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EpsilonArmati

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Dear gentlemen,

This is not about how to get a girl. This is about how to be a man.

So I was cooking about a week ago in a neighboring dorm, which had a nicer kitchen than mine, and a girl comes down. We had a nice thing going, and she remarked that she wants to figure me out, but I joked to her that it would cost her bread, which was she was baking and why she was down there in the first place.

Well, won't you know it, the day after that at midnight, I hear a knock at my door, with the baker at my doorstep! She gives me not one, but two loaves! And I didn't even tell her where I lived!

So the next day, I go and write a note that read

"Dear Beth,

Analyze Appalachian music with me at the cafe, 8 pm on Wednesday.

Yours,
Josh"

I didn't get a response, either in person, by phone, or by campus mail, so I assumed that she was not interested. But after discussing the matter with some of my friends, it turns out that I most likely have stood her up! On the first date! Now I'm not the social butterfly, so I wouldn't know how she might have interepreted that note, but now it would seem that she might have gone there and found that she was the only one there.

She's a nice catch, so I don't feel like letting her slip off. My roommate recommended that I go apologize to her, but I want to hear some more input before I go. My plan is to go and tell her that she should drop by my room and I'll "make it up" to her, but I have no concrete ideas yet. What do you think?
 

EpsilonArmati

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DISCLAIMER

"Appalachian music classes will perform at Sage Cafe on Wednesday, Dec. 10 at 7 p.m."

Only thing that was available all week; we're in the middle of nowhere, Appalachia, so don't blame me for the limited music choices around here you ingrates.
 

jakethasnake

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Originally posted by EpsilonArmati
Dear gentlemen,

This is not about how to get a girl. This is about how to be a man.

So I was cooking about a week ago in a neighboring dorm, which had a nicer kitchen than mine, and a girl comes down. We had a nice thing going, and she remarked that she wants to figure me out, but I joked to her that it would cost her bread, which was she was baking and why she was down there in the first place.

Well, won't you know it, the day after that at midnight, I hear a knock at my door, with the baker at my doorstep! She gives me not one, but two loaves! And I didn't even tell her where I lived!

So the next day, I go and write a note that read

"Dear Beth,

Analyze Appalachian music with me at the cafe, 8 pm on Wednesday.

Yours,
Josh"

I didn't get a response, either in person, by phone, or by campus mail, so I assumed that she was not interested. But after discussing the matter with some of my friends, it turns out that I most likely have stood her up! On the first date! Now I'm not the social butterfly, so I wouldn't know how she might have interepreted that note, but now it would seem that she might have gone there and found that she was the only one there.

She's a nice catch, so I don't feel like letting her slip off. My roommate recommended that I go apologize to her, but I want to hear some more input before I go. My plan is to go and tell her that she should drop by my room and I'll "make it up" to her, but I have no concrete ideas yet. What do you think?
Epsilon, LOL! You're quite a study in weird tastes. :D But I like the elusive poetry in your calculated moves. Women sometimes appreciate subtletly - they appreciate some poetry in their lives. Poetry is beauty.

If I were you I would turn up at her door with some music records and some good wine and two glasses. Then let what may happen happen.
 

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Originally posted by EpsilonArmati
She's a nice catch, so I don't feel like letting her slip off. My roommate recommended that I go apologize to her, but I want to hear some more input before I go. My plan is to go and tell her that she should drop by my room and I'll "make it up" to her, but I have no concrete ideas yet. What do you think?
So did you or did you not stand her up? Why apologize if you don't even know?

You played things well up until you left her the note. Believe it or not, that was a bit RAFC. It would have been better if you had said the same thing to her face to face. Consider this, she took the time and effort to find you and make a face to face delivery, and you just left her a note. I'm not saying leaving the note was a deal breaker but it is something to recognize.

Going forward, find a way to bump into her and have her join you to do something right then and there. During the outing she will bring up whether or not she was stood up. If she doesn't bring it up, no harm, no foul. If she does, just tell her that you thought she wasn't interested since you hadn't heard anything from her and that you made other plans.
 

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Ingrate?

You sound like you have a bit of a short fuse, and a high horse, yet you obviously have no clue with the ladies, perhaps you'd do better with dudes....


I knew a kid in college like you...He would leave notes and bake cookies and organize dinners and do wine tasting....He had all the girlfriends in the world....And never got laid...
 
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