One night stand? Hurts

[Skooled303]

HB 9! Came over to my house. We watched a movie, cuddled. I did some kino and we f*cked. Twice in the night and once in the morning


I made her waffles for breakfast. Then she dipped and said she'll text me

Problem is, she's leaving for college in 12 days.

Heres where I need advice.



7 or 8 hours go by, i texted her twice to see whats up. No response. (huge mistake/weakness?? or initiative on my part? she did say she'd text me)


I think she just thinks it's better no contact. No feelings involved and an easier way of goodbye. One night stand type thing



I shouldn't of made her damn waffles. I'm in a glass case of emotion.


Any wise DJs been in this situation before?



And yes i've been talking to other girls all day. But this ones still on my mind..it sucks.

 

[bukowski_merit]

You fvcked her 3 times. You made her some waffles, im sure you guys said some cutsey stuff to each other, etc. That's not the problem. That's fine as long as she's appreciative of it and it was done because you wanted to do it. Not to impress her with your cooking skills or because she asked you to do it!

7 or 8 hours go by, i texted her twice to see whats up. No response. (huge mistake/weakness?? or initiative on my part? she did say she'd text me)

The problem is this....

What do you mean "see what's up." What did you say in these texts? Just "what's up?" or stuff like "when do you want to fvck again?"

both are bad... in fact - unless she left something of hers over your house that's important (like crabs) - it's best not to text her at all unless she initiates it! (exception being right when she leaves to tell her you had a good time. or a few days after. Not HOURS!)

I shouldn't of made her damn waffles. I'm in a glass case of emotion.

Look man. I have FBs that i've done a lot of romantic things for. That is not the issue! You are not being weak by doing something nice for a woman.

You're being weak by being needy.

Regardless of how you felt and for what reason you sent those texts - they CAN be interpreted by her as you being needy. If she saw them that way or not - who knows.

You may get a response in a few hours from her.... Maybe she's busy getting tore up by some other guys right now. What does it matter?

You scored with a HB9 - that's a good night for anyone. Remember it, enjoy it, and act like you've been here before!

This whole "but she's different" thing is said by 99% of the guys on this board when they're asking for advice on a certain woman. It's old, and no... she's not any different...

 

[eaglez1177]

HB 9! Came over to my house. We watched a movie, cuddled. I did some kino and we f*cked. Twice in the night and once in the morning


I made her waffles for breakfast. Then she dipped and said she'll text me

Problem is, she's leaving for college in 12 days.

Heres where I need advice.



7 or 8 hours go by, i texted her twice to see whats up. No response. (huge mistake/weakness?? or initiative on my part? she did say she'd text me)


I think she just thinks it's better no contact. No feelings involved and an easier way of goodbye. One night stand type thing



I shouldn't of made her damn waffles. I'm in a glass case of emotion.


Any wise DJs been in this situation before?



And yes i've been talking to other girls all day. But this ones still on my mind..it sucks.

If she said she'd text you, then why the hell did you text her twice 7/8 hours later asking what was up? You probably came across as needy.

 

[Skooled303]

You fvcked her 3 times. You made her some waffles, im sure you guys said some cutsey stuff to each other, etc. That's not the problem. That's fine as long as she's appreciative of it and it was done because you wanted to do it. Not to impress her with your cooking skills or because she asked you to do it!



The problem is this....

What do you mean "see what's up." What did you say in these texts? Just "what's up?" or stuff like "when do you want to fvck again?"

both are bad... in fact - unless she left something of hers over your house that's important (like crabs) - it's best not to text her at all unless she initiates it! (exception being right when she leaves to tell her you had a good time. or a few days after. Not HOURS!)






Look man. I have FBs that i've done a lot of romantic things for. That is not the issue! You are not being weak by doing something nice for a woman.

You're being weak by being needy.

Regardless of how you felt and for what reason you sent those texts - they CAN be interpreted by her as you being needy. If she saw them that way or not - who knows.

You may get a response in a few hours from her.... Maybe she's busy getting tore up by some other guys right now. What does it matter?

You scored with a HB9 - that's a good night for anyone. Remember it, enjoy it, and act like you've been here before!

This whole "but she's different" thing is said by 99% of the guys on this board when they're asking for advice on a certain woman. It's old, and no... she's not any different...

Thanks for the advice very good points,

The first text was "hey hon hows the BBQ?" she told me she was going to a bbq. second text was "Down for a movie tomorrow?"

