when she requests it of you. You tell her "No".

Who cares how corrupted the concept is when you claim your woman is so great along with your boundary system. The divorce court would never be in play.

The point is that you make a big deal about boundaries and how they filter out the sluts and have the woman with the same values as you.

When you have the chance to put your boundaries to the ultimate test of marriage you fear a divorce court for some odd reason.

Again, if your woman is so great and your boundaries filtered her like you say then why would you fear a divorce court that is never going to happen?

Just trying to point out the hypocrisy that you and others are posting here.

Your boundarires aren't what you make them out to be when you still fear a divorce when you shouldn't.

You still fear the woman cheating on you with your boundaries.

That is insecurity at it's finest!

 

[guru1000]

How does one type 1000 words countering arguments never made? Sooli, you are no longer the SoSuave mascot. I will do the honors of renaming you ...

StrawSooli
:crackup:

 

[BrainDamage92]

Well I think its best if you enjoy the girl while its all cool, and then when you see her hanging with her ex or whatever, break it off. Problem is, when you have this kinda attitude girls get too in love with you too quick and "Mama always told me be carefull what you do, dont go around breaking young girls hearts..." as Jackson put it.

Boundaries come from the fact that people want a LTR, I wouldnt want one in the current state Im in, but then again, I know that if I wanted this,

and she asks to be exclusive Id be very clear about the fact we must agree on not fvucking other people, couse that is disguisting from a hygenic point of view, esp if the sex is unprotected. Like some other dude banging her, then I go down on her like wtf, how can they even do this, if a bang a chick on the side, Id wash my junk, but when she gets ****ed does she wash the inside of her vagina? See I think women realise this more painfully than us, and some of us dont think about it at all, so when they **** around it troubles them, they feel dirty. This is one of the reasons male and female cheating are much different. I know when Ive cheated, my **** became twice as hard after that for my number 1, and I realised how much more I enjoy her than some random ho. There is no feeling like having sex with a girl, then when your number 1 comes back later and you fvuck her too, you realise why are you with her and how her ***** feels like heaven. Its like you think, man, I wasted so much energy on this ho, now I wont **** my girl right. Nope. QUite the opposite. And females like when they know their men is not a secure deal, unlike us. The ideal scenario is having one with a pvssy that feels like heaven as # 1 and have one with a magic throat as a # 2. But you gotta be big to pull it off.

Knowing female nature, I know damn well that no boundary can control the constant need for attention shower if she has low self esteem. And most modern girls have such a low self esteem - I mean look at the magasines, all those perfect bodies, so girls get complexes from that, then they get complexes from the fact people expect them to deal with their work worse than a male, when I know for a fact woman's feel for detail cant be matched by a male, but who tells them this, then theres problematic childhood thingy and much more... Women got equality in most of the world, but now they miss the way things were, because its true, a woman needs to feel submissive, but is this sustainable in the world we live in? I wouldnt put my money on it. The fact is, you need to take note of every bit of disrespect, amd you feel like its bothering you, break it off. I know Im good enough to be with any woman, why be so needy?

Anyway, if shes her personality is trash, even if you tell her what to do and how to behave and she enjoys being submissive, in the long run the trashiness will show.

So IDk, spin plates if you ask me. Go serious only if you want kids.