open to interpertations or criticism

[cordoncordon]

OP from what you wrote I am sensing a lot of inner tension between the two of you that has been going on long before this trip. Whether you are not happy with some of the things she does or vice versa, or you feel as though that you aren't attracted enough to her, who knows....but there is something more going on than just this trip. This trip was just the vehicle in which your frustration came out.

I suggest that you look deep inside your feelings, and what you really feel about your gf, and if you see yourself having a future with her. I read your later post where you both made up, but don't do that just because its comfortable or because you don't want to be alone. Do it because you really want to be with her.

I think if you examine those feelings, you might be in for a surprise. Or at the very least it will allow you both to talk about what is REALLY bothering each other, and not just this trip.

 

[SecondHalf]

Then she says, " thanks for ruining the whole ****ing weekend.". I don't miss a beat, and fire back with, " you are now a single woman."

This is good.
If she comes crawling back, maybe she might have woke up.
If she doesn't, then a different reaction would likely only have prolonged the inevitable.

SH

 

[backbreaker]

When couples fight, the real issue tends to be something other than what they seem to be fighting about.

I would guess that she knows you think she's not that hot. She probably agrees. She also knows that you didn't really want to be with her all weekend. When she was younger, thinner, and hotter, she didn't have these problems, and I think that is what she was really upset about - her declining level of attractiveness as she ages.

this is pure gold and everyone who enters a relationship wtih a woman needs to read this.

if i've learned antyhing it's that when we do argue, it's never ever about what we are aruging about. women argue by proxy so to speak.

this woman doesn't give a **** about you not going to the restaurant. to her it's what you not going tot he restaurant signifies. Most likely as BB pointed out.. that she knows you aren't THAT into her. In her mind you not going to the resturant equates to you not being all that interested in her long term. Rather that's reasonable or not, is not the point of concern this is what she is thinking.


PS- this is another reason why you shouldn't' go out of your way to apologize (unless you seriously did some ****ed up **** lol) beucase more times than not you are apologize for **** she isn't even mad over.