Online Girls Move On So Damn Quick!

FMCSMT

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I've dated 2 on POF (before I swallowed the red pill).

First hb7 - moved her in after 8 months. Broke up on our 1 year. Still banged for a few weeks after occasionally. She would do her laundry and fold mine, we bang and the she would leave. That was at the end of the relationship. Recently ran into her again at a park. She later told me that about 2 weeks after banging me for the last time, she was banging another dude an hour away. Then got engaged to another dude about a month later. Wanted to come back - Ha! No way. But that was a couple weeks after the last time I gave it to her.

Second hb5 - Really really liked this one. Post wall 2 kids nasty divorce still proceeding. Nice body and sweet heart. Banged nonstop. Asked if she was a robot a few times. Said I was the best ever. Was taking a test boost at the time. Would literally go at it 4 times per night. It was great. She had her place I had mine. Had some beta tendency overcome me at one point shortly after she told me she was recovering from METH. Husband and family were the hook up. Never done anything other than weed myself. She had been a user for 3 years daily. One night she wouldn't respond to text or call. I got pretty upset and broke it off but still banged her a few more times. I kid you not, it was a Thursday that I banged her and didn't get a response from her (and didn't send a text) for over a week. Finally I broke down and checked on her. She said she had moved on over a week ago. Ugh. She had very low value too, barely a job, losing her house, no money, tattoos everywhere, not very attractive face wise and put on 20 lbs in the 3 months that we were dating. Didn't make sense to me at all and still boggles me how she didn't seem to care one bit.

That was when I picked up The Rationale Male and finished it about 1 week ago now.

I get that meth messes people up and I surely dodged a bullet but god I liked banging her. She was a real sport. And it really didn't make sense about her lack of caring as I was much higher value, looks, money, assets, social. Her entire family loved me. I was like the best guy she has had. Yet, silence from her. It's been about 20 days or so (doing the NC challenge as well).

Sucks but now I know a little better. It's plates and some will fall and it will hurt.

Both girls are off of POF and pretty much the only 2 I have dated and slept with post divorce about 2 1/2 years now.
 

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I m a big fan of OLD in its place ie practice, sex and orbiters. I do share the general opinion of POF low grade trashy chicks who r going to seriously damage your perception of womankind.
 

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They all have terrible reviews. I wouldn't recommend paying for one. POF is the only one that I know of that allows you to see the photos and chat.

Don't focus too much on the headline or profile.

My profession I put "six figures". Let them ask later..

Do have the best pics available but do not make eye contact with the camera. (Weird study showed better luck and it does help)

It's a strategy from there as far as messaging.

I do a blanket method. I pick the 6-8s. I send them all the same message.

I go bold. ( I'll get to that in a sec )

After I blanket the community, I pay attention to who has viewed me. (Special note here - turn off the viewed me function in your profile. You can see who viewed you but they cannot see that you viewed them. We like to look back and see who we are talking to but it creeps them out when their viewed me gets populated with your photo over and over. Easy setting to shut off in your edit profile area. Trust me on that one)

If the ones that have viewed you don't respond, shoot them a second message. Gotta make them laugh/keep it light..always.

If they engage in convo, give them your number shortly after the small talk but I tell them please don't feel obligated to text/call. (I had 1 that wasn't comfortable, all others lit up my phone immediately).

After that, let's meet. I think the next day, if possible. If you can't do it the next day, wait to message until the day before you can meet. Too far out and she'll fall off and so may you.

Now, for the opener I use, you will probably think I'm crazy but I have received the most dates with this one - "I would totally date the shyt outta you"

I have others too but that opener has generated many positive responses, dates, and had some great many banging nights. It sets the tone for light but you know what I want (and so does she).

Hope this helps.
 

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I think you would be surprised at how many (most?) women keep OLD options open past the exclusivity conversation. Maybe not necessarily the site/app you met her off. They're always looking for an upgrade. Her spidey sense will kick in if you go beta or stop living up to your potential as a man, get lazy, or too comfortable. Interest level is always the biggest indicator of her investment in you.

I thought I had my last main plate on lock down after a few months of hooking up to find out she dropped me within a fortnight when she went soft-next for other orbiters from either social media or OLD when I acted out of scarcity after dropping my plates for her after exclusivity talk. Lesson learned. She told me in conversation about her Tinder account, but I tried to give that no mind. I suspected she frequently browsed Tinder in between the weekly dates. I did try my best to not give a f. Feels are strong when the sechs is good...

I would say be cautious with OLD chicks. I know most SS aren't LTR/exclusive-minded, yet for me, frequent or constant OLD/social media access by a plate to me is a red flag if I'm thinking of long-term and not just for the short-term lay.
This is why when I have the serious exclusivity talk, this includes deleting dating apps and profiles together.

I had a plate push me for going exclusive. When I said this, she backed off fast.

Says a lot.
 

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I've dated 2 on POF (before I swallowed the red pill).

First hb7 - moved her in after 8 months. Broke up on our 1 year. Still banged for a few weeks after occasionally. She would do her laundry and fold mine, we bang and the she would leave. That was at the end of the relationship. Recently ran into her again at a park. She later told me that about 2 weeks after banging me for the last time, she was banging another dude an hour away. Then got engaged to another dude about a month later. Wanted to come back - Ha! No way. But that was a couple weeks after the last time I gave it to her.

