Open Discussion about this Red Pill Truth

[BeExcellent]

I've never been one to cater to a woman. She has to fit her world around mine. My schedule is always full with my work and hobbies. I'm probably guilty of being selfish with my time. I have priorities and there are things I'm not giving up.

I have a hobby that takes up a ton of my time that I'm highly passionate about. Women tend to love it, and I always make a spot for them. I've told many that she would always be #1, but sometimes #2(my hobby) comes before #1.

My view has always been she can come along for the ride or find somebody else. I'm looking for a supporter or we won't work.

They have all told me at some point they wanted more of my time. It is what it is, you just need the right woman. They need to want the relationship more than you do. And catering to their whim's diminishes the respect they have for you. Don't ever put puzzy on a platter. Everyone of them likes a man that stands up to them and remains somewhat of a challenge. Just let her win sometimes. A good woman wants to earn your attention and she will. That keeps her happy and focused.

Too much of either direction is not good as @zekko mentioned. I know I've pushed a few away because its usually my lifestyle that comes first.

Thoughts from the old lady:

My husband is much like this. So too was my father. My first husband started off this way but foundered after his business fiasco, he never regained his footing as a man, and ultimately it cost the respect from me after many years and then ultimately the marriage.

A man must have his own purpose, his own agenda and his own goals. The woman submits, in part, by coming along for the ride in HIS life, and accepts that this is who he is and what he is about. She supports his mission and joins his program. And he rewards her for doing this.

So that means a man must have a program for a woman to join. Many men have not yet developed themselves in this way, and are too focused on pleasure pursuits including women & sex, but this is not a purpose driven existance and can devolve into hedonism in short order.

The whole point of the emphasis on self development & self improvement around here is rooted in this business of finding and developing your purpose in life as a man, independent of women. As that axis becomes defined then there is something of substance a woman can join. There is an endeavor she can support.

But you do not make the woman your focus. That will set you adrift. Nothing good comes when you are adrift, unfocused, or focused on the wrong things.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Your thoughts

Stop being the sort of man that women(your sis included)vent about their difficulties to

 

[Dr.Suave]

Now I ask you, did you also make these mistakes?

F0ck yeah. I still make mistakes all the time, but I probably avoided a mistake or three thanks to this forum.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Women latch on to a successful man, take a look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are.

Success does not come from your notch count, rather far from it. It is the life you have already built around you, your living environment/location, your hobbies and lifestyle, etc. If you are not confident in those aspects and have the ambition for becoming greater, women should not be on your radar.

So much FOMO goes around here that you’ll miss the 25 year old hotties because you are getting old so you need to focus on banging the now….well that’s a losing mindset, you’ll never be successful thinking like that.

What you have developed over the years will seep into how you carry yourself when approaching everyone, not just women.

I had to make a pit stop on this one.

Women are the ultimate mirrors whether we sink it in or not.

You can tell yourself that you are the sh!t. You can get a girl to think you are the sh!t for a night. Neither of those things are hard, but what happens when a girl actually gets to know you and then decides you are nothing special? Are you still the sh!t?

This is probably why a lot of men are very good at pick up but severly lacking in holding LTRs. They run "glass cannon" game that blows a girl’s mind in the shortest amount of time possible, but then the glamour wears off quickly. Once it does the player suddenly finds himself naked with nothing to offer.

Women are dangerous. They can go from pleasant to downright evil. They can suck guys in and drain the lifeblood out of them. If you can't dominate a woman's true nature and hypergamy over the long term are you really a master of women? Let alone getting her dialed in that your time of the essence.

If your personality and hustle doesn't keep her enamored over the long term are you really that interesting for you to give her the gift of missing you ?

Some players just don't want to fvck with LTRs for legitimate reasons. That is an entirely different discussion, but I think a lot of us protect ourselves by sticking to short flings , fwbs and one night stands. On top of all that my time is money and she understands it.

 

[New_Journey]

If you can't dominate a woman's true nature and hypergamy over the long term are you really a master of women? Let alone getting her dialed in that your time of the essence.

Well said man, this is the truth of the game.

If your personality and hustle doesn't keep her enamored over the long term are you really that interesting?

Some players just don't want to fvck with LTRs for legitimate reasons. That is an entirely different discussion, but I think a lot of us protect ourselves by sticking to short flings , fwbs and one night stands. On top of all that my time is money and she understands it.

Exactly, they project something that in reality don't add up when they see who they really are.