Online Dating is Better Than Sarging In Real Life!!!

[chickenlegs03]

I hope this will help some of you. Of course this is a re-hash with my own insertions. All the tips on this site, all the posts, all the books you will ever read, and even history itself, is a re-hash. But perhaps it is repeated over and over because people seem to forget. Hopefully this will be a nice reminder for some of you. I need to remind myself every now and then too.

#1. Be More Open. Be Open to Everyone and Everything. Be Ready to Change All Your Beliefs at Any Time. Do Not Cling to One Perspective.

I sense a lot of hostility on these boards. If we are here learning to be men, let's remember that real men don't throw fits at each other, don't flame each other every second, don't whine, etc. Let's all grow up a little.

Do not dismiss knowledge. Regardless of the source, do not dismiss it.

A lot of you dismiss online dating as a repulsive, asocial activity. Lately, I have seen some helpful members who try and post tips, and rather than thank them, you bash them. You believe that online dating is crap. That is your belief. Everything is beliefs. You create your reality from those beliefs. Those beliefs affect your emotions and perspective on life events.

To dismiss online dating entirely is to close an open door of opportunity to meet women.

I can see where you are coming from. I used to bash it too. I thought all guys who used it were losers with no social skills. And perhaps it is not "DJ" to sarge online. But what really is "DJ" and why do you care so much if you are "DJ" or not? Do you care if others were to see you sarge online, and think negatively of you? Maybe you think that would happen because it is a mirror of your own belief system.

It all goes back to insecurities and egos. Tone down the ego a notch, and realized that for some of you, online could be a great opportunity. It does not mean you no longer sarge in daily life. These are all assumptions you believe to be true because of your own insecurities.

I am personally not great at online sarging. However, I do not bash others who use it. More power to them. In fact, maybe I could learn from them. Maybe we could all learn from them, if not from their persistence to share their knowledge. Is that not why we are here, to learn from each other?

(by the way, I purposely titled this thread as such to draw more attention to it. However, that is not to say the belief is not valid. It can be perfectly valid for some and not others. Again, to refute it's validity is to close the door of opportunity...I hope you can grasp this because it applies to every single area of life, not just online dating - though that was more applicable and an easier example here)

 

[DonJuanByNature]

Sarging...

Listen, it doesn matter how, when or where, if there is a girl you can talk to, you should not waste the opportunity... Hence, it can be a gas station, a grocery store, street, club, bar, friends house, diner, casino, ONLINE, anywhere, its better to try then not.... I have hooked up from just about every possible location or scenario, HOWEVER, sarging LIVE has its advantage cause you get to see if you have chemistry (physical) right there on the spot... I say, sarge EVERYWHERE (including online) but keep in mind, live you can qualify right then and there...

ps... I was one of the first people on AOL, and I lost my VIRGINITY to it.. I was 15, she was 22 yo fitness trainer 36 double D t.its...

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Yes, what great advice (can you sense my sarcasm?)

What great advice to give a group of insecure, anti-social, "fraidy cats" AFC's, a SAFE non-skill building method of meeting women.

I'm "closing the door" of online dating for guys who post here everyday about how they can't approach or how they get scared and can't talk to girls. I'm positive that the same guys that have difficulty approaching a girl in person will most likely have a problem gaming her once they meet. Shyt I even believe that most guys here are too lame to even game a chick through silly messages on myspace. If your lame in person you will be lame in prose.

 

[DJ_in_making]

#1. Be More Open. Be Open to Everyone and Everything. Be Ready to Change All Your Beliefs at Any Time. Do Not Cling to One Perspective.

you're absolutely right. I go on myspace myself time to time. You should take any opportunity to meet chicks. But the most important thing is your game won't improve much from sarging online.
If you can sarge in real life you can sarge online, but not necessarily the other way around.
There are SO, SOooO many barriers online that you won't have to deal with in the field. (There are barriers in the field too! but much less).
You're competing against AFC's!! You can approach a hot babe, and she may be receptive because you are the only one that did it. A HB...even a UG... on myspace get tons of letters, even from guys who would never approach her in person.
But hell, it doesn't exactly hurt your game either, just don't make it first priority.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

 

[skip2mylou781]

the girls u see online r the same ones u see out on the street anyway.....and there are some good fvcks waiting online, I would kno cuz ive fvcked about 30 girls from various internet sites!!! (buddyppic, myspace, thedilly, faceparty, whimit) - its easy if u got 10 free minutes to chat up to a girl online and get her # there and then move on to a real life encounter ASAP, its wat ive done and the ones i met have been normal 6's - 9's, no weird or ugly girls for the most part ( a few exceptions occurded, but i just ditched them like an assh0le lol)

 

[walletjes]

so whats a good state by stat chat room things, other than yahoo?

 

[skip2mylou781]

chat rooms are NOT the way to go in the 21st century - its myspace all the way and other "Dating" sites, but NOT chatrooms

 

[walletjes]

there used to be some big chat servers till they got shutdown/bankrupt where i was pulling chicks left and right, but now they are mostly infested with bots, so im looking for something that has more real people in it

example...talkcity, dalnet used to be good spots, but dont exist anymore.

now if mysapce had regional chats...that jsut would be score

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Online Dating is Better Than Sarging In Real Life!!!

