Oneitis?

[Rhino22]

I know what you're saying.So dont even contact her for a few weeks? Yeah, oneitis...but dam* just from what I do know about her, Im pretty sure we woudl get along really well. I just dont relate to alot of your "ordinary" girls. To find someone as talented as me in the form of a female..lol wow.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

Dude, I'm on the same path as you. Wait for one of the more higher-ups on what to 'do' next. But as someone who knows where your head is at, I'm just saying what works for me to get out of said head space.

 

[Rhino22]

She posted this note on her facebook about how she is bartending tonight for this superbowl thing that is free. Another chance to go see her I guess but I'm not going to because I hate football and I really would be a stalker if I just showed up for her right? lol

I'm going there next weekend for valentintes day though and she will probably be working (she works for this theatre place).

I'm seriously contemplating sending her this message tonight or tomorrow reguarding Friday:


"So what did you think of the show? I got there about 11:30 or so after hitting up a couple other places. I saw you there dancin with some guy and girl a little later on. I guess I was too polite to come cut in. You looked gorgeous btw."

Now, I know you guys are all gonna shun me for that. But this girl seems like the type that is more into the "underdog" type. I am assuming that just by seeing the people she does hang out with...maybe she would rather talk to someone who is genuine anyway.

 

[Slickster]

She posted this note on her facebook about how she is bartending tonight for this superbowl thing that is free. Another chance to go see her I guess but I'm not going to because I hate football and I really would be a stalker if I just showed up for her right? lol

I'm going there next weekend for valentintes day though and she will probably be working (she works for this theatre place).

I'm seriously contemplating sending her this message tonight or tomorrow reguarding Friday:


"So what did you think of the show? I got there about 11:30 or so after hitting up a couple other places. I saw you there dancin with some guy and girl a little later on. I guess I was too polite to come cut in. You looked gorgeous btw."

Now, I know you guys are all gonna shun me for that. But this girl seems like the type that is more into the "underdog" type. I am assuming that just by seeing the people she does hang out with...maybe she would rather talk to someone who is genuine anyway.

Dude don't send her that.

I think you really risk coming off as stalker material.

You need to man up and talk to this chick like she's a normal human being. Quit making a big deal of this. Quit putting her on a pedestal. If you place her above yourself in your mind then you are already dead in the water.

There are literally millions of musically talented attractive women out there. She is just one of them. She is not the prize. You are!

Just go where she is going to be. It doesn't matter where or when. Don't analyze anything. Just go talk to her!

There isn't anything anyone on this website can say to you that is going to make this any easier for you. You have to take the step yourself.

Don't wait around. This is time wasted.

 

[Diaforetikos]

Don't send the message. Your giving away your value if you do so. And it would make the pedestal you made for her grow even taller.

I also recommend practicing some witty conversations with one of your friends. It sounds like you need it.

Don't beat yourself up for not approaching. You just need practice. Take everyones advice and focus on something else for a few weeks.

 

[Rhino22]

It's too late. I sent that message last night before anyione here ever said anything. My friends all thought it would actually make me come off as more of a "gentleman" or whatever because she is probably use to guys being "dogs" or whatever. This girl really strikes me as the type that favors guys that aren't like that.

Anyway, I really didn't show if she would respond or not, but she did.

She said, "Aw thanks. I had a good time. =)"

Hey, atleast she responded right? So now I'm thinkin I need to keep talkin to this girl. I'm gonna maybe ask her how long has she been a vegan or something? Should I just wait until tomorrow to send her a new message though?

 

[Slickster]

So you haven't even officially met her yet and you are already throwing her compliments?? Good luck with that.

Also I don't think she'll interpret your message as being gentlemanly. More like "why didn't you have the balls to come talk to me?" Now she thinks you were stalking her.

Now you are talking about sending more creepy messages about her being vegan??? How do you even know she's vegan? Oh yeah I remember, you ARE stalking her!

Seriously Rhino what are you going to do? Game this chick via text? What kind of rapport do you think you can build with a stranger in this way? It sure seems like an easy out for you as you are too chicken to just talk to her.

If she really means anything to you then you better man-up soon. This one is going down in flames if you ask me.

Or maybe you are waiting for the new iPhone sex app. Then you can have a sexual relationship with her and never have to talk to or face her ever.

C'mon man is this where you want to be? Take the next step!

 

[Kailex]

Rhino, between you and AlmostThere! I'm about to have an aneurism. But I have faith in that you are still able to turn it around.

When she said "Awww thanks, I had a nice time"... she was saying "Uhhh, you were there and didn't say hi to me"Rhino, between you and AlmostThere! I'm about to have an aneurism. But I have faith in that you are still able to turn it around.

When she said "Awww thanks, I had a nice time"... she was saying "Uhhhh you were there, you didn't say Hi to me?"

Dude, grow a PAIR by now. Do NOT send her any more messages trying to facebook game with her. She already knows that you saw her and didn't have the testicular fortitude to approach her. You can be a gentleman, yes, but gentleman have a pair of firm testicles and they know how to use them.

Step it up man, even if it means practicing on lesser female forms, but right now, you are losing a LOT of ground.

And all of these friends of yours, are they single? Do they approach women?

On a scale from 0 to 100, you are close to a 25. Remember, you start at a 50 (neutral). You've already lost half your ground simply by sticking to facebook messages and NOT approaching her. I don't know what else to advise you really... you're golden chance was last Friday.

 

[Rhino22]

Rhino, between you and AlmostThere! I'm about to have an aneurism. But I have faith in that you are still able to turn it around.

When she said "Awww thanks, I had a nice time"... she was saying "Uhhh, you were there and didn't say hi to me"Rhino, between you and AlmostThere! I'm about to have an aneurism. But I have faith in that you are still able to turn it around.

When she said "Awww thanks, I had a nice time"... she was saying "Uhhhh you were there, you didn't say Hi to me?"

Dude, grow a PAIR by now. Do NOT send her any more messages trying to facebook game with her. She already knows that you saw her and didn't have the testicular fortitude to approach her. You can be a gentleman, yes, but gentleman have a pair of firm testicles and they know how to use them.

Step it up man, even if it means practicing on lesser female forms, but right now, you are losing a LOT of ground.

And all of these friends of yours, are they single? Do they approach women?

On a scale from 0 to 100, you are close to a 25. Remember, you start at a 50 (neutral). You've already lost half your ground simply by sticking to facebook messages and NOT approaching her. I don't know what else to advise you really... you're golden chance was last Friday.

haha...well too late cause I arleady sent her that message. I would be a stalker if I just showed up at whtaver even she is gonna be at next right?

 

[Slickster]

haha...well too late cause I arleady sent her that message. I would be a stalker if I just showed up at whtaver even she is gonna be at next right?

You're not a stalker cuz you show up where she's at. You are a stalker because you build her up to be some sort of goddess, watch her from afar, and find out random tidbits about her life from the internet.

This is hilarious. You seem to be looking for every excuse possible not to approach.

I guess if you text her back and forth long enough you will somehow feel like you know her enough to talk to her right?? Or are you hoping that she'll approach you?

She's an extremely confident chick. How do you fit in to her life?

 

[Rhino22]

Ok, well she is kind of a "rock star" around here so it's kind of expected that I would know some things about her. Anyway, this girl is so freakin hot that I can't take it lol.

How do I fit into her life? I have no freakin idea. I would like to know how I could to be honest...

 

[Slickster]

Oneitis = Fail