Hey all -
I am 38 but in shape and look about 30. At my work is a girl who just turned 21, very cute. For weeks she has shown me high IL - I thought it was cute and played along, but just flirted and nothing more, because it was work. Then last week she gave her resignation notice since she found another job. I offered to take her to lunch to celebrate, but said it in that kidding/flirting way, still she took me up on it.
She never asked me my age - I thought for sure she would know since we have a friend in common who knows I am 38. I thought she was curious and wanted to have casual fun, since she said a few times that we should "hang out."
Lunch was fun, and returning I asked her if she wanted to do something Sunday afternoon, she said yes (I was feeling reckless and wanted to see how much she was interested. Plus I thought the "hanging out" part meant nothing serious would happen). Meanwhile she calls a few times and talks.
So today came and I picked her up. She seemed to be acting cool at first but we went to this funky cafe and had drinks. The convo was flowing and we were getting along great. We were lightly buzzed and as we walked to the next place I took her hand. She was receptive, then asked how old I was - I told her "you already know or have an idea, right?" She said she actually didn't know but would guess 38 or 39 (apparently I said something that indicated that). I said yep, I'm 38 but thought she knew that - she said coyly "maddxman you're too old for me and you are not holding my hand!" And she said she was confused, was I considering this a date or we just "hanging out."
I know she is just casually dating right now and knows I am doing the same, I said I was just enjoying spending time with her. She said that was cool and we could continue "hanging out" but I was still too old for her, she just turned 21.
Doh. My assumption that she knew my age led to a pretty awkward time - plus, I was thinking with my dyck and thought the references to "hanging out" plus her high IL meant nothing serious. I am confused though, I know she was attracted to me but would she really have been thinking of us as a potential bf/gf situation? I just can't imagine that she would, and think that somehow I gave the impression I wanted something serious which cooled her off, and thus I blew a potential fun situation. Then agian, maybe she really did think I was only 10 years max older than her...either way I feel pretty stupid, but don't regret not trying!
I am 38 but in shape and look about 30. At my work is a girl who just turned 21, very cute. For weeks she has shown me high IL - I thought it was cute and played along, but just flirted and nothing more, because it was work. Then last week she gave her resignation notice since she found another job. I offered to take her to lunch to celebrate, but said it in that kidding/flirting way, still she took me up on it.
She never asked me my age - I thought for sure she would know since we have a friend in common who knows I am 38. I thought she was curious and wanted to have casual fun, since she said a few times that we should "hang out."
Lunch was fun, and returning I asked her if she wanted to do something Sunday afternoon, she said yes (I was feeling reckless and wanted to see how much she was interested. Plus I thought the "hanging out" part meant nothing serious would happen). Meanwhile she calls a few times and talks.
So today came and I picked her up. She seemed to be acting cool at first but we went to this funky cafe and had drinks. The convo was flowing and we were getting along great. We were lightly buzzed and as we walked to the next place I took her hand. She was receptive, then asked how old I was - I told her "you already know or have an idea, right?" She said she actually didn't know but would guess 38 or 39 (apparently I said something that indicated that). I said yep, I'm 38 but thought she knew that - she said coyly "maddxman you're too old for me and you are not holding my hand!" And she said she was confused, was I considering this a date or we just "hanging out."
I know she is just casually dating right now and knows I am doing the same, I said I was just enjoying spending time with her. She said that was cool and we could continue "hanging out" but I was still too old for her, she just turned 21.
Doh. My assumption that she knew my age led to a pretty awkward time - plus, I was thinking with my dyck and thought the references to "hanging out" plus her high IL meant nothing serious. I am confused though, I know she was attracted to me but would she really have been thinking of us as a potential bf/gf situation? I just can't imagine that she would, and think that somehow I gave the impression I wanted something serious which cooled her off, and thus I blew a potential fun situation. Then agian, maybe she really did think I was only 10 years max older than her...either way I feel pretty stupid, but don't regret not trying!
