One thing you should know people in HS - They're shallow.

The Antichrist_Star

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Originally posted by Inquire
You want some advice kid... here it goes:

Lighten the fuck up

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u get to cuss? [/B][/QUOTE]

That's why the pay me the big bucks kid. ;)

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Inquire

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Originally posted by Viper
That might be good for you. But I don't know if it so good for me.
If go up to, give her a hey, talk to her and then there's just a break of silence, because I can't think of anything to talk about, I honestly don't think just walking away and telling myself "Oh well, she don't know what she's missing out" would work. See what I mean? I've said it hundreds of times, I just can't keep interest in a conversation. People tell me I need confidence, self pride, but that's not what I need, I need to become a better conversationalist. If I can't keep an interesting conversation with a girl, than a sucessful number close is out of the question.
lol, u say "it was nice talkin to u i have to go now" and maybe "can i have ur number?", and do somethang else, not leave the convo hangin'. did u read the pimpologist 101's? they help.
 

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Conversational tips? I'll try but you have to promise to really consider what I'm saying.

First of all, I think it helps if you watch movies where there is a guy who knows how to get chicks. When the guy in the movie talks to the girl he wants, pay attention to how he keeps the conversation flowing. Don't focus so much on the exact words that he says. Focus on how he comes up with things to say and try to imitate that technique...

Second, when you're talking with a girl (I'm assuming you know how to START a conversation), try to feed off what the girl says. If she says something like "I went to Las Vegas in the summer", say or ask something about Las Vegas. Act interested. After she replies with another comment, feed off what she just said to keep the convo flowing.

Third, talking to guys DOES help. You said that you don't want or care about guy friends. That's the wrong attitude. Why? Having GUY friends to hang out with you makes you seem like less of a loser, and you'll have an easier time scoring chicks. Also, they can actually help you pick up chicks by putting in a good word for you, introducing you to the girl, being you wingman, etc. They can also give you good girl advice if they're good with the ladies. Focus on making good relationships with EVERYONE, not just women. A guy with only girlfriends and no guy friends is impossible. It's ESPECIALLY IMPOSSIBLE in high school.

Fourth, having CONFIDENCE is not something that you can just DO. I undertand that. When you start having success in life, you'll start to build more confidence in yourself. Confidence makes everything in life (including getting girls) easier. Strive to be more confident because confidence usually translates into happiness which IS the MOST important thing in your life.

Fifth, try to improve yourself in your free time (instead of doing something like playing video games). Lift weights (ladies like strong men...), run (ladies like slim men...), or even practice talking to girls. If you decide to do the last one, you might be able to do this by talking to people on AIM or in a chat room or something. I know it sounds stupid but I think it could help you in your situation. Talk to people your age and try to keep the conversation flowing. This will, in turn, translate to how u talk to people in real life. If you do talk to people online, maybe you could also post what you say here so we can help you in your conversation skills.

Sixth, I typed this whole thing out...meaning that I really DO wanna help you. Helping you doesn't affect my real life in any way because I've never even seen you in real life. I'm just doing this because I like helping people and I like PEOPLE. You might say I'm OPEN. Try to be more OPEN too. Negativity in anything only drives people bad places. Mindset is eveything. Also, don't think my life or anybody's life here is perfect. We got our share of problems too. It's just that we don't always complain about it as much as you do. A real man will feel the pressure, take care of his business, and continue on without making a big deal out of it. I know you have a problem that isn't THAT easy to fix but you really have to stop acting like you're dying because you CAN fix it.

Oh yeah, PS: like that one guy said "LIGHTEN UP" Life isn't worth living if you can't enjoy it and you're always taking everything so serious. AND NO I'M NOT TELLING YOU TO COMMIT SUICIDE (just adding that in case you have a twisted mind). Find a hobby to do when you're not thinking about women. Live you life like a real playa would...(not worrying about women so much)
 
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and i can ****ing cuss also :S
 

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Viper, hear this: you don't fùckin need conversational skills, speed seduction material, great confidence posts or sh1t like this.

