Oprah.com: Ten guys women should run from

[Munson]

http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/02/25/O.bad.men/index.html

Hmm...if the article was titled "Ten women guys should run from" that would be considered sexist. What a load of BS. Only in America.

 

[Bonhomme]

So true, Munson. But that's just a basic list of poor character traits. As if the article is going to have any effect on what people do...

 

[KontrollerX]

The article also ignores that we often don't see the patterns we get into and repeat in our lives.

Many women who are fans of Oprah and read the article may be involved with such a man but totally not see it for themselves.

Also yeah Munson is correct.

The list is sexist but would've been alright if Oprah also made a list of women for men to avoid.

 

[L B]

So which one is the DJ? "The Two-Timer?"

 

[Bible_Belt]

Mental note taken about the soup. I found some Victoria's Secret chick underwear in my laundry as I was doing it today. That is why I do my own laundry, even when a girl offers.

 

[Andromax]

So which one is the DJ? "The Two-Timer?"

Nah a DJ wouldn't pretend to be sick. And she would know he prefered mushrooms in his soup.


I cant believe I actually read that article.

The funny thing is, articles like those are just ammo for women who can't get dates, as a way of cloaking being undesirable.

 

[squirrels]

This is good advice for women, believe it or not. This chumpish behavior of blaming women for making the game hard and then whining about it is not what it means to be "Don Juan".

Don't wish the world was easier on you. Become a better man. If you're any of these men, you're a clown and need to shape your life up.

Womanizing is not "two-timing" if you're honest. I've never "two-timed" a woman because I've never gotten into a relationship with a woman I didn't want to be exclusive with. Some of them THOUGHT they were in relationships with me, despite my constant blunt statements to the contrary.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I like this article better.

10 Types of Women you should avoid

 

[mrRuckus]

For the first time since you've been dating, he's too sick to make a date

This is supposed to be amazing? Just how often are you supposed to get sick? I've been dating you a month or two.. yeah it did take me that long to get sick. How often do YOU get sick?!

WTF i can't make my own goddamn soup?! If there's no woman around when I'm sick I just starve? Anyone else notice that subtext?

Mr. Jealousy
At first, he'll get a little short with a waiter who flirts with you

Why the hell shouldn't I? You come into my territory and flirt with my woman in front of me and you're supposed to get off scott free? I'm not jealous; i'm just defending mine. I remember one time my ex was annoyed that this guy was touching her hip at the bar and i never said anything. She looked down on me for it. But I didn't even notice. If i had and said something, then i'm labeled crazy jealous. Great, so either way, I lose. Again.

The Narcissist
He doesn't like your dog? Do we even need to talk about this one? Put it at the top of the category that includes he won't make eye contact with your kid, he doesn't want to meet your sister, and he whines the first time you make plans with your girlfriend.

1. your dog sucks and is usually poorly trained.
2. the guy isn't an idiot. why should he like your kid? hell, why should he see you at all since you have one? you failed. And no, i don't want to meet your mom or sister. Girls always want to trot me around to meet everybody. I just met you a few weeks ago! I'm not some display object, and you don't need their approval of me. My job? Yes I love talking about my damn job to every person in your entire life one at a time. I don't talk about it enough when I'm at it.

The Virtual Lover
What a relief it is when a man doesn't try to force you into bed on the first date. How charmed you are when, on the third date, he says he wants to wait until "you both can't stand it anymore."

A surprising number of great romancers out there never get around to having sex. To the date-weary woman, this can seem like not the worst combination, but beware. Eventually he will blame his problems on the smell of your breath or the size of your thighs.

"The timing of sex is exclusively determined by the woman."

 

[Mr. Me]

I noticed how insidiously they portray men, and I don't mean via the examples they provide in that article. I mean how they sneak in biased views of men as if factual, such as stating:

"Just because men are having a hard time adjusting to the idea that women are capable breadwinners..."

They do? We don't love that our woman is making tons of money? Sure, we're competitive with earnings, but do we really have a "hard time adjusting"? Any normal guy would rather she be financially capable than not. They're not twisting in the wind about it.

"What a relief it is when a man doesn't try to force you into bed on the first date."

"Force"? Really? Men are normally 'forcing' women into bed on the first date? Most dates are rape dates? Most men are rapists? Is that really so?

Then I also see how they put a spin on some of these accounts:

"A man threatened by the love you have for the dog you sleep with is going to be threatened by more things than you can name."

"Threatened"? How about instead, a guy who is annoyed or uncomfortable that there's this big lump of a smelly dog pinning down his legs while he's trying to sleep with you?

"When he uses any expression like "your little project," count that as two [flags]".