Hey bro your still cool but I going to disagree.

First point:

I used to do that stupid chat room stuff. That only made things worst and none of the girls wanted to meet up with me.

I hate to say this but girls probaly into love chat rooms and use fake hot pictures and go " thats me ". Then they have mad guys wanting to offer them d!ck. When it's really some ugly or fat 300lb chick.

Second point:

You don't know who behind the computer. You could think it's some hot chick and it be some 40year ago gay guy preventing to be a girl. Or some 12 year old girl acting like she is 30 years old.

Third point:

Is this a joke ?
You gotta be kinding bro ? It's fun going up to girls and turning apporaches into instand dates. Or even making out with a girl in real life.

I don't think being behind a computer jacking off to some girl's pic is very cool.

 

[chickenlegs03]

nah, I'm not joking. But look, my main point was:

#1. Be More Open. Be Open to Everyone and Everything. Be Ready to Change All Your Beliefs at Any Time. Do Not Cling to One Perspective.

I personally don't like online dating and I'm not good at it. I love approaching girls in the real-world. It's fun, exciting, and reading profiles and the whole chat thing...I don't know, for me it's boring.

Honestly, after writing this, last night I browsed through the first 5 pages of girls in my area, on myspace. And honestly, I didn't really find many of them attractive, maybe 2-3 at most. Does that make myspace gay? No, it just makes me not use it. At least not for the time being.

I don't think being behind a computer jacking off to some girl's pic is very cool.

...I used to think this way. But that's a generalization. Just because someone uses the Internet for a dating source, it does not make them a loser like that. There's some guys who get laid tons and meet great girls online.

It could make things worse if you are already asocial. Of course.

All I'm saying is, do your own thing, whatever it is. Don't hate because you're not good at something...bashing just reveals insecurities and fears.

I'm reading a great book right now that says "there can be another way." Nothing is set in stone. Forget what you know, no one knows everything. If you want online dating to work for you, it will. If you don't want it to work, and keep thinking it is "gay" then it won't work. It will keep being gay.

And if you don't want it, don't bash others who do. It keeps the boards a lot less cluttered with meaningless bashing-posts that don't do anybody any good.

Here's a quick analogy...tons of people shop online nowadays. Are they avoiding social interactions...because, hey, nowadays you can do almost anything from the comfort of your own home. If you think they are losers for it, and avoid it...fine, you don't have to exclaim to everyone and bash their existence. Perhaps it's more convenient for them. Likewise, maybe online dating is more convenient for some.

Just because you or I may have reservations about something it doesn't mean it's worthless or doesn't and can't work for others.

You don't have to like everything, just be more mature and open-minded...LOL, maybe I'm getting old...

edit: and for anyone who's a fan of Player_Supreme...he did lots of convos online. But it didn't make him a loser in real-life.

 

[walletjes]

many many hot milfs and married women log onto chat

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Yes, what great advice (can you sense my sarcasm?)

What great advice to give a group of insecure, anti-social, "fraidy cats" AFC's, a SAFE non-skill building method of meeting women.

I'm "closing the door" of online dating for guys who post here everyday about how they can't approach or how they get scared and can't talk to girls. I'm positive that the same guys that have difficulty approaching a girl in person will most likely have a problem gaming her once they meet. Shyt I even believe that most guys here are too lame to even game a chick through silly messages on myspace. If your lame in person you will be lame in prose.

Most works is done on these PRIMING dates and SEDUCTION dates. And we all know that a 30 minute date with coffee involved could be scripted, kino-choreographed, and acted all out - all involving conversations that turn romantic, adventurous or sexual.

The point is setting up these dates in the first place, not on how you are setting them up. The ends justify the means, and online sarging is another means to the end and can not be dismissed.

 

[manbearpig]

^Luke has a good point. Its only loser-y/and or a waste of time if its all online and you never meet up in real life. Otherwise its just another way of meeting chicks.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

#1. Be More Open. Be Open to Everyone and Everything. Be Ready to Change All Your Beliefs at Any Time. Do Not Cling to One Perspective.

I'm adding that to the journal tips.

All I'm saying is, do your own thing, whatever it is. Don't hate because you're not good at something...bashing just reveals insecurities and fears.

Fear is misunderstanding. A book remmocend by david deangelo

Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Here's a quick analogy...tons of people shop online nowadays. Are they avoiding social interactions...because, hey, nowadays you can do almost anything from the comfort of your own home.

Sometimes you can find more stuff online and it's faster. Also saves money on gas.
But you should go to the mall for social interaction.

edit: and for anyone who's a fan of Player_Supreme...he did lots of convos online. But it didn't make him a loser in real-life.

He had great stuff and a good pua. He has his own fourm. Look for some his old posts. But not to bash him he did get banned for acting up.
Player_Supreme a loser ? Hell No

Warning to men who meet women online.

You never know so becareful and try call the girl you meet online. Like I said the girl could show you a pic of a hot chick and say thats me but in reality be some 300lb fat chick. Or a gay guy or even some 12 year old girl. :kick:

My point is you never know same way when you apporach girls, she could be a lesbain, bisexual or have aids.
You never know

 

[SamePendo]

I just want to hear some sex story from DonJuanByNature . . . tell us more man!

I also happen to agree with what he said.