Open relationship, need some advice guys

aWolf

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Hello everyone.

I'm very forward guy. Excuse my English its not my native language.

Background:

23 year old. Good-looking male. Became an Alpha about a year ago, thanks to Shark and his blog. I was super Beta and came a long way. Still lots of things to learn. I've met lots of women all flings. Just 3 LTRs. I am in complete control of myself. All of women I've met says that I had a sexual vibe when they look into my eyes.

I've dropped out of medical school this year to seek a certificate in finance and banking and I got my own company.


Situation:
This girl is 21years old. An 8 . Lives in the appartment next to me. We met and hooked up. She says that she's in a relationship with a guy who lives in another city and according to her she adores him. She's been with him for a year now. Texting him all the time. They see each other every few months or so. Rarely sleeps with him. I can't tell if he's a beta boy or not, but he gives her all of his attention and emotions without getting sex.

So she wants an open relationship with me ( friends with benefits sort of ) I agreed. Because I only want to have sex with her. I have two oyher women beside her. Its been 6 months now of continuos sex. I love to tie my women's hands during sex and make them scream and cry of wanting. So U know I'm really good in bed.

We hang out sometimes. I'm always holding my frame. Negging her, being a complete ass-hole. Disappearing. She told me she loves me on various occasions. Mostly I don't respond, sometimes I just smile and kiss her. But she doesn't want to leave her " boyfriend".

Now she met another guy who I knew. Used to go to collage with him. He's 5th year med student. I know he's a complete ****ing beta guy. He gives her flowers and gifts every time she sees him. He gets on s date with her for 12 hrs and so. He always tell her that he loves her and once he cried of how much he loves her and want her. He offered he wants to marry her bit wants to talk to his father first. She never told him she loved him. She never slept with him. She told me she dont feel a thing for him, but he's a good marriage material. Said to me she wants to continue to have sex with me even when she's married. I refused, of moral. Told her once she's married I will not do this anymore.

Bottom line. She loves me, i like her. How can I make her want to he exclusive with me. How cam I wipe these two betas out of her life and make her exclusive with me ?
 

denverfan110

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As dumb as this may sound try and give her the attention and sh1t she's craving.

She has both walks of life right now. The beta fawning on her, and the alpha fcking her well, but coldly. She's now comparing the pros and cons of both.

It's been 6 months. If you actually like her, open up a bit. Show her some affection. Don't completely go full AFC and scare her off, but show her some weakness at times and let her know that if she works for it she maybe, just maybe might have the luxury of being exclusive with you (whether or not thats what you actually want is secondary, just make her think she has a chance).

Being alpha is great to initially create attraction, but if you remain this way for too long the same outcome will occur if you were to fully swing back all the way across the spectrum toward AFC: rejection.
 

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aWolf said:
Bottom line. She loves me, i like her. How can I make her want to he exclusive with me. How cam I wipe these two betas out of her life and make her exclusive with me ?
Why? This last sentence is not congruent with the rest of your story.

Just sounds like a textbook "modern woman" living it up with all her fingers in many pies. She has the alfa fux and beta bucks, the cad and the backup providers on standby for when the wall comes into view. Why do you want to mess with this setup? It doesn't make any sense.

By the looks of it you already have the alfa fux part down, why would you want to take on the role of beta bucks backup aswell? Let her have her 2 or 3 or 4 or however many herb orbiters, who cares about them.

You got what you got. Stop trying to warp a modern woman into something which only exists in your head.
 

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So she wants an open relationship with me ( friends with benefits sort of ) I agreed. Because I only want to have sex with her
Bottom line. She loves me, i like her. How can I make her want to he exclusive with me. How cam I wipe these two betas out of her life and make her exclusive with me ?
You're just afraid you're losing a plate. If you saw her as just a FWB you wouldn't give a sh1t if she's exclusive with you or not. She got to your head!

How do you know the other guy gives her flowers and wants to marry her? Because she told you, right? Again, she's getting to your head. She's trying to make you jealous so that you do something and upgrade her to the status of girlfriend. Don't be afraid of losing her, keep doing what you're doing unless you want to be exclusive.
 

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I agree with royalflush she is crazy, and a B*tch. See what she said? , "he is good marriage material" but she still wants to bang you? Not a good idea bra bra. She is getting what she wants from diffrent guys... you sex him attention and money and all that other stuff women want. Sounds to me like the calling of a attention slvt, stay away. And i can tell as soon as you do get "exclusive" with this chick she will do the same thing she is doing to these other guys to you. Then you will be back in your beta slot wondering what the hell happend. Best bet man is to drop it.
 

aWolf

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Thank you guys for your support

I've decided to remain FWB

Cuz its what I need right now.

You guys opened my eyes to the beta provider sh1t.

I dont have time for that right now. Maybe in the future
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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1. Your not an alpha.

2. She is not crazy, she is in an attention wh-re stage. Your crazy for trying to take her serious.

3. She doesn't love you, She obviously loves d!ck.
 
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