Only a true DJ could have the answer to this question...

[Smooth as Anything]

Originally posted by The Matrix: Reloaded
^^^ Smooth... the understanding of such things is what aids in the creation of a large amount of confidence... so yes, without confidence such things are useless... but knowledge of such things is what breeds confidence. I understand why you and Oreo would basically state that confidence is everything (which for the most part is very correct) but we must remember that confidence cannot be found in stores or taken from a random box... like a house, it must be built. The various things that many of us responded to Jester's question with are the very things that build that confidence.

The Matrix: Revolution™

Personally, I came to find my grasping of the suggested concepts...more depressing than confidence boosting.

I mean, people are so simple, so predictable, so ignorant of their own actions...

It hasn't done to much good for me, and made me really belittle women in general.

Has it improved my confidence? Yes, but only in that it has made me more secure.

Did it construct my confidence? No, belief in self did.

 

[oreo_renegade]

Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
No, belief in self did.

hehe,


I just reread my thread and I realised that It fails to convey what I was trying to say.

When I typed it out, I thought what I said about confidance as being the base of a house explained my reasoning a bit. Now I reread it and find that it failed to convey my true meaning.

I thought of the word I meant, to express what I'm trying.



WILLPOWER. The reason I said confidance at first is because I was thinking along the lines of "if you don't get up and do it, no matter what you know will help you."

But now I realise that this is more willpower to go do something, not neccessarily confidance.


I remember my first approach, I had almost NO confidance. I appraoched two seniors both about 9's, and I was vibrating thats how nervous I was!

I had one thing though: WILLPOWER to do it.

All my techiniques/etc. from this website left my mind, I didnt even introduce myself(d'oh!) they were like "so whats your name?"

And none of that mattered, "confidance," "guidelines," whatever. I WANTED to go and appraoch, and I did.

Without confidance, without remembering the techniques, without anything.



So there is my new revised answer

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Did it construct my confidence? No, belief in self did.

they're basically the same thing.

webster.com

confidence: 1 a : a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances <had perfect confidence in her ability to succeed> <met the risk with brash confidence> b : faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way <have confidence in a leader>

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Security = Confidence = Beleif in Self

? Can this be so? We'll see

 

[Raven125]

When i first came to this website, i had one thing in mind, and that was to figure something out. I wanted to find out why i couldn't get girls. Every single time i was rejected or dumped i was tarnished by the LJBF. My confidence was shooting to the depths of hell and into the crevaces of fire. I couldn't find out what was wrong with me, i asked people, all the time. They gave me small answers about specific things, fortunatly for me these came into use later. They would never tell me my real problem though. That problem was in my insecurities, my shyness, and myself.

At first when i discovered this website i was amazed by the compendium of knowledge here that i could use in the field for getting women. The idea in mind was to get women, not what it should have been. I wasn't looking to improve, i was looking for a way to feel better about myself without bettering. Now i look back and realize how ignorant that must have been. I read all the pages, i read the bible many times over, and to my glee, i was starting to get women. At any time i could have easily gotten any sort of action i pleased, but i never did. These were not the type of women i wanted. I wanted a real challenge, i wanted someone past my standards that i could still be able to harness. And i still do.

I still haven't had the chance to go for someone like that, and i have only gotten more easy women clinging on to me. That's not what i want.

Today i came to realize what the path of the don juan truly is. That path is self improvement. It's not about getting women, and it's not about memorizing a few people skills. Everything on this board is ment for improving YOURSELF. I am always looking for flaws in myself that i can improve. Why you may ask? That, my friends is the answer to many things. And that is because i can .

 

[dbot]

Being a DJ is nothing more than a mentality. Once you achieve that state of mind, your potential is limitless.