Second hb5 - Really really liked this one. Post wall 2 kids nasty divorce still proceeding. Nice body and sweet heart. Banged nonstop. Asked if she was a robot a few times. Said I was the best ever. Was taking a test boost at the time. Would literally go at it 4 times per night. It was great. She had her place I had mine. Had some beta tendency overcome me at one point shortly after she told me she was recovering from METH. Husband and family were the hook up. Never done anything other than weed myself. She had been a user for 3 years daily. One night she wouldn't respond to text or call. I got pretty upset and broke it off but still banged her a few more times. I kid you not, it was a Thursday that I banged her and didn't get a response from her (and didn't send a text) for over a week. Finally I broke down and checked on her. She said she had moved on over a week ago. Ugh. She had very low value too, barely a job, losing her house, no money, tattoos everywhere, not very attractive face wise and put on 20 lbs in the 3 months that we were dating. Didn't make sense to me at all and still boggles me how she didn't seem to care one bit.

That was when I picked up The Rationale Male and finished it about 1 week ago now.

I get that meth messes people up and I surely dodged a bullet but god I liked banging her. She was a real sport. And it really didn't make sense about her lack of caring as I was much higher value, looks, money, assets, social. Her entire family loved me. I was like the best guy she has had. Yet, silence from her. It's been about 20 days or so (doing the NC challenge as well).

Sucks but now I know a little better. It's plates and some will fall and it will hurt.

Both girls are off of POF and pretty much the only 2 I have dated and slept with post divorce about 2 1/2 years now.

I hear you man, my last online plate was at best a HB7, but boy was the sex amazing, this chick loved to be dominated, and there was NOTHING she would not do sex wise..

Things just when dramatically down hill, when she decided she wanted more commitment..

The sex just stopped, heck she wouldn't even talk about sex anymore..

Then the hot/cold games started.. In the end, I decided to walk away..

Man I still feel like trying to reel her back in.. ONLY for the sex

Chances are she is taking dikz elsewhere now.. These desperate online girls, don't hang around long.
 

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I hear you man, my last online plate was at best a HB7, but boy was the sex amazing, this chick loved to be dominated, and there was NOTHING she would not do sex wise..

Things just when dramatically down hill, when she decided she wanted more commitment..

The sex just stopped, heck she wouldn't even talk about sex anymore..

Then the hot/cold games started.. In the end, I decided to walk away..

Man I still feel like trying to reel her back in.. ONLY for the sex

Chances are she is taking dikz elsewhere now.. These desperate online girls, don't hang around long.
Why you surprised at least you got laid

Women don't have sex just for sex, eventually they want something more

I had a girl who was smarter than your chick, she wanted the commitment first before she put out needless to say after 1 date and hanging out once at my house I never say that bytch again
 

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I believe there is a certain level of disrespect from women towards men regarding online dating. They dont know you from anywhere else, and they know they have 5 other guys waiting in line in case things go sideways with you, so they will have no problem flaking on you, ghosting you or just disappear on you if they want.
Its just the nature of the online game.
 

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I believe there is a certain level of disrespect from women towards men regarding online dating. They dont know you from anywhere else, and they know they have 5 other guys waiting in line in case things go sideways with you, so they will have no problem flaking on you, ghosting you or just disappear on you if they want.
Its just the nature of the online game.
It's not disrespect, it's just consumerism for you. Relationships are commodified.
 
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I believe there is a certain level of disrespect from women towards men regarding online dating. They dont know you from anywhere else, and they know they have 5 other guys waiting in line in case things go sideways with you, so they will have no problem flaking on you, ghosting you or just disappear on you if they want.
Its just the nature of the online game.
so lower standards? why would they go for 5 other guys if you are 2 times more fit than them(unless they are rich/vgoodlooking)

but i agree, OLD is ****yy
 

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Why you surprised at least you got laid

Women don't have sex just for sex, eventually they want something more

I had a girl who was smarter than your chick, she wanted the commitment first before she put out needless to say after 1 date and hanging out once at my house I never say that bytch again
Well this one is not commitment worthy dude.. Too many red flags.. But I missed a trick here.. I should have PRETENDED to give her commitment..

Just played along with it, as long as I was getting crazy sex off her, it's worth giving her a few commitment scraps.

What put me off was, she used manipulation in order to get commitment.. Witholding sex, flaking etc..

Your points are valid though.. You are more likely to be disrespected, played with, flaked on by online girls, as they have way too many options, and do not give a fuk about trampling over your feelings.

Even the fatties have a inflated sense of entitlement..
 

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Well this one is not commitment worthy dude.. Too many red flags.. But I missed a trick here.. I should have PRETENDED to give her commitment..

Just played along with it, as long as I was getting crazy sex off her, it's worth giving her a few commitment scraps.

What put me off was, she used manipulation in order to get commitment.. Witholding sex, flaking etc..

Your points are valid though.. You are more likely to be disrespected, played with, flaked on by online girls, as they have way too many options, and do not give a fuk about trampling over your feelings.

Even the fatties have a inflated sense of entitlement..
agree with the fatties part LOL
 

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Yeah the market today is sh*t. Just awful.
Just wait a few months for the dating app where people match based on having the same STD's.
There is one out there for people with Herpes.
 

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Well this one is not commitment worthy dude.. Too many red flags.. But I missed a trick here.. I should have PRETENDED to give her commitment..

Just played along with it, as long as I was getting crazy sex off her, it's worth giving her a few commitment scraps.

What put me off was, she used manipulation in order to get commitment.. Witholding sex, flaking etc...
She started to spin her web the first day you banged her. It worked, you're talking about her a lot, making constant threads about her, wishing you could have the sex again. The kinky all in sex is what does it.

You think you could have "played along", but you would have eventually gotten stuck in her toxic web.
 
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