Online Dating and females weeding out techniques

[CoandaEffect]

I just read OP again and see that I did not really answer his question.

Women on OLD are inundated with guys so they will reject you for any tiny thing. It does not matter just move on and try another women. It’s a volume thing.

Also when you message them you need to say something constructive, not “Good Morning”. Comment on their profile, say you like it and why. Comment on a photo, ask where it was taken. You need to say something that proves you read her profile and ask her a question so she has something to say in reply to you. Most of these women have no clue how to start a conversation so you have to do it. Your the man you have to lead her. When she said to you “wassup” she possibly liked you and was hoping you would start a conversation with her, but you didn’t, so she moved on. It’s also possible she is an AW and she was just jerking your chain. It sucks I know, but that is how it is.

If you are going to do OLD you have to make an effort.

 

[lost_blackbird]

If you are going to do OLD you have to make an effort.

They don't though do they? I literally can't be arsed blowing smoke up their butts anymore.

 

[CoandaEffect]

They don't though do they? I literally can't be arsed blowing smoke up their butts anymore.

The tiny few that are interested in you will make an effort. The other 99.9999% of them will make no effort or they will play games with you. The smoke blowing is just part of the OL game.

 

[Lookatu]

I think the key to OLD is realizing it’s a numbers game and there are a lot of AWs and game players out there.

This.
And with OLD, expect to be dating 1-2 points below your SMV at least vs. real life approaches.

You're job is to be very cut throat and not linger on why someone will ignore or unmatch you. It's their loss.

I don't do squat to win over any woman. If they are truly interested, they will keep engaging conversation and keep it moving with you. It's all about equal reciprocation and playing tennis. They need to hit the ball back or I'm going home. The others that bailed, you should be thankful that you didn't have to waste your time time and put up with their shenanigans. My $.02

 

[Barrister]

To everyone saying "Meet IRL" - yes, we all prefer that. But there is a place for OLD as well. And you can make it work so long as you understand it is a numbers game as others have already pointed out.

Getting a HB 8+ out of OLD is likely not going to happen. So set some realistic expectations. I have gotten a handful of HB 6.5-7.5s, however.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Funny, I am on Bumble, Facebook dating and match.com. Sometimes, I will get a like from a woman or a message from a woman and perhaps after one message from me or a few back and forth; Poof! She is gone.

This morning, I got matched with and had a message from a pretty hot looking 41 year old (blonde, blue eyes). She sent me a meme "Wassup" and I responded with "Good Morning".

Next thing I know she unmatched me. Why? I think attractive woman have so many options they will "weed men out" for the smallest thing.

Oh, "he wrote me a boring response" or "He responded too quickly, he must be desperate or have no life". This is what I think is going though their heads.

Because most of what you will find on OLD is low-hanging fruit. That is why.

Modern Man Advice

 

[AttackFormation]

Nope, in NY but not NYC

But youre near the city right? if you are then it doesnt count, every single guy who has success with OLD is around New York.

 

[KindredSpiritzz]

Also, avoid nurses, teachers,

i disagree, both those groups i have found to be great in bed

 

[BackInTheGame78]

But youre near the city right? if you are then it doesnt count, every single guy who has success with OLD is around New York.

If 400 miles away counts then yes

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Concering that at 41 years of age it still believes it has the value to pull a stunt like that

Mind it could just be fvcking crazy a lot of 40yr old chicks would have just missed the social media craze and are probably filled with rage

Not a problem, they too will be able to find well intending men to take it out upon.

 

[Lookatu]

i disagree, both those groups i have found to be great in bed

Same here. Two of my current plates are exactly that combo.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Imagine at 50+ theyre still doing this nonsense. Christ its downright cringe

Some women never grow up

 

[lost_blackbird]

Some women never grow up

Some?

 

[Snag87]

From what I've heard, Match is a weird audience now. It was always more relationship oriented, but the swipe apps stole a lot of Match's thunder. It is a haven of divorced women and alpha widows. Many provider hunter/single mom types from what I understand.

I've not heard much about Facebook Dating.

Bumble appeals to the SJW/Feminist/Careerist crowd.

How about Hinge?

 

[Lookatu]

How about Hinge?

I like Hinge because I put it in autopilot as it allows me to see who liked me for free. I use it in passive mode(only checking to see who liked me and not liking anyone else) and liking back whoever is attractive in my queue.

It also has a different algorithm as Tinder, OKC, Bumble so you remain relevant and visible to more girls.

Both sides can only like so many girls at a time for free members. What this allows is to limit the amount of male thirst by limiting likes and the girls don't have as many options to choose from for that day. If the options they are presented with aren't attractive, they tend to seek out and like guys profiles by being more proactive.

It has been the most active for me within the age group I'm targeting and the area I live around. I also found it also has better quality girls out of all the apps. YMMV

 

[kawaki]

It is hard to find cool girls nowadays