I think that you're your school's loser. Well, not too bad, lots of people in here have been there and got out.

Forget everything you learned in this forum (since you don't seem to have learned something really useful) and learn this:


DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
DON'T TAKE SH1T FROM ANYBODY
YDOBYNA MORF T1HS EKAT T'NOD
YDOBYNA MORF T1HS EKAT T'NOD
YDOBYNA MORF T1HS EKAT T'NOD
YDOBYNA MORF T1HS EKAT T'NOD
YDOBYNA MORF T1HS EKAT T'NOD
YDOBYNA MORF T1HS EKAT T'NOD



Do as if you were Jack Nicholson in Shining and write it all over your room in strange patterns

if someone stares at you, say outright "the fùck you lookin at?", it's very unlikely that it will get you in a fight (most people in high school are shallow, but are also wimps), but even if you do, what you care? i don't think you have much too lose at the moment

you say you want women, well a loser is not gonna get women, so just become a winner
 

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Originally posted by dirtyvibe
who the **** wears lotion?
I do along with most other black people. Being all ashy is pretty nasty.
 

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focus on the present. nothing else matters when you approach a chick. NOTHING.

there is no past, no future, just now. that's it..nothing but now. Instead of thinking, just observe. If you can't stop thinking, then observe your mind which is thinking.

YOU ARE NOT YOUR MIND. YOU ARE YOU. The mind and everything attached to the mind (I'm not good enough, I suck, etc etc.) does not apply to YOU. Focus on the present moment COMPLETELY.

Observe everything. Dont think at all when you approach the chick. So you could be sitting on a park bench, you see a hot girl, and you just observe,

"oh yeah, here comes a pretty girl." that's it..nothing more. if your mind starts getting hyperactive, just observe the fact that it is. that's all you're gonna need for you to dissassociate with your mind. you just have to observe the fact that your mind is playing these things on you.

Once you are completely immersed in the now, that's it..everything becomes easy. DONT ANALYZE EVERYTHING!

If you see people looking at you, staring at you, just acknowledge the fact that they are..nothing more. you dont need to think about it, analyze it..anything like that..just observe, be completely in the NOW. Nothing else.

I suggest getting Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now to help you out with this.

But trust me, this did amazing things to my game, my social life, and my entire mindset. If I see a good lookin girl, i just acknowledge that fact, dont think about it..casually walk by observing the NOW, and just talking with her...not thinking about what i will say to her in the future, what line i will use. just NOW, just direct, just no stress, and no tension..

I seriously suggest you do that. stop thinking.
 

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Viper...... I know you have probably already heard this a few times from me but WATCH FIGHT CLUB. You really need to stop caring what others think of you. You must first respect/be happy with yourself before others will respect and like you. Be proud of who you are. I know that this doesn't happen over night. The road ahead might be rough, but you must perserve. I suggest you write down how you want to become on a piece of paper. Hang this paper on your wall. Every morning when you wake up and every night when you go to bed repeat this list to yourself, except say you are these things which you want to become. Ex. "I am brave" "I am outgoing" " I am a sexy beast" Over time you become that which you say you are. You will transform yourself from the caterpillar into a butterfly. The wise saying " As you think, you shall become," will apply here. Don't ever give up otherwise your life, your time, and your effort will be in vain. Good luck with the journey ahead.

P.S.

Ask the right questions and you shall recieve the right anwsers
 
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if you need any help at all, please PM me. I was such a horrible conversationalist and i study people. The good thing is, i think that a lot of bad conversationalists are actually very smart, astute people, tehy just need to stop thinking about negative thoughts and focus on their environment. Also, us "smart" people :D :p have to realzie that, in order to be good conversationalists (especially in HS), we have to "dumb" ourselves down. We assume that we need to talk about important ****, and our minds go beserk because we are smart but we cant find out what that girl wnats to talk about. You talk mostly about shallow, superficial stuff. Once again, i am always available for help.
 
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