thegoodone
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Hello, I was given this site by a friend who suggested I post my problem here and see what you guys had to say. So here goes...
I met someone recently and we connected very strongly. We talked on the phone almost instantly, and met in person about a week later. The date went very well. We started hanging out a lot and had fantastic sex. We were both majorly infatuated with eachother. We met eachothers families over the holidays, and spent a lot of time with eachothers friends. He would end his telephone conversations telling me that he loved me. For over a month we were pretty much inseperable, then something happened (which I won't get into unless it is needed) and I got really upset by it. I went onto a website we both frequent and made some really bad comments, which were somewhat ambiguous, but he knew they were directed at him. The next day I removed them after I calmed down. I didn't hear from him for the next couple of days, which was not at all like him.
I called him up and his intonation was different, he was aloof, didn't care very much what I had to say. I asked him to meet so we could discuss things, and he wouldn't say yes, he'd just keep telling me, "it's up to you". This in itself frustrated me. He said he didn't call becuase he figured we were over by my comment online. We ended up meeting, and he was acting very aloof, and said that I needed to take a step back from this "relationship" and consider just being friends. He basically said that after thinking and thinking, he decided that he needed to do this this and this with his life. He told me all the things he had planned for himself. I brought up the whole "but I love you" bit, and he tells me that what I was feeling was just lust. He kept saying things like, "I'm really tired, I just want to go home and get some sleep", whereas before, he'd call everyday and ask to come stay with me the night. It seemed to me that he was purposely being the complete opposite from what he was with me before this blow up. He went from super hot to super cold.
The next few times I saw him online, I would greet him or say something, and he would be very short with me, and other times completely ignore my attempts for contact. The last contact I made with him, which he has yet to respond to, is an email I sent just saying that I was upset how things ended and that I was willing to give the friends thing a shot. I sent that almost a week ago, and have had no reply.
Does this sound like a guy engaging in "the game", or just someone who lost interest?
I met someone recently and we connected very strongly. We talked on the phone almost instantly, and met in person about a week later. The date went very well. We started hanging out a lot and had fantastic sex. We were both majorly infatuated with eachother. We met eachothers families over the holidays, and spent a lot of time with eachothers friends. He would end his telephone conversations telling me that he loved me. For over a month we were pretty much inseperable, then something happened (which I won't get into unless it is needed) and I got really upset by it. I went onto a website we both frequent and made some really bad comments, which were somewhat ambiguous, but he knew they were directed at him. The next day I removed them after I calmed down. I didn't hear from him for the next couple of days, which was not at all like him.
I called him up and his intonation was different, he was aloof, didn't care very much what I had to say. I asked him to meet so we could discuss things, and he wouldn't say yes, he'd just keep telling me, "it's up to you". This in itself frustrated me. He said he didn't call becuase he figured we were over by my comment online. We ended up meeting, and he was acting very aloof, and said that I needed to take a step back from this "relationship" and consider just being friends. He basically said that after thinking and thinking, he decided that he needed to do this this and this with his life. He told me all the things he had planned for himself. I brought up the whole "but I love you" bit, and he tells me that what I was feeling was just lust. He kept saying things like, "I'm really tired, I just want to go home and get some sleep", whereas before, he'd call everyday and ask to come stay with me the night. It seemed to me that he was purposely being the complete opposite from what he was with me before this blow up. He went from super hot to super cold.
The next few times I saw him online, I would greet him or say something, and he would be very short with me, and other times completely ignore my attempts for contact. The last contact I made with him, which he has yet to respond to, is an email I sent just saying that I was upset how things ended and that I was willing to give the friends thing a shot. I sent that almost a week ago, and have had no reply.
Does this sound like a guy engaging in "the game", or just someone who lost interest?
