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CaptFinnBad

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Curious as to how you get matches if you are not really GL. Bio? Spotify? IG?
Do you ever ask the girls why they swiped right on you? I did and they just told me it was looks.
"My days are spent on beaches, in woods and in muddy fields.

I'm grounded, ambitious but not massively materialistic.

I have a German Shepherd and as he's such a massive part of my world, so I think he needs a special mention. "

Dunno that's my bio. I don't have Spotify, or Instagram. I'm not tinder, it didn't work for me.


I wouldn't say I'm great looking, but I'm not ugly either. It's not the 10's messaging me either. The women are decent enough though , some of them what I would actually consider more attractive then me , some less.

Mabye these women just like German shepherds, my dog might be my selling point lol.
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Also I keep a folder with notes just in case. It's easy to get conversations confused trust me had that happen you do not want to embarrass yourself because you attributing wrong info to the wrong chick.

Haha something happened yesterday night that reminded me of you and your notepad!!!

I got birthdays messed up. I said to one of them your birthday is in December isn't it!!!

She was like "NOOO , I HAVE NEVER TOLD YOU MY BIRTHDAY, AND MY BIRTHDAY IS IN JULY !!!!, Who is this women's birthday that's in December ? "


I burst out laughing , just said "OOPS. I think I better start keeping a notepad".

Turned it into a big joke.

Conversation then went to star signs.

She was like "December very incompatible star sign with you, miss December is trouble for you!". Haha

It was such a fun conversation. She's not originally from my country and has the most adorable broken English pretend to be mad accent.


what notepad details do you keep?
 
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Haha something happened yesterday night that reminded me of you and your notepad!!!

I got birthdays messed up. I said to one of them your birthday is in December isn't it!!!

She was like "NOOO , I HAVE NEVER TOLD YOU MY BIRTHDAY, AND MY BIRTHDAY IS IN JULY !!!!, Who is this women's birthday that's in December ? "


I burst out laughing , just said "OOPS. I think I better start keeping a notepad".

Turned it into a big joke.

Conversation then went to star signs.

She was like "December very incompatible star sign with you, miss December is trouble for you!". Haha

It was such a fun conversation. She's not originally from my country and has the most adorable broken English pretend to be mad accent.


what notepad details do you keep?
You can use the notepad that comes with your computer, or Microsoft word, or on your phone

Good luck
 

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Another word of advice I would give is do not waste your time on low-effort women meaning

-One-word replies
-Don't ask you questions
-Take 24 hours or longer to respond
-Want to text or message endlessly (If you have to ask a woman more than twice for a date she is wasting your time)

Typically these women interest is low and most likely they are talking to other men. I found that women who are interested in you aren't going to make you wait 24 hours before they respond or sent you a message, typically they respond within hours or even minutes. Those are the women you should focus on taking on a date. I personally do not bother with low-effort women and unmatch them. In 2025 women have gotten very lazy and low effort in online dating that to me it's a red flag, because if they are low-effort even doing the basics most likely they would be low effort to if you date them or even spin them as a plate.
 

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I'm 165cm, attractive, dating apps automatically filter out girls who aren't interested in this height, but there are others who are very interested, although I'm very sure that if they had seen me in person, height wouldn't have mattered too much.

Of course, one thing we don't talk about, but it's very important, is your scene: where do you live? city, suburbs or countryside?

It's a truth that if you live in a place that is "active" socially and for social life in general, you will receive much more correspondence.
 
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I'm 40 now. Come out of a longterm relationship, getting ready to get back out there.

Thinking about doing a bit of online dating. I've always done alright in the past using online so I have a rough idea what to expect, although that's going back a good few years!

I want to have a bit of fun this year after being in a relationship for so long.

I want to maximise efficiency of online. Plenty of opportunities to meet women in real life, but I'm figuring I may as well use online as a tool .

So looking at advice on crafting a good profile, what types of pictures work best, things to stick on the profile and what to leave out.

Is it better to have multiple accounts with different providers or stick to one platform?

Which are the better sites for free users. E.t.c.

Basically everything and anything in regards on maximising efficiency when using online.

Really not interested in negativity bashing online dating or anything depressing like that.

Looking to actually putting a little time and effort setting it all up just to get the best results I can.

So guys share your tips, advice, what gets you the best results..
Tinder, go Gold from the start (otherwise your profile will be burrowed under Gold users profiles), swipe right on aproxx. 40% of profiles whether you like them or not, use boosts on Mon/Tues during travel-from work and early post work hours (5 PM to 7 PM).

Put the best photo of your face (but w/o direct-into camera stare) , but also some photos showing your whole body (if you are looking fine, preferably in good clothes), some interesting photos from the holidays are great. Do not go with photos showing muscles, naked torso etc. - but it's fine to be in comfy clothes showing you are well built, leaving more for female imagination.

If you have good career path, put the info on the profile (if you are a doctor or smthng its a must).

When it comes to swiping, try to collect as much marches as possible, when chick engages you in convo but you are bot into her, still reply and keep convo going for a while (application mechanics promotes profiles that have positive balance of ongoing convos vs profiles that end interactions quickly & remove pairs - so to some extent it promotes being a nice guy - the more matches and ongoing convos you have, the more likely your profile will be shown to more attractive females.)

When it comes to description, no description is the best (it gives a bit of player vibe but also helps to exchange initial convo

Do not lie about your height. If you aren't tall, do not fill in the information (it's not required), women that will swipe right on you will understand why you did not put height in.
 

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Tinder, go Gold from the start (otherwise your profile will be burrowed under Gold users profiles), swipe right on aproxx. 40% of profiles whether you like them or not, use boosts on Mon/Tues during travel-from work and early post work hours (5 PM to 7 PM).

Put the best photo of your face (but w/o direct-into camera stare) , but also some photos showing your whole body (if you are looking fine, preferably in good clothes), some interesting photos from the holidays are great. Do not go with photos showing muscles, naked torso etc. - but it's fine to be in comfy clothes showing you are well built, leaving more for female imagination.

If you have good career path, put the info on the profile (if you are a doctor or smthng its a must).

When it comes to swiping, try to collect as much marches as possible, when chick engages you in convo but you are bot into her, still reply and keep convo going for a while (application mechanics promotes profiles that have positive balance of ongoing convos vs profiles that end interactions quickly & remove pairs - so to some extent it promotes being a nice guy - the more matches and ongoing convos you have, the more likely your profile will be shown to more attractive females.)

When it comes to description, no description is the best (it gives a bit of player vibe but also helps to exchange initial convo

Do not lie about your height. If you aren't tall, do not fill in the information (it's not required), women that will swipe right on you will understand why you did not put height in.
Thanks man. This is exactly the type of reply I was looking for. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on this I really appreciate it.
 
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