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ONEITIS has me chasing my tail...... please help

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FoxHound20

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Yo..

Well this past weekend was all good with my oneitis at the bar. I scooped a number and ended up catching my oneitis trying to get my attention.. we kiss , tongue and everything so I was like woah! Crazy as we have never kissed before. The next day she told me that we kissed, etc.. and I play dumb, telling her that I don't remember doing it. I can't tell if this is good or bad, but she definately isn't touching me as much now, and is not acting her usual 'open' self. She said that it was "rude" that I forgot about us kissing, etc.


So for the past two days she's totally flaked out on me. I just found out today that she ****ed her best friend.. and that they do it all of the time with no strings attached. I was totally shocked.. I can't get the thought of them having sex out of my head. This actually hurts alot.. I know it will go away but for the moment im definately suffering. :mad: I truly believe the guy she is having sex with is a chump. Damnit. This is incredibly hard for me to understand as this guy is an AFC, yet he is tapping it.

Anyhow, I'm not sure exactly what I want from her. I really would love to make sweet bunny love to that girl ;), but i'm not sure how to go about doing this as she's starting to flake. I'm thinking about hooking up with the chick I scooped up at the bar and trying to make sure that I stay away from oneitis as much as possible. The thing is that she bad-mouthed the girl that I picked up, telling me that she's fat and ugly. She went off on a rag speech about how she has a better body, and better looks. This is obviously a clear indication of jealousy to any don juan, however I feel as if she is just bad-mouthing this girl in hopes that she doesn't lose our "friendship". (ie. hanging out, good times, etc.)

Damnit.. I hate this case of oneitis. I thought this one was over, but it keeps coming back.
Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated...
 
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You need to understand that she is playing a game with you. One thats intended to hurt you and drive you up the wall. There is no love in a heart like that, that being so there is no love for you. You are right though, she is sleeping with a chump, someone of obvious lesser value that is plain to anyone. You are meant to see this, so that it will drive you up the wall and get you thinking:

"WHY IS SHE SLEEPING WITH THIS TOOL, I'M BETTER THAN THIS GUY."

And like you said, this thought gets into your mind and its painfull, because thats what its intended to do. You have to get this through your head. The best thing to do is burn your bridges with this girl as best you can. Call her a ho, tramp, tease, whatever. Better yet date someone better and when she asks to hang out ask if you can bring a friend.....

Yes women can play games, and yes they can be petty and unthinking. But in the end a guy can make a girl jump through more hoops and you know you've seen this sy domr poiny. But for as many ****heads as you will run into you will find two others who are cool to hang with.

-Grey Fox
 
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chasing your tail?

The best cure for one-itis is to chase other girls tails...not your own!
 
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Why would you tell her that you forgot kissing her? What message did that send? That you casually dispense kisses and they mean nothing to you? That might be as good a reason as a girl needs to flake on you.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Well my idea behind it was to present myself as not caring. I told her that I didn't remember it because I was too drunk. Also, the fact that I PU'd infront of her, yet remembered that probably makes her feel like I'm putting her 'last in line'. Kind of a jealousy strategy..obviously it back fired. I'm willing to admit my mistakes.. and I did.. you learn when you make mistakes..
 
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Just make a move on her and find out for sure what's going on, one way or the other.

How much longer were you going to pull the social proof games on her? How much longer were you going to wait for stronger signals from her? How much longer were you going to sit there thinking "damn she is fine" before you do something about it?

How much longer were you going to wonder why she kissed you?

What's the worst that can happen?

She can say screw off.

She can play attention wh0re games on you if you make a tentative half-way move.

Other than that, the only things that can happen are positive.

Just make a move on her. Push her up against a wall. Get her in your bedroom and go for it.

Either that or sit around waiting for something else to happen.
 
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sitting around waiting for something else to happen is like inviting satan to ruin your life; if you believe anything I say, then go tap that ass tomorrow.
 
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Well my idea behind it was to present myself as not caring. I told her that I didn't remember it because I was too drunk. Also, the fact that I PU'd infront of her, yet remembered that probably makes her feel like I'm putting her 'last in line'. Kind of a jealousy strategy..obviously it back fired. I'm willing to admit my mistakes.. and I did.. you learn when you make mistakes..
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Not caring is cool - but when your tapping some poon or macking on a chick, it's damn right offensive to tell a girl that you were basically to drunk to remember her.

Being to drunk to remember what happened is also not a turn on - in fact it's a turn off.

Personally I think picking up another girl in front of her is not a problem - it tells her your a wanted guy.

Depends on the circumstances on how you were though.

Put this down to a lack of experience.

What you've got to do now is try and turn this around.
 
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Yah,

Thanks for the responses fellow Don Juans. I'm going to have to be smooth now. She's still my friend and it's not like she or I will cut contact with eachother (we have classes in school).

It started out as an innocent kiss.. then she shocked me by sliding the tongue in. We layed it on pretty good right in the middle of the bar. The chick I was trying to PU saw this and started to question me, but I explained that her and I are good friends. I had to gracefully maneuver my way out of that stint.

I called up the girl from the bar and will be hitting it up with her this week. So it's all good gentlemen. I have a few other girls to fall back on, which is always good when ur oneitis is still 'kicking it' around in your head.

I'll definately have to show her through actions that I still find her banging hot.....
 
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