online vague question...?

[Glassguy]

Advice from the old lady:

The reality is that you'll need to move. I got divorced from my first husband while living in a small midwest town (under 25 thousand people). My first husband and I had met in a large metro area heavy on nightlife. The small town was fine for us and for child rearing while we were married; the singles scene was horrible after divorce (and I'm a very attractive girl so every single guy who I found unattractive from 32 to 82 was interested in me.....) I relocated to a large metro with a thriving singles scene. I was 45 when the divorce occurred and am 56 now. I am remarried to a very attractive man who is 8 years younger than me (so I was able to compete in a large metro market very effectively).....

My first husband still lives in the small town. He has never gotten laid in 11 years, never had a girlfriend. He's 58. And he was a sexy nightclub owner with style, panache & moxy when we met 25+ years ago.

The women who are single in a small town environment are swarmed if they are attractive. Women in a large metro an hour from the small town are not interested in giving up the amenities of the city either unless you are a rich Chad (which is highly unlikely at 60.)

@Bible_Belt is in a midwestern rural area if memory serves. He has found attractive women in that situation. And @Glassguy is also in a smaller area and he slays. He's also younger than 50. Perhaps they will chime in. Not sure Spaz would give advice much different than you've already gotten, but he'd certainly have been extremely blunt.

Why would an attractive 40 year old consider a man 20 years older? That is a legit question worth a response.

You may need to seriously consider relocation. But let's see what others have to say.

I think the key to doing well in smaller areas is being one of the better options. Regardless of age.
I look at dating younger women in this perspective:

Imagine you have 40k to spend on a vehicle. At that amount of money your opportunities are not endless. There is going to be some give and take in what you really need vs what you want. So instead of a loaded full size SUV, you might have to do a mid size with slightly fewer options.
SMV and value is essentially like a budget. Its very transactional.

Now having said that, I think pulling younger women also requires a few things regardless of the area:
1. You must look younger than your age. Most people think I am way younger than 47.
2. You must be mature but also be fun. Younger women like older men because the guys their age act like kids.
3. You must NOT make the age difference a big deal. If you do, it will be a big deal.

And just reading over OPs original post, it seems like this is just an online dating interaction and nothing more.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

OP either this chick has a mild interest in you or a guarded approach to dating in general (or both)

In case it's #2 it might be worth answering to see if you can hook her. Make it short b/c her response is a sh1t test and throw it back at her.

Have a quick list of 3 things that are ****y/funny dhv's and see if it hooks, if not move on.

Or do two truths and a lie

Something like "I'm a part-time superhero, a great cook, and have been told I have BDE. Tell me about you"

(keep in mind BDE can be big d1ck energy or business development expertise)

Something light and breezy that isn't incongruous with your presentation.

Need to flip the frame that you're screening her. If she doesn't bite, move on.

But all the above being said, you need to move if you're able. AZ or FLA are good choices for your age.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Her response- "hi tell me about you"
Thoughts?

That's one most low-effort and annoying questions to be asked. I always give women shvt if they ask me that because it's just another frustrating example of someone putting in minimal effort and expecting you to carry the entire convo.

If any women asks me this I always gave them shvt about it, usually say something like "oh that's my favorite question, I especially love being asked that in job interviews". Most likely any convo that starts out with that won't end well, but if you tease her for it at least there's a chance you can turn it around.

As for finding someone closer, Understand that I live in the Midwest.. Decent sized towns are easily a half hour apart, and this town is a big one. Not like I can just go walk down the street to a bar and find a piece... Lol would be nice though.

Move out of the midwest. Some of the only cities in the midwest that are good for meeting women are the more populated/wealthy cities in Michigan (not Detroit), but that requires living in Michigan.

 

[plumber]

OP, also; just try anything. if your rusty at online chatting, try some passport bro site. you will get attention and can practice, just for fun. can you travel... go have a look... you don't have to buy. its better than watching cnn on tv at night.

there are lots of different type men at about 60. some seem like 35 and others 80... how you fit into that will help decide how you go forward. you are not going to compete well against 35 years old men that are cool and decent looking. if you seem older than 60, not going to do well with married women looking for the second leg of the provider/breeder pattern....

volunteer at places like food banks... other low income service areas. just to meet others. church... service clubs...

BJJ, has a category called master 6, newbie only fights other newbie at 60 years old or older, no one under that age. The point is to find people who you can find other people and also have some fun. guys having fun do better than those sitting and wishing.