Online Dating Sucks!

[HeyPachuco!]

K,

I've number closed with this girl Online. She hasn't really seen any pics of me except for the few. She's one of those girls who have been sucked into a life of Facebook and Messenger.

Have been speaking for atleast 2weeks now. From various conversations over the phone, I've seen her tone of voice derrange from being unfamiliar and one-worded to happy, familiar and shy. Having been in previous relationships that have stemmed from the Internet, I want to lead astray from all of the Cyberworld with this one. I said to her, if she'd come down and hang with me for a few days (She lives about 45 minutes away from me), and she said ''yeah whats wrong with that?", and "you forgot about that"

How can I make this seem more of a Daygame Date than an Online Dating date? I don't feel pushed, even being tested Online. She asked if I would be coming back on Messenger after a phone call and I said ''I Might next year'' - I havent logged into my Facebook for atleast 4days now (Only for notifications on events) and very rarely Messenger.

Suggestions?

 

[Solomon]

K,

I've number closed with this girl Online. She hasn't really seen any pics of me except for the few. She's one of those girls who have been sucked into a life of Facebook and Messenger.

Have been speaking for atleast 2weeks now.

That's where I stopped reading, if you "still" talking after two weeks, and haven't met, then that's a problem. IL goes down week after week, hell day after day. A rule a buddy of mine had which I have implmented in real life and online is, if I meet a chick(online or in person), the objective is to hang/meet her within two weeks, if that doesn't happen then move on. Yes there are circumstances where this might not pan out (conflicting schedules, work, school, vacation)but that's why it's two weeks instead of two days. If a girl really is feeling you it's gonna happen. I've met girls online, and later on met them in person the same day!

Solo

p.s. if a chick asks me to talk to her on messnger after the phone talk why would I do that? why would you do that? you are making yourself to aviable and she is one of those chicks who loves being on the comp getting attention(yeah I'm sterotyping). I can't remember the last time I talked on messnger, I look on it now and it's an hindrance think about it email--messnger-phone number or email-phone number. It's like another DJ who tells me he doesn't use texting, some of these things can be barriers and hinderances. F THAT,

 

[Tyson420]

Most of the time attractive girls in our age group log onto those sites to be showered with compliments and attention to maintain their ego. Really pointless, just go outside.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Online dating sucks if you treat it as "online dating", as in, "let's date over the computer only, with IM's, chat, emails, "pokes", etc.

Get the phone ASAP, and call. If she refuses to give you her phone number, tell her to call you. If you are not talking within a few days, move onto the next one who will.

As soon as you talk, invite her to get together, gage interest, and be efficient.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Solomon - I guess you're right my man, I have been lousy with hooking up with her. Maybe 2weeks of intimate chatting was pushing it abit. Really and truly, I got her number a week ago, and only started talking via phone this week (really because I haven't been bothered to ring and I've made mistakes in telling her WHEN I was going to ring - which takes away any mystery that was already there, thats why its vertually taken longer). Thats why I said 2weeks talking, not really talking thou. I haven't given the impression that I'm readily available, reasons why its kinda been in prolonged activity in hooking up. But I've blatantly suggested that first time talking, and she approved. I've disqualified any intentions that she's taking up any of my time. Along with all the circumstances mentioned, she lives 45 to a hour away from me, (Why waste time and effort with girl that far away), but I prefer dating girls who live outside of my town. I get to hear less stories on people I dislike, different and vibrant conversations, its fresh, more activities to do with her in our towns (new to me, new to her), Brings more mystery, the only pitfull would be it getting into a LTR.

Tyson420 - You're right. Attractive Girls in are age bank are living on these sites. Its kinda hard to find a girl who isn't on Facebook 24/7 these days. The first thing I get asked is "Add me on facebook" or ''Come on Facebookchat '', sorry I mean told. And this is with Daygame Number closes. It isn't even ''Do you have a Facebook''. If you don't have one or aren't reguarly on there, you sort of get looked down on or don't have the social proof grasped. But then again, these sites are easy examples of SOCIAL PROOF when challenged (thats if you have it). In this case and girl, I have it. Theres actually a Group on Facebook called ''I Thought You Where Good Looking Until I Clicked MORE PICS" - Things like this are just barriers for example. Girls like scrutinizing you even if you've number closed them in the f'ing street! Thats why I get puzzled sometimes whether its really a ''Do you have game?'' thing to ''Its a looks thing''. Simply just ''go outside'' isn't cracking it totally for the some Attractive chicks, once you number close and the hail of texting comes through. Guaranteed some discussion will come up about Facebook.