So watch out fellas! Don't say anything cute or kid around! She'll been told to view it as a sign that you harbor deep resentment toward women, because according to them, the well adjusted male will be happy to 'bask in your glow'. You know, like, be docile.

"Conclude that this man has another source of soup and will continue to cheat on you"

... with his can of Campbell's Mushroom Soup. The card! How dare he taste another soup behind my back!!!

That's right ladies, let's Jump To Conclusions over the soup his mom may have brought over!

"I have found: Carpenters, river guides, and flamenco guitarists all fall into the category of men who are perfectly willing to hand themselves over to the care of a good woman, as well as visual artists, stage performers, and racers (ski, bike, boat) of all kinds."

I think the author has had a few bad experiences, no? Now she's faulting by profession. I guess that saves time.

"A surprising number of great romancers out there never get around to having sex... but beware. Eventually he will blame his problems on the smell of your breath or the size of your thighs."

"The size of your thighs". You can tell Oprah's behind this one, eh?

But excuse me ladies, if your breath stinks or your thighs are like tree logs, and it turns guys off, why not do something proactive about it instead of blaming the guy for his lack of attraction? "His problem" is that you're not sexy. That's why they invented Viagra.

All in all, it's more of "blame the man" stuff, like the story of the woman who flies in to meet a guy who then never shows. The advice given is to not hook up with a guy that doesn't show (what kind of helpful advice is that?) rather than: "Ladies! Do NOT fall in love with emails and phone calls! Meet the guy in real life, a.s.a.p! And DO NOT get into long distance relationships, they're mostly impractical! If it requires an airplane to meet him, it's TOO FAR!"

Articles like these have some helpful stuff, but in it is even more stuff to continue keeping women as hapless victims by shifting the blame to men and painting men as generally bad people. That's how Oprah keeps an audience, because if she really helped women, those little birds would eventually leave the nest and wouldn't suckle from her anymore.

 

[mrRuckus]

That's how Oprah keeps an audience, because if she really helped women, those little birds would eventually leave the nest and wouldn't suckle from her anymore.

*Doctors, psychologists, and drug companies nod in approval of such tactics*

 

[Mr. Me]

^^^ to the chagrin of Dentists everywhere...

Oh f@ck! Did I write "those little birds"? Oh, darn... I'm showing my deep resentment harboring on narcissism bordering on emotional disorder, with a pinch of misogyny and a trace of anger.

 

[Latinoman]

http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/02/25/O.bad.men/index.html

Hmm...if the article was titled "Ten women guys should run from" that would be considered sexist. What a load of BS. Only in America.

Pam Houston (the writer) is "adorable": http://wwwenglish.ucdavis.edu/faculty/Houston/default.html

 

[lookyoung]

Pam Houston (the writer) is "adorable": http://wwwenglish.ucdavis.edu/faculty/Houston/default.html

Its obvious we have different tastes in woman but to me she is just an HB4-HB5 with no sex appeal. To be honest I don't even think I could fvck her if I was drunk. But then again maybe its just a bad picture of her. Some woman are not photogenic.

 

[Mr. Me]

I don't think Latinoman meant that he thought she was adorable.

BTW, those titles of her writings, they all seem to suggest her failure with men. It's amazing how that can be heralded as success or as inspiration.

 

[Latinoman]

Its obvious we have different tastes in woman but to me she is just an HB4-HB5 with no sex appeal. To be honest I don't even think I could fvck her if I was drunk. But then again maybe its just a bad picture of her. Some woman are not photogenic.

"adorable" = sarcasm.

She looks like a dyke.

 

[lookyoung]

"adorable" = sarcasm.

She looks like a dyke.

lol.. Ok I was thinking to myself you have to have better taste than that.

 

[frivolousz21]

women guys should run from:

fat women

ugly women

depressed women

druggie women

bpd women

crazy women

broke women

stupid women

had sex with 50 guys women

have all guy friends women

I sit and watch sitcoms everynight women

I tan at the gym instead of working out to hide my extra 40 lbs women



well that eliminates 98 percent of single women.


good luck fellas.

 

[Poonani Maker]

women guys should run from:
bpd women

This one especially will ruin your life. I've never understood bpds, I guess damned from the start in life.

 

[Mr. Me]

So what if she has some annoying habits, everybody does. And if they don't, they are probably the most boring people you have ever met.

There are habits you can live with, and some you can't. If someone's habits annoy you, then long term with them, they're really going to annoy you. And, guess what? Your annoying habits will eventually irritate the hell out of your lover too. What she first thought was so cute about you, becomes the exact thing she later detests about you.

Annoying habits aren't what makes a person interesting.