Opperation: SoS(Summer of Solitude)

[SharinganUser]

I live in Cottage country, I work for my parents at their cottage resort, so aside from one or two weddings that I will be attending, I won't have much opportunity to meet women. I won't have any ample opportunity to meet women until I start traveling overseas again next winter. I am prone to depression and I've had a few episodes since I've got home. My parents don't understand that having an almost non-existent social life is NOT healthy. I dare not talk to them about my lack of a sex life.

They've tried to talk to me about dating and stuff, and my mom has semi-subtly suggested that I stop approaching ONS's. Sorry, but when the whole relationship thing doesn't pan out because in the past I had no skills, and in the present I have no time(I am constantly moving). It's like they expect me to be a monk for half the year and then wonder why I am single all of the year.

I've considered going on several dating sites and inviting women up to visit me. But that seems like a bad idea for various reasons. And since I have no car or insurance or much money or any inclination to drive 2.5 hours to get shot down or the time to spend; I'll have just watch porn and take a rare opportunity when it comes a long.

In the mean time, however, I plan to:
1)Work more for my parents (my work ethic needs to be improved).
2) Learn a foreign language (I already know a tiny bit of mandarin and Japanese)
3) Learn a few songs on my guitar(I took a few lessons before, but I didn't get the theory and stuff so this time I'll just focus on learning a few songs.)
4) Get in shape for my high school friend's wedding. (Haven't seen my high school buddies in a few years, so I gotta impress.)

Recap: 1) Work to make/save money, 2) Learn Mandarin and Japanese, 3) Learn to play a song on my guitar, 4)Get in shape.


I'll be keeping you all posted on how many hours I put in, how many chapters in my language books I got through, time I spent on my guitar, and my workout routine.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

You are starting a journal that has nothing to do with seduction or women. Oooookay. Why post it on a seduction/female-the-goal-based website? I am curious.

Also, as for your journal, I say just read Walden and call it a day

 

[iqqi]

How old are you?

 

[SharinganUser]

This site isn't JUST about women. It's about improving yourself as a human being. There are many, many, many threads/journals on here that chronicle people's attempts at things that on the surface have little to do with dating. Ask yourself this, who is more attractive to women, a guy who strives to make improvements wether he is getting laid or not, or a guy who waits around and needs women to push him to be successful.

This site is about improving your life, dating should be the reward, not the goal.

btw, I don't know what Walden is.

 

[SharinganUser]

How old are you?

I am 24. Why is that important?

 

[Microphone Fiend]

This site isn't JUST about women. It's about improving yourself as a human being. There are many, many, many threads/journals on here that chronicle people's attempts at things that on the surface have little to do with dating. Ask yourself this, who is more attractive to women, a guy who strives to make improvements wether he is getting laid or not, or a guy who waits around and needs women to push him to be successful.

This site is about improving your life, dating should be the reward, not the goal.

btw, I don't know what Walden is.

The site IS about women imo. The site says that women like real men and THEN everyone goes 'Oh okay well if Im a real man, I'll be more successful with women' and then women as a topic take a temporary backseat when people discuss what being a man entails, but at the end, being a real man just seems like a means to get more girls to many. I wonder if people are often guilty of taking the long route to get women because the quickest way seems the most confrontational. That is why people resort to getting an entire education in order to get rich in order to get women instead of just constantly sarging in order to get good and get women.

As for Walden

Walden (first published as Walden; or, Life in the Woods) is a book by Henry David Thoreau; one of the best-known non-fiction books written by an American. Published in 1854, it details Thoreau's sojourn in a cabin near Walden Pond, He isolated himself from society in order to gain a more objective understanding of it. Simplicity and self-reliance were Thoreau's other goals, and the whole project was inspired by Transcendentalist philosophy.

Back to your post though... if dating is the reward, why not try and 'reward' yourself now instead of putting it off for more years. While you may see it as delayed gratification, I see it as procrastination. Now is the time to act. By resigning yourself to your circumstances and not actively trying to pursue women when you really want them, you are not in control of your life imo. You can try and delude yourself and immerse yourself into your hobbies but I don't think it is helping. It seems like the 'reaction formation' defense mechanism to me...

 

[iqqi]

I am 24. Why is that important?

Context.

If you were 17, then I wouldn't feel too bad for you.

But at 24, you are at an important stage in your life, and I think it is important, even imperative, that you make a change. Working at your parent's cottages, in mostly solitude, is not a good choice for you, I'd say.

I think you need to jump ship. Make a severe and ballsy change.

 

[Effington]

I'm trying to imagine the reactions you'll get to meeting women online, and they ask you what you want to do, and you say, "How 'bout you drive 2.5 <hours> through the wilderness to my cabin?"

Thanks iqqi, I was thinking one thing and wrote another.

 

[iqqi]

^^^ He said 2.5 hours, not miles. Miles is nothing.

 

[Make-A-Way]

This site isn't JUST about women. It's about improving yourself as a human being. There are many, many, many threads/journals on here that chronicle people's attempts at things that on the surface have little to do with dating. Ask yourself this, who is more attractive to women, a guy who strives to make improvements wether he is getting laid or not, or a guy who waits around and needs women to push him to be successful.

This site is about improving your life, dating should be the reward, not the goal.

btw, I don't know what Walden is.

I don't know about you but I'm trying to get laid

The reason I first came to this site was to get laid

Improving your life is great....but the ladies still won't come to you

In my opinion, you just need to keep approaching more women..soon you'll have to skills and the confidence to approach those oversea women

And you 24? You better start playing the field now so you can get a good head start

 

[HalfAddict]

I believe, if you're stuck there... You're making the best of what you have man.

You may as well use the spare time for yourself.
Besides when you get away you'll be in better shape, have some disposable income, Hopefully know some foreign languages.

I see nothing wrong with his plan if he has no real choice in the matter.

There HAS to be some tail at a resort... Locals?
Guests?
Someone somewhere lol

 

[SharinganUser]

Finally, someone who gets it.

 

[iqqi]

DUde, you are 24. You are not STUCK anywhere. You have the choice to do something else with your life than be stuck at your parent's cabins. Straight UP.

 

[decades]

work on your celibacy. don't jack it over the summer and you will have to beat women off with a stick in the fall. It's not the end of the world. Besides the universe may just provide for you in unexpected ways. use the time to work on your celibacy and you will have a very productive, enjoyable summer. I GA-RUN-TEE it.

 

[redspicyflag]

Hey good luck my brotha!

Don't take the nay sayers personally

and live your life the way you want to!

It's better than sitting around whining about it