One more post about "Professional dater" or "Attention *****" - how to spot them.

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azzUp guys. So let's talk again, about girls type, called "Attention *****s". It's about two days came, since i fully understood, that i'm guiding by my nose ;) (maybe it isn't correct in english), simply, that i'm fooling.
It's long story to tell, how i met this girls, how we "related", how i TRULLY persuaded hat she's some kind of freak blah blah (some girls heads is so phucked up, maybe their childhood, parents or whatever, i don't know).. so i want to make u (especially newbies) some info, how to spot such "whoring" behavio
r. Now i'm a little bit angry, much more on myself, than her, cause i didn't spotted her earlier (but nothing very much happened, so i'm alive, i'm enjoying life, i'm DJ'ing other girls and so on..) especially, when i was on similar situation few years ago, ghrr >:-\.

So guys listen: (!) no mater, how cute girl is, how innocent she looks, BE ON SCANNING ALL TIME (unless you r in real LTR or smth, cause you can bacome paranoic, u know.) her behaviour.
I just one more time persuaded, that if u'll not expierence one thing on yourself, u r not defended from it, just by reading articles at sosuave.com ;). Of course, maybe u'll be lucky, and take a lesson from others expierence...

Sorry if my english will not be very well, but i'll try ;)

SO, mostly signs that she's an "Attention phucker" is:

SIGN 1.
Girl cancels date, but lyes so persuading, that u just can't believe, that she's fooling you. At this situation, most important thing, is all known "Counteroffer". If she says (!) - "Umm, i'm feeling bad, have many h/w to do" or other BS, and "but maybe at the weekend" RED FLAG - at 9 times of 10 if she don't suggest u exact time, place and other, she'll cancel date again. Only (ONLY) if she suggests u time, u can wait and see, but if just vague "next day, weekend or else" - NEXT. p.s.- don't offer her "next time", wait if she offers you!

SIGN 2.
I don't know, how in your country, but in our, SMS writing is madly poppular, people don't talk, they write ;). So, if she writes hot SMSs, chat with you through phone (even if she initiates!), BUT - when you meet her around other people, she tryes to avoid contact with you, when talks looks nervous, one time her eyes is gazing in your, other u r talking with wall (i know, same does shy girls, but if u have other feeling about, her being unfair, this's huge sign, that she's playng something). You know, this girl called, writed me every day, writed hot SMSs like "What r u doin' handsome guy?" blah blah, don't let be lulled by BS like that. So at this moment, sayng "Don't look at her words, look at her actions" is brilliant, believe me. And at all, i suggest u to use this sayng in all situations, especially when dealin' with girls. It's so true..

SIGN 3.
Date. When u r on date with her (yes, even this type goes to dates) look at her behaviour. U know, when i was on date with this girl, i just wondered, how i can't say anything interesting to her or smth. But later, when i runned through that date several times in my mind, i spotted, that she just wasn't taking almost any effort, to hold convo interesting, i questioned about her a lot - SHE NOT (this is a sign, sometimes, if girl's just nervous she don't question u very much, but again, u'll see her struggle to hold convo going).
One more thing, don't be fooled by gazing into your eyes. Yeah, u'll say i'm just some sort of paranoic, but they do this thing, they want, that you became mad for them, this is very real. If one moment she looks intently in your eyes, and other, looks away with no emotion - RED FLAG. I don't know, why this girl was doin' that, i just felt smth bad. (earlier girl, when i sayed, that i was in similar situation, done EC very strong and very often, u just can believe, that she's in love with you, phuck! One difference, between then, and now, is - then i was just very immature young boy, and that was one of my firsts attempts with girls, i study with that girl, now i haven't any emotions to her side. I see, when she's doin' the same for other guys.. until they loose hope, and leaves.).

SIGN 4.
She's alone long time (especially if she's cute). You know, now about this girl i think, tjat she has some sort of $hit in her head. Before i approached her, i knowed from her friends, that she hasn't BF long time (she's young, but one her very good friend, sayed "She had many BF, she'll just "EAT" you (i don't know how to say correct in ENG)", that time i just didn't care. U know, she looks so nice, immature, innocent, she just can't do anything bad to you :) . So, back to the point, such type of girls mostly are alone (and'll be - this's what drives me :) ) or pretends, that is alone (u know, more attention - more confidence, for her or for whatever reasons they do this...). Just pay attention to her friends, escalate some info...

Now i can't thing nothing more, but not very much time camed from that time, when i figured out this girl. JUST KNOW: they can be VERY (VERY!) good actors, very persuading, u can start believe, that she lost her head for you. And that moment, u become off guard, cause u believe in all that ****, and don't pay much attention to all signs.
So - She says "I'll call you tonight to confirm, that i'll be free, and we'll go to date" don't take a ****! You say - "I need to know NOW, not tonight, cause if u can't i have other things to do" and wait for counteroffer!
She avoids you - next...

And you know guys, about half a year, i started to pay much more attention to my gut. Yes, it's someway sayng to you, if something is going not very well. So if u just feel (from somewhere, without any real reason) bad feeling in your gut about something, be aware of that.

