I've had some success in online dating in the last 6 months, including several bangs including on first dates, I mainly use Match and OKCupid, though prefer the latter. Even when the date is on you need to filter them so they won't waste your time.
Last night for example I went out with a posh 37 year old divorced girl who drank coke and backed off when I sat next to her, even having the audacity to ask why, as if I need a reason to sit next to a date, she then told me how boring she is never going out and sitting at home watching talent shows with her friends. I could have avoided that total time waste by pushing the button a little by text to see what I could expect.
The previous 3 girls this week have been pretty good. One girl I played the boring game by not pushing at all then suddenly kissed her at the end. Sent her some sexual innuendo texts a couple of days later and she sent me a smiley and asked if it's an invite (for basically sex), in other words she's DTF. The second one I kissed as well. I invited her for some "tea and biscuits" as second date, she just laughed asking if that's what it's called these days, but she's off travelling this week so it may have to be next week if she doesn't flake. The third one was a Japanese girl two nights ago, had a couple of rounds of drinks, moved to sit next to her, held her hand and told her how adorable she was. Kissed her. Rubbed her leg. She told me she wants to come to my place "someday" which I misinterpreted as sunday (would have done it then if I didn't have family round). Slapped her arse on the way out of the bar. She stood in the corner to smoke, I put one hand on her arse in her backpocket.
Yet around 1 in 3 girls tends to be a flake even after I get her phone number and it seems the date is on. I thought it would be a good idea to share those messages so you have an idea of the sort of excuses you see.
Here is a list of recent flakes from the last 2 weeks:
Girl 1:
Arrange a date a few days before with no objection.
HB7: "Hi - really sorry but I'm no longer free on Tuesday"
A minute later: HB7: "Forgot I have dental surgery in the morning!"
LMFAO: "OK let's arrange later then"
May or may not bother rearranging this later in the week..
Bad vibe on this though: No counteroffer, suddenly realising she can't make it out of no where, sent an excuse a minute later and no reply to my text. If you notice the messages are sort of conflicting, "I'm no longer free" as if she's busy doing something else that night. She probably is or just doesn't want to see me.
Girl 2:
HB6.5: I'm studying for exams. Can't be distracted
LMFAO: Oh cool. Well good luck.
HB6.5:
LMFAO: Yeah I understand, you can't be too turned on otherwise you'd lose your concentration
HB6.5: Thanks for the luck..
LMFAO: Hit me up when the fantasies get the better of you
A week later: HB6.5: Lol exams are over..My fantasies..Hmm are you going to make them come true?
LMFAO: Depends if you play your cards right Wednesday 8pm at x, cool?
No reply. Attention seeker most likely.
Girl 3:
HB7: How about we go for beers sometime?
LMFAO: OK cool, I'm busy at the moment, next week good for you?
HB7: Cool
4 days later: LMFAO: Hey so when are you free this week?
HB7: Hey! Can meet you anytime for coffee.
LMFAO: Lol did you downgrade me already? I'm not so much of a coffee connoisseur and I'm too shy for it How about the beers we talked about?
The next day:
HB7: Sorry I've been busy with my passport
HB7: OK np. Let me know when.
LMFAO: Wednesday, 8pm cool? (She only had 2 more days here at the time)
HB7: It's my last day here so not sure if I can make it, I'll let you know..
LMFAO: OK..I'll be busy Tuesday, how about in the afternoon then?
HB7: Not sure I can..I'll let ya know
She's obviously a big fan of I'll let you/ya know. Yes, haven't heard from her since. Nor do I want to. Just someone who doesn't have any idea what she wants and probably met other guys as I saw she's been going to party events during the week.
Girl 4:
LMFAO: "We should grab a drink sometime, what are ur plans for the week?"
A day later: HB7.5: "Sorry for the delayed reply, it's just a really bad time for me at the mo. My grandma is terminally ill so I'm spending every waking hour at the hospital. Let's be in touch when I'm more with it x".
LMFAO: OK sorry to hear.
This one seems actually genuine will try again in a couple of months.
Girl 5:
Arranged date with her earlier in the week for Friday, as she said she was free end of the week and I was busy as well.
I text girls around noon to 2pm on date of date to confirm it's on.
LMFAO: See you tonight at 9 outside x, don't be late
2 hours later: Hi I am really unwell today just left the doctors and have tonsillitis so I think we better postpone tonight. Sorry.
LMFAO: Get better soon
No specific counteroffer here but at least she said postpone and the "really" before the unwell makes it sound it could be half genuine. But you never know especially given she only told me on the day. Difficult to know if genuine or not, will follow up next week.
I've also had a number of girls who laughably wouldn't give out their phone number from online dating yet they still want to have a date. One girl gave me this bull**** line that she believes that "trust has to be earned" as if she's doing me a huge favour giving me her phone number and that it actually means something. Imagine turning up to the date and she's late or you can't find her, just for logistics sake it's impossible let alone the lack of compliance before the date even. No phone number is an automatic disqualifier. Fvck them.
