h2o
Banned
Something that I’ve thought about a lot lately and meant to post a thread about is regarding reputation, online/offline (IRL).
I am on and off concerned with revealing too much about my real-life identity online. Sometime, I’ll just not care, and later tell a nice mod to delete/edit it for me, and other times I will be extra careful to purposely modify details of an experience to keep it from being detected by someone who knows me IRL.
Face it, with over 17,000 members on here, and not to mention who knows how many more who merely visit and read without registering, there will undoubtedly be someone you know who could easily connect your online user name to your real-life identity.
In certain aspects, your reputations are your life. But even though at times I may try to conceal my real-life identity online, I am not completely convinced that revealing who I am would be so detrimental.
If that was true, I can’t see how guys like MindOverMatter or Player_Supreme and some others have posted their photos online without caring who does or does not see it and inevitably recognize them.
I believe that guys like Pook or the old, renowned posters here did not show their photo for the same reason I am trying to explain. They did not want people they know or those who know them and support their real-life reputation to know that they engage in such thoughts/ideals/activities/self-improvement, what-have-you. In other words, I similarly feel that even despite having broken free from the chains of self-limiting beliefs that once held me down, I still am hiding some part of myself by caring if people know me to be on this site or not. My parents know I like sarging hot girls in my free time, heck, last time I was on an airplane, my dad practically winged for me…so, I know they’re cool with it. But, I don’t share my thoughts on this sarging/seduction hobby with friends or acquaintances. It’s like I keep it somewhat secretive. Sure, I am all about bettering yourself and allowing women to be an extra to your core goals, but still, I do sarge women on a daily basis, and don’t openly discuss it with anyone other than here/online.
Lately, as I’ve grown/excelled mentally, I’ve viewed more and more things as simply a figment of the mind. Cold weather? To me, as long as it’s humanely bearable, it’s only a sensation, and one can control their reaction to cold showers and chilly weather through their own mind. Likewise, though seemingly irrelevant to that example, if people see me on this site and recognize me IRL as h2o on Sosuave, it is a weakness or insecurity to care what their thoughts are.
Personally, I am very congruent online and offline. There are no discrepancies in my stories or statements, so what the heck am I hiding? Or, rather, why do I still continue to hide? Yeah, sure, a few of my past posts are somewhat disturbing, but I have clearly conveyed my thoughts and explained myself to the point where I should not be worried if someone I know reads what I wrote, because it is from the heart, it’s all damn true.
I feel like the fact that I still care what others would think if they made the online/offline connection, I feel it’s still a deep-rooted insecurity on my part.
The only reason I keep hiding is because for some reason I feel there is another side of argument/discussion that is missing.
I think this is a big issue with this site, and my point with this thread is not to start a flame or war or “who is real vs. who isn’t” bashing. My intention is to better understand the security some of you feel with revealing your identities online, and the reason why some of you do not.
Perhaps, more specifically, as I am attempting a new approach journal, one concern is doing lots of approaches on campus. I do have tons of social proof, but doesn’t every other social guy/girl? Sure, social proof is great, but if you’re a social guy in college, how can you not have it? I don’t make friends to create social proof that's stupid; neither do I talk to strangers for that reason. Anyway, my social circle and hundreds of acquaintances continues to grow, and basically what I’m saying is, if everyone pretty much knows that many people, than it doesn’t put much at stake for me to risk losing if I do lots of approaches on campus. Because everyone knows lots of people, so what reputation? Some may think that doing lots of approaches on campus will make you look desperate, and this is a thought that still lingers slightly in the back of my mind, but even more now, I am wondering why do I think that way?
Please discuss, your opinions/thoughts are much appreciated.
*for those who are not familiar with the acronym IRL, it stands for “In Real Life” …to others, duh
I am on and off concerned with revealing too much about my real-life identity online. Sometime, I’ll just not care, and later tell a nice mod to delete/edit it for me, and other times I will be extra careful to purposely modify details of an experience to keep it from being detected by someone who knows me IRL.
Face it, with over 17,000 members on here, and not to mention who knows how many more who merely visit and read without registering, there will undoubtedly be someone you know who could easily connect your online user name to your real-life identity.
In certain aspects, your reputations are your life. But even though at times I may try to conceal my real-life identity online, I am not completely convinced that revealing who I am would be so detrimental.
If that was true, I can’t see how guys like MindOverMatter or Player_Supreme and some others have posted their photos online without caring who does or does not see it and inevitably recognize them.
I believe that guys like Pook or the old, renowned posters here did not show their photo for the same reason I am trying to explain. They did not want people they know or those who know them and support their real-life reputation to know that they engage in such thoughts/ideals/activities/self-improvement, what-have-you. In other words, I similarly feel that even despite having broken free from the chains of self-limiting beliefs that once held me down, I still am hiding some part of myself by caring if people know me to be on this site or not. My parents know I like sarging hot girls in my free time, heck, last time I was on an airplane, my dad practically winged for me…so, I know they’re cool with it. But, I don’t share my thoughts on this sarging/seduction hobby with friends or acquaintances. It’s like I keep it somewhat secretive. Sure, I am all about bettering yourself and allowing women to be an extra to your core goals, but still, I do sarge women on a daily basis, and don’t openly discuss it with anyone other than here/online.
Lately, as I’ve grown/excelled mentally, I’ve viewed more and more things as simply a figment of the mind. Cold weather? To me, as long as it’s humanely bearable, it’s only a sensation, and one can control their reaction to cold showers and chilly weather through their own mind. Likewise, though seemingly irrelevant to that example, if people see me on this site and recognize me IRL as h2o on Sosuave, it is a weakness or insecurity to care what their thoughts are.
Personally, I am very congruent online and offline. There are no discrepancies in my stories or statements, so what the heck am I hiding? Or, rather, why do I still continue to hide? Yeah, sure, a few of my past posts are somewhat disturbing, but I have clearly conveyed my thoughts and explained myself to the point where I should not be worried if someone I know reads what I wrote, because it is from the heart, it’s all damn true.
I feel like the fact that I still care what others would think if they made the online/offline connection, I feel it’s still a deep-rooted insecurity on my part.
The only reason I keep hiding is because for some reason I feel there is another side of argument/discussion that is missing.
I think this is a big issue with this site, and my point with this thread is not to start a flame or war or “who is real vs. who isn’t” bashing. My intention is to better understand the security some of you feel with revealing your identities online, and the reason why some of you do not.
Perhaps, more specifically, as I am attempting a new approach journal, one concern is doing lots of approaches on campus. I do have tons of social proof, but doesn’t every other social guy/girl? Sure, social proof is great, but if you’re a social guy in college, how can you not have it? I don’t make friends to create social proof that's stupid; neither do I talk to strangers for that reason. Anyway, my social circle and hundreds of acquaintances continues to grow, and basically what I’m saying is, if everyone pretty much knows that many people, than it doesn’t put much at stake for me to risk losing if I do lots of approaches on campus. Because everyone knows lots of people, so what reputation? Some may think that doing lots of approaches on campus will make you look desperate, and this is a thought that still lingers slightly in the back of my mind, but even more now, I am wondering why do I think that way?
Please discuss, your opinions/thoughts are much appreciated.
*for those who are not familiar with the acronym IRL, it stands for “In Real Life” …to others, duh