One Itis

[BlackAnkle]

This isn't advice from me. I'm actually asking a question to those of you who have experience which perpetuates mine.

One Itis is a hard thing, I've learned over the years to get over it. My method is simply having multiple girls in an abundance mentality. And this works, 99% of the time. But I often get confused. Where is the line drawn between actually caring deeply for someone and A desperation filled OneItis. I want to care and be passionate, more deeply than just the hookup itself. I'm not in this community for a plethora of hookups, although that Is a fun thing. I'm here for something deeper, meeting the absolute girl of my dreams, who I'm crazy about, and who I can be totally involved with but not invested in 100%, so how could one care for someone and show them how much they care without just being a desperate, one Itis filled AFC?

 

[defensiveend96]

I have always thought that it is only considered Oneitis when you have no chance of getting the girl. If it is a girl that you like and she likes you back then it is not Oneitis. It is simply mutual attraction which is a great thing. Don't be worried about being an AFC if you like only 1 girl. If she doesn't like you back but you still keep chasing her then you are being an AFC. But if it is a mutual attraction and you only work on getting the one girl, it is not Oneitis.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Don't get too caught up in oneitis and pua acronyms. It's OK to like a girl, something I didn't fully grasp until recently. Being grounded and having good control of your emotions - often through self-improvement - or having an abundance mentality will keep oneitis away from you.