Last night for example I went out with a posh 37 year old divorced girl who drank coke and backed off when I sat next to her, even having the audacity to ask why, as if I need a reason to sit next to a date, she then told me how boring she is never going out and sitting at home watching talent shows with her friends. I could have avoided that total time waste by pushing the button a little by text to see what I could expect.
The previous 3 girls this week have been pretty good. One girl I played the boring game by not pushing at all then suddenly kissed her at the end. Sent her some sexual innuendo texts a couple of days later and she sent me a smiley and asked if it's an invite (for basically sex), in other words she's DTF. The second one I kissed as well. I invited her for some "tea and biscuits" as second date, she just laughed asking if that's what it's called these days, but she's off travelling this week so it may have to be next week if she doesn't flake. The third one was a Japanese girl two nights ago, had a couple of rounds of drinks, moved to sit next to her, held her hand and told her how adorable she was. Kissed her. Rubbed her leg. She told me she wants to come to my place "someday" which I misinterpreted as sunday (would have done it then if I didn't have family round). Slapped her arse on the way out of the bar. She stood in the corner to smoke, I put one hand on her arse in her backpocket.
Yet around 1 in 3 girls tends to be a flake even after I get her phone number and it seems the date is on. I thought it would be a good idea to share those messages so you have an idea of the sort of excuses you see.
Here is a list of recent flakes from the last 2 weeks:
Girl 1:
Arrange a date a few days before with no objection.
HB7: "Hi - really sorry but I'm no longer free on Tuesday"
A minute later: HB7: "Forgot I have dental surgery in the morning!"
LMFAO: "OK let's arrange later then"
May or may not bother rearranging this later in the week..
Bad vibe on this though: No counteroffer, suddenly realising she can't make it out of no where, sent an excuse a minute later and no reply to my text. If you notice the messages are sort of conflicting, "I'm no longer free" as if she's busy doing something else that night. She probably is or just doesn't want to see me.
Girl 2:
HB6.5: I'm studying for exams. Can't be distracted
LMFAO: Oh cool. Well good luck.
HB6.5:
LMFAO: Yeah I understand, you can't be too turned on otherwise you'd lose your concentration
HB6.5: Thanks for the luck..
LMFAO: Hit me up when the fantasies get the better of you
A week later: HB6.5: Lol exams are over..My fantasies..Hmm are you going to make them come true?
LMFAO: Depends if you play your cards right
Wednesday 8pm at x, cool?No reply. Attention seeker most likely.
Girl 3:
HB7: How about we go for beers sometime?
LMFAO: OK cool, I'm busy at the moment, next week good for you?
HB7: Cool
4 days later: LMFAO: Hey so when are you free this week?
HB7: Hey! Can meet you anytime for coffee.
LMFAO: Lol did you downgrade me already? I'm not so much of a coffee connoisseur and I'm too shy for it
How about the beers we talked about?The next day:
HB7: Sorry I've been busy with my passport
HB7: OK np. Let me know when.
LMFAO: Wednesday, 8pm cool? (She only had 2 more days here at the time)
HB7: It's my last day here so not sure if I can make it, I'll let you know..
LMFAO: OK..I'll be busy Tuesday, how about in the afternoon then?
HB7: Not sure I can..I'll let ya know
She's obviously a big fan of I'll let you/ya know. Yes, haven't heard from her since. Nor do I want to. Just someone who doesn't have any idea what she wants and probably met other guys as I saw she's been going to party events during the week.
Girl 4:
LMFAO: "We should grab a drink sometime, what are ur plans for the week?"
A day later: HB7.5: "Sorry for the delayed reply, it's just a really bad time for me at the mo. My grandma is terminally ill so I'm spending every waking hour at the hospital. Let's be in touch when I'm more with it x".
LMFAO: OK sorry to hear.
This one seems actually genuine will try again in a couple of months.
Girl 5:
Arranged date with her earlier in the week for Friday, as she said she was free end of the week and I was busy as well.
I text girls around noon to 2pm on date of date to confirm it's on.
LMFAO: See you tonight at 9 outside x, don't be late
2 hours later: Hi I am really unwell today just left the doctors and have tonsillitis
so I think we better postpone tonight. Sorry.LMFAO: Get better soon
No specific counteroffer here but at least she said postpone and the "really" before the unwell makes it sound it could be half genuine. But you never know especially given she only told me on the day. Difficult to know if genuine or not, will follow up next week.
I've also had a number of girls who laughably wouldn't give out their phone number from online dating yet they still want to have a date. One girl gave me this bull**** line that she believes that "trust has to be earned" as if she's doing me a huge favour giving me her phone number and that it actually means something. Imagine turning up to the date and she's late or you can't find her, just for logistics sake it's impossible let alone the lack of compliance before the date even. No phone number is an automatic disqualifier. Fvck them.