Gangster Of Love - When first talking to her, I escalated quickly, telling her ''What was a better way to keep in touch'', then she said ''Facebook for NOW '', making it seem asif its a leveling up system where you get better privledges as you go. so I made up something in which I left my number, she messaged back asking what network I was on and that she had saved it and eventually texted me. I've done the whole false-disqualifying, teasing etc ..She seems pretty co-operative and approving at the minute. I'd like to hook-up by next mid-week (which is when I have time).

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Solomon - I guess you're right my man, I have been lousy with hooking up with her. Maybe 2weeks of intimate chatting was pushing it abit, I got her number a week ago, and only started talking via phone this week. I haven't given the impression that I'm readily available, thats why its kinda been in prolonged activity in hooking up. But I've blatantly suggested that first time talking, and she approved. I've disqualified any intentions that she's taking up any of my time. Along with all the circumstances mentioned, she lives 45 to a hour away from me, (Why waste time and effort with girl that far away), but I prefer dating girls who live outside of my town. I get to hear less stories on people I dislike, different and vibrant conversations, its fresh, more activities to do with her in our towns (new to me, new to her), Brings more mystery, the only pitfull would be it getting into a LTR.

Tyson420 - You're right. Attractive Girls in are age bank are living on these sites. Its kinda hard to find a girl who isn't on Facebook 24/7 these days. The first thing I get asked is "Add me on facebook" or ''Come on Facebookchat '', sorry I mean told. And this is with Daygame. It isn't even ''Do you have a Facebook''. If you don't have one or aren't reguarly on there, you sort of get looked down on or don't have the social proof grasped. But then again, these sites are easy examples of SOCIAL PROOF when challenged (thats if you have it). In this case and girl, I have it. Simply just ''go outside'' isn't cracking it totally for the majority of chicks, once you number close and the hail of texting comes through. Guaranteed some discussion will come up about Facebook.

Gangster Of Love - When first talking to her, I escalated quickly, asking for her number, she didnt reply to that message, so I made up something in which I left my number, she messaged back asking what network I was on and that she had saved it and eventually texted me. I've done the whole false-disqualifying, teasing etc ..She seems pretty approving at the minute. I'd like to hook-up by next mid-week (which is when I have time).

Do you have her number? Have you talked to her on the phone yet? If not, you need to get that going, even before you "hook-up". If you can't get that, then you can conclude she knows what you're up to, and she's just not interested in you that way. No need to frustrated yourself by "tricking" her or making up some scenario to get her to call you, etc.

By the way, Facebook, My Space, etc. are not "online dating" per se. Those are social networking sites, in which "dating", "hooking up", or "meeting" new people are not the priorities, as in straight out dating sites like PoF, Match.com, eharmony, etc. The fram on Facebook is totally different; in other words, social networking sites are not as conducive, and most of the time you will not be on the same page with the girl when it comes to meeting new people. They are there to connect with people they already know.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Been conversating with this other girl online. Shes not even a good 6/ 7. And she's got such a sense of entitlement, the way she portrays herself you would think shes a hard 10+...

Anyway, I asked her about a club scenario and asked about a guy approaching her, she said it ''depends'' and then ''What you look like''.

How can I combat her demoralizing antics? I want to break her down...any tips?


Anyway, to the original post - This girl's been texting me from 9:42 to 11:30am, going to put the smack down for next week, do or die or its next! I've already NEXTED 2 girls so far. One of them went as so far to search and destroy on Facebook on one of my other plates, totally ****blocked.

 

[Andy_Dufresne]

HeyPachuco, at your age (21) online should only be used as a last resort and only as a resource to buttress your own social life. Facebook especially...... is really only for hoggas and married women. If a woman on there is even remotely good looking she has over 500 friends on her list and is using FB just to massage her ego.

No woman worth their salt is gonna be messing with Facebook, Match, Twitter, or any other online nonsense. This holds true for all ages and especially for a 21yo.

Go live, have the b^lls to expand your social circle and cold approach as much as possible.

If you still feel the need to use online, don't f^ck around - get her digits by the second interaction - or in an extreme case, by the third interaction. Remember a woman has formed her opinion of you within seconds of your first introduction - online or otherwise.