True shes busy at a BBQ but Shes usually quick with replies, and always has her phone. so i'm not sure


Lol that was hilarious the part about maybe shes being torn up by some other guys. but it doesn't matter..is the truth..thanks

oh and no crabs

 

[Skooled303]

And true true she could of taken it as needy. Taking mental notes lol. thanks guys

 

[bukowski_merit]

Can you explain if you set any expectations for the relationship you were having with this woman. Because...

Thanks for the advice very good points, The first text was "hey hon hows the BBQ?" she told me she was going to a bbq.

This is something you say to your girlfriend or girl you're "dating".

second text was "Down for a movie tomorrow?"

Which is essentially asking her if she wants to fvck again! Which is not something you want to ask really. Like i said - you need to act more like you've been here. If you're falling for this girl - she will know it before you know it.

True shes busy at a BBQ but Shes usually quick with replies, and always has her phone. so i'm not sure

Man, this is good game by her; in fact - incredible game. She has you worried about this stuff. You're investing a lot of emotion and thoughts into this woman. And yes, she probably is looking at her phone and saying, "another one".

Ideally, she should be the one worried about if you're ever going to call her back or respond to her texts.

Keep us updated on what happens. Do not contact her again unless she initiates it. Everytime, you just come off as more needy.

 

[Skooled303]

Again very wise words. Thank you

True true you do call your girlfriend hon, i usually just call all girls hon or honey and they just melt. lol


Update she texted me:

My phone was in my purse, sorry. I'm going to (InsertCity) tomorrow don't know if i'll be back"


Damn she's good. but for 1. *****es always have their purses lol. She read my texts im sure.

I replied "Np, well i had fun lastnight. c you"


she text back "Me too "

Any game tips for now on? im not trying texting her back for a quick minute until she misses me , hits me up , or something of that matter

 

[ARrocket]

Man, this is good game by her; in fact - incredible game. She has you worried about this stuff. You're investing a lot of emotion and thoughts into this woman. And yes, she probably is looking at her phone and saying, "another one".

Guess what Skooled303? You know what you're feeling right now?

This is pretty much what YOU need to make HER feel.

You see what's happened here? She has taken the role of the DJ, and you are the girl lusting for the DJ.

Now that you know what YOU need to be making women feel, change your game around so that you make them feel that way

Everyone else has hit the nail on the head; you are being needy. You have to make sure to not get so emotionally involved so quickly. Learn well from this experience, as it will go a long way to making all the pieces come together for you.

 

[Skooled303]

Guess what Skooled303? You know what you're feeling right now?

This is pretty much what YOU need to make HER feel.

You see what's happened here? She has taken the role of the DJ, and you are the girl lusting for the DJ.

Now that you know what YOU need to be making women feel, change your game around so that you make them feel that way

Everyone else has hit the nail on the head; you are being needy. You have to make sure to not get so emotionally involved so quickly. Learn well from this experience, as it will go a long way to making all the pieces come together for you.

Very true. Thanks bud


Edit: Is it possible to make her feel this way now? Cant think of any way but not initiating contact unless she does and just basically giving little interest. may shift the power back?


Got 12 days til she leaves. trying to bang this girl at least 8 more times. I'm not trying to wait on her, and i'm not trying to be needy. Bukowski, Rocket, what should i do? <3

 

[ARrocket]

Very true. Thanks bud


Edit: Is it possible to make her feel this way now? Cant think of any way but not initiating contact unless she does and just basically giving little interest. may shift the power back?

I can't believe you just us a heart at the end there. :nono:

Ideally you'd wait several days, but seeing as she is leaving and you have nothing to lose, call her up in a couple of days.

"Hey I'm free tonight, let's chill. Come on over around 8:00" or something like that...just don't expect too much to come out of this one.

The important thing is that you don't make the same mistakes with the next girl. AND GAME OTHER GIRLS SO YOU'RE NOT SO WORRIED ABOUT THIS ONE!!!!!

 

[DoItAgain]

First I have to give you props for banging a HB9...but you do sound like you're hung up on her, and it's pointless since she goes away in 12 days. I'd personally avoid all contact, find another girl to hang out with, that way you don't have any time to build her up even more in your head than you already have.

 

[Real Talk]

Seriously, if your pipe game wasn't wack, she'll hit you up again.

Just back off a little bit, let her contact you first

 

[nismo-4]

Maybe you sucked in bed, maybe she was drunk, maybe she secretly wasn't attracted to you, etc. Stop pondering and move on. Go no contact with this girl.

You are guilty of getting emotional and showing desperation in text and attempted oneitis. Remember that no pu$$y is golden.

Your crimes have earned you a fine of wasted time, unneccessary strain on your brain, and a trip to Unnatural, Illinois. Remember what Judge nismo told you; No pu$$y is golden.

Case closed.