So, I haven't done online dating in awhile and decided to mess around with it since it's been several years since I last messed with it. I thought times might have changed some but my experience was a huge eye opener! The following are my experiences on match.com(I don't mess around with pof or okcupid).
-Used to be if you put up a few pics of you with good looking women, more women would be more apt to talk to you since the pics showed you weren't a creep since you were hanging around hot women. Not any longer, they won't talk to you if you have pics with hot girls in them because they automatically assume you're some sort of player. However, most women still have tons of random pics of them with random guys who they pass off as "friends", but we all know that's bs.
-Being direct in the first message doesn't work anymore. "Hey, I liked your profile and think we have a lot in common, let's get together one night this week...." or some sort of variation of that doesn't get a response anymore or the response you get is "I'm not going out with someone I don't know". This plan used to work like a charm but I guess so many guys are doing it now.
-The biggest thing you have to deal with is how many bad dates these women have been on and that's their sole reason for their apparent hesitation they have up to give you a chance. Makes you wonder why they chose to date the idiots and cant tell the difference between an idiot and a genuine decent guy. It's like real life, most girls choose to date bums, same thing online apparently.
-Don't wait to email a girl back or else she's already done with you. Even if you're busy and work 70 hours a week and don't get on every second of every day to check your messages that's no excuse apparently. But, they can be busy and take forever to get back to you and that's ok.lol I've never understood how so many women online can be so busy as they claim, but they sure do find the time to be online a lot.
-I had a date set up with one girl on a Sunday but she kept texting me non-stop and out of the blue pretty much invited herself over to my house Thursday. Brought her kid with her!!! Talk about awkward. Needless to say we didn't go on a date Sunday.lol The weird thing is apparently she lost interest for some reason, but it wasn't enough to leave my house. She hung out for over 4 hours. Why would you hangout with someone for 4 hours if you weren't interested? I'm glad we didn't go on the scheduled date though because the whole bringing your kid over to someone's house the first time just killed it for me anyways.
-Girls respond to confrontational messages. If you send her a message that's all nice and sweet she won't respond, but call her a name and then she's quick to respond.lol Just something I was trying out. Doesn't work but it is fun to get them all pissed off.
-Girls love to send you winks and when you email them they won't respond. Not sure what that's all about but whatever.
-There are tons of women STILL on match that I remember being on there 2 years ago!
-You can't ask random questions because for some reason they will make assumptions about you. I told one girl she looked hot in her heels. She accused me of having a foot fetish.lol The weird thing is most women on there are quick to want to talk about when do you want to have kids and when do you want to get married. Apparently they consider that normal and good conversation????
-You'll go a couple of weeks without getting a response from even average girls and then all of a sudden you'll have 15 messages from all kinds of girls. It's very weird. I thought it was fake profiles at first but it's not because I got their numbers.
-Girls are bad about having super high expectations on there and then when the date comes apparently they are let down or something. My pics are very recent(taken within the past month) so I know I look the same but for some reason when we go on the date(after they've contantly texted me and blown up my phone) it's like theyre all shy and standoffish.
-Oh, I went on a date with a beautiful girl! Or so I thought. Her pics indicated so anyways. I go on the date and the girl is crosseyed! None of her pics indicated this, I even looked at her facebook pics and didn't see anything like this at all! How the hell do you hide being crosseyed in pics so well??
-Girls on match LOVE to talk about their ex's or who they've been banging or whatever when you go on the date. I try to change the subject but they somehow bring it back to the ex and at the end they'll give you a speech about how you don't measure up to what theyre looking for.lol
-You can't get down on yourself with online dating, just remember you are being judged by some real fruitcakes.
-Used to be if you put up a few pics of you with good looking women, more women would be more apt to talk to you since the pics showed you weren't a creep since you were hanging around hot women. Not any longer, they won't talk to you if you have pics with hot girls in them because they automatically assume you're some sort of player. However, most women still have tons of random pics of them with random guys who they pass off as "friends", but we all know that's bs.
-Being direct in the first message doesn't work anymore. "Hey, I liked your profile and think we have a lot in common, let's get together one night this week...." or some sort of variation of that doesn't get a response anymore or the response you get is "I'm not going out with someone I don't know". This plan used to work like a charm but I guess so many guys are doing it now.
-The biggest thing you have to deal with is how many bad dates these women have been on and that's their sole reason for their apparent hesitation they have up to give you a chance. Makes you wonder why they chose to date the idiots and cant tell the difference between an idiot and a genuine decent guy. It's like real life, most girls choose to date bums, same thing online apparently.
-Don't wait to email a girl back or else she's already done with you. Even if you're busy and work 70 hours a week and don't get on every second of every day to check your messages that's no excuse apparently. But, they can be busy and take forever to get back to you and that's ok.lol I've never understood how so many women online can be so busy as they claim, but they sure do find the time to be online a lot.
-I had a date set up with one girl on a Sunday but she kept texting me non-stop and out of the blue pretty much invited herself over to my house Thursday. Brought her kid with her!!! Talk about awkward. Needless to say we didn't go on a date Sunday.lol The weird thing is apparently she lost interest for some reason, but it wasn't enough to leave my house. She hung out for over 4 hours. Why would you hangout with someone for 4 hours if you weren't interested? I'm glad we didn't go on the scheduled date though because the whole bringing your kid over to someone's house the first time just killed it for me anyways.
-Girls respond to confrontational messages. If you send her a message that's all nice and sweet she won't respond, but call her a name and then she's quick to respond.lol Just something I was trying out. Doesn't work but it is fun to get them all pissed off.
-Girls love to send you winks and when you email them they won't respond. Not sure what that's all about but whatever.
-There are tons of women STILL on match that I remember being on there 2 years ago!
-You can't ask random questions because for some reason they will make assumptions about you. I told one girl she looked hot in her heels. She accused me of having a foot fetish.lol The weird thing is most women on there are quick to want to talk about when do you want to have kids and when do you want to get married. Apparently they consider that normal and good conversation????
-You'll go a couple of weeks without getting a response from even average girls and then all of a sudden you'll have 15 messages from all kinds of girls. It's very weird. I thought it was fake profiles at first but it's not because I got their numbers.
-Girls are bad about having super high expectations on there and then when the date comes apparently they are let down or something. My pics are very recent(taken within the past month) so I know I look the same but for some reason when we go on the date(after they've contantly texted me and blown up my phone) it's like theyre all shy and standoffish.
-Oh, I went on a date with a beautiful girl! Or so I thought. Her pics indicated so anyways. I go on the date and the girl is crosseyed! None of her pics indicated this, I even looked at her facebook pics and didn't see anything like this at all! How the hell do you hide being crosseyed in pics so well??
-Girls on match LOVE to talk about their ex's or who they've been banging or whatever when you go on the date. I try to change the subject but they somehow bring it back to the ex and at the end they'll give you a speech about how you don't measure up to what theyre looking for.lol
-You can't get down on yourself with online dating, just remember you are being judged by some real fruitcakes.