One more thing i want to say (in not very old topic, one guy sayed this, and i think it's very simple and wise) - WOULD YOU DO THAT THING TO GILR, WHICH IS IMPORTANT TO YOU?. I want to say, look, what she's doin' to you, and think, would you do the same to her. Would u cancel date? Would you avoid her? Would you ...?

Ok, this is my, hmm maybe 3-rd post on this board (don't think that i'm newbie, i was getting girls much earlier, than found this site), and i hope, somebody will find this advantage. Maybe somebody of you can write some more signs? i think it'd be ok to do some guide to signs like that. ;)


Good luck.


p.s.- i writed this post two days ago, but didn't have time to post. About 4 days ago, i asked her directly "Will you be sometime "not busy", if not, then there's no goal to relate in any ways" - with smile, and calm, she asked "Why? Are you angry? Ofcourse, when i'll be heathed i'll "not be busy"" ; "No why i supposed to be angry :), just wanted to know. Ok, C Ya" i sayed. Since that didn't writed/called for about 4 days, oh i thinked, caught on your own game(cause earlier, as i sayed, she called me every day). But today i'm lating to study, go through door, she's commig, with big smile saying "Helo", "**** off" i thinked in my mind.. Really, in any ways, now i'm DJ'ing other girl... I know, i know, to somebody this might seem, as high IL in girl, but you don't know whole situation, so don't be fooled...
 

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I writed this about 4 days ago, now i'd do some corrections. Some signs i writed is not exept from Proffessional daters, like canceling date, it says by itself, that girl has low IL. But i'm talking about canceling date in that way, who leaves you with hope.
just say hooks you...
 

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Dude are you chinese?

If so please help me because I have problems dealing with chinese girls.
 

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btw your post is qutie good
 

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Good post! I get your general meaning, that you should always be on guard.

I'm growing up (literally), and girls around me are starting to grow up too. Professional daters aren't around yet for the moment, but they probably will be soon.


MattB - By the way, don't forget that Chinese girls from the mother country are a LOT different from Chinese girls born in the West. I've seen Asians born here who behave exactly like Westerners, hang around with non-asians, etc. In my view native Asians have no difference whatsoever to native Americans/Australians, etc.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Thanks guys.

MattB> Sorry, i'm not chinese, i'm from eastern europe. (here girls like money very much, so profesional daters is very poppular... but as i said they may do it not for money, some girls are just freak
).

Diplomatic_lies> I'm young, so i'm growing up too. But even some young girls are such ***, that sometimes i can't believe. Especially hot ones... Yeah, my point was exatly what you said, and i learned it just by not very nice expierence.
 

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good post dude, too bad you couldnt write it in your native language because you had some good stuff in there.

thanks for the reminder about how manipulative some girls can be.


btw, im dating an attention ***** right now
 

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Jester, are you trying to outplay her in her own game?
 

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Thanx Jester. Yeah, in my native language, i'd say all those things more understandable(btw, is my english very bad?).

Really? U r dating attention ****? Hmm, it's one more way to persuade this: Just cut off all relations with her, if she just asks one time "What's wrong?", and when sees, that can't manipulate you anymore, she just leaves (often mad on you). This is true, cause if girls IL in you is genuine and high, she'll put much more effort to find out what's wrong...

"Jester, are you trying to outplay her in her own game?
" - he he
i suggest don't play lot of games with such girls, cause they r freaks, if they got mad, all your social proof or other things can be broken.
 

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This is a great attention wh0re post.

One point I HAVE to reinforce is that no matter how sweet or innocent a chick appears, do not drop your guard - both in terms of level of DJing to apply or emotional attachment.

Don't get sloppy or act AFC - chicks like this will create ample opportunities and invitations to do so. Their fake High IL might even make it seem OK to "relax" your game. They have played MANY guys before you and are well practiced.

Remember - early on you don't know her and these type of chicks have more than one side to their personality. (That itself can confuse and lead to mixed signals if you notice it - which is always a RED FLAG).
 
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Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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ooo1!!!oooo!! I'm Chinese!!!

Er...right. Great post. I especially liked the one about "she only talks to you in private online, and never in public." Thanks for reminding us to stay alert.

Yea....chinese girls, don't bother with them. Their parents are so restrictive....and the ones I know have issues such as, "If I'm going down, I'm taking you with me....and.....I'll do anything to ge t what I want/need." Really lame sh1t they do.
 

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
ooo1!!!oooo!! I'm Chinese!!!

Er...right. Great post. I especially liked the one about "she only talks to you in private online, and never in public." Thanks for reminding us to stay alert.

Yea....chinese girls, don't bother with them. Their parents are so restrictive....and the ones I know have issues such as, "If I'm going down, I'm taking you with me....and.....I'll do anything to ge t what I want/need." Really lame sh1t they do.
:( :( :mad: :mad: ****ing weak

But there are ways around the parent for im a padawan Don juan i was made by god to be a chick magnet. :D
 
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