The problem starts when you imagine her as your mother of your children and blah blah blah... You need to block your emotion. Just treat her as a f@ck option and that's it, she does it to you why shouldn't you do it to her?
This is the reality of the game. Alot of chicks aren't worthy or capable of monogamy yet dudes try it out anyways only to get heartbroken later on. That's why the site advocates spinning plates so much. It keeps you sane. Maybe one day you'll find a chick worthy of monogamous bliss. She'll either be a 5 or a Mormon though lol. That's an exaggeration but if you wanna go that route you're gonna have to always be their best option. The game never ends.vagrant said:I was never a player. Now I feel like I will be for the rest of my life. How do I take these girls seriously now? I guess this is the first step to becoming a real don juan because now I feel like I don't need girls and that they have to prove themselves to me if they want a relationship with me.
i am not sure he is mental he just sounds like all of us lost souls that wandered to this site. although he has so many posts and has been here for so long it seems hes learned nothing or he has learned something but he let this girl break him. though i wouldnt be shocked if hes learned nothing we a stubborn species.cordoncordon said:Vagrant you are either a troll or if not, you sound like a 15 year old lovestruck school boy. Something seems 'off' with you. Like your IQ is very very low. Are you 'special'?
I hate to be so cruel about it all but you really do seem as if you are ready to flip out at any moment.
Pull yourself together and start showing some self respect for yourself man. This girl is just playing with you because she knows she can. She has you wrapped so tightly around her little pinky finger, with you ready to do her bidding whenever she decides to wiggle it.
Either fawk her now and then and detach emotionally, or go NC. Because this in between stuff is killing you and you just don't have the mental fortitude to handle it.
Not anymore. At first when I finally kissed her after 4 years of knowing her I thought I found the one. We have always been great together. I have always felt that she likes me more than friends and that she felt the same way about me. That she was always waiting for me to make a move. She kept giving me lots of green lights that afcs couldn't miss then when the kiss happened I thought it was going somewhere.Danger said:If she was to tell you right now, that she wanted to be with you, you would accept it. Because it is what you want. I can read it in your posts.
THAT is why you are dwelling on what "this all means".
It doesn't matter what she wants at this very moment, because she is of very low quality. Walk away or just use her for a receptacle. Why would you want anything else with this creature.
That's exactly what she's doing to me and other guys. She doesn't get emotionally involve and she's advicing me the same thing. But I'm thinking how?!?!?Dom1noe said:vagrant, can you see how messed up you are? I mean this seriously. Can you sit back and look at your state of mind with at least a bit of objectivity?
Probably you can't do that. Than you should probably heed to the advice of all the more experienced and uninvolved men on this forum.
There's nothing serious about this 'relationship'. Accept it and go with the flow. You wanna fvck her? DO IT! You wanna ignore her stupid messages? DO IT! Try deleting one before you read it and see what happens.
JUST DON'T GET EMOTIONALY INVOLVED ! That's where spinning plates is helpful. Not because you want so many of them at once, but because you don't want to get attached to any one of them.
No problem. I just get sick and tired of reading this guy post about a girl who is so obviously playing him and some guys actually encouraging him to pursue her. And that is fine if he just uses her now and again for sex without emotion. But he is SO overly emo about this that he sounds very very unstable. He honestly sounds like a 15 year old kid in love for the first time. Not healthy.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Wow. What's your problem?
I'm not like this in real life don't worry. This is how I feel inside and I'm just letting it out in this thread.cordoncordon said:Vagrant you are either a troll or if not, you sound like a 15 year old lovestruck school boy. Something seems 'off' with you. Like your IQ is very very low. Are you 'special'?
I hate to be so cruel about it all but you really do seem as if you are ready to flip out at any moment.
Pull yourself together and start showing some self respect for yourself man. This girl is just playing with you because she knows she can. She has you wrapped so tightly around her little pinky finger, with you ready to do her bidding whenever she decides to wiggle it.
Either fawk her now and then and detach emotionally, or go NC. Because this in between stuff is killing you and you just don't have the mental fortitude to handle it.
I've had lots of ons. I've had girls beg me to be their bf. I've fvck many girls before and not feel anything at all. But for me to use this one for sex without emotion is almost impossible. And if that annoys you you're the one who's not stable enough.cordoncordon said:No problem. I just get sick and tired of reading this guy post about a girl who is so obviously playing him and some guys actually encouraging him to pursue her. And that is fine if he just uses her now and again for sex without emotion. But he is SO overly emo about this that he sounds very very unstable. He honestly sounds like a 15 year old kid in love for the first time. Not healthy.
Actually the reason I never went for her to begin with is because I know she was too young. Not crazy just young. I've read the dj bible many times. I go to the tip section all the time. In short everyday I'm trying to keep learning and learning. So I know how young women are. Specially the beautiful ones. She is immature.Frayzer said:Obviously you want to be with her because you value the time you both have known each other so you'll think "she knows better."
From a psychological stand point, shes emotionally immature(Psychotic) and no way in hell ready for a LTR. But you wont agree because you feel the time spent together makes her mindset magically different.
Everyone here told you the worst that can happen, but you still want her. If you want her that bad and think this case is different then go get her.
Everyone here warned you, and if something good happens then let us know.
^Thisexpos said:Vagrant. Please get a grip. This girl is 20 years old. People don't know their head from their assh*le at that age...you are not dealing with an emotionally mature individual and you cannot change the way she behaves.
You are not married to this person...you haven't been exclusive to her....and you are already investing too much time into her. She is not capable of giving back to you what you give to her.
Here's what you should do....and you'll do this starting today:
Be different from all of those AFC chumps who text her constantly, "like" everything she does on Facebook, retweet her crap. Simply go ghost for awhile. She'll wonder why you are so different from the rest of the Betas who follow her around like lost dogs.
You've already f*cked her...do you know what that means? You are in pretty good standing. Girls that age will go absolutely crazy over a guy who bangs them and just ignores them afterwards. So that's what you are going to do...ignore her and watch her spin out of control. You are regaining the power that she has over you. And guess what? Women LOVE Power.
Scarcity means value. People want what they can't have. Think of what she is doing to you. Whenever she hangs out with another guy, it's means you aren't hanging out with her. That's when you desire her. If she was constantly texting you all day and didn't have other options, she wouldn't be desirable, would she?
You are going to turn the tables on this girl. Become SCARCE. You said it yourself that you are the prize...now starting acting like it. In fact, get a fvcking Sharpie and write P-R-I-Z-E across your hand to remind yourself.
No more wimpering posts for now on. Come back when you start acting ALPHA with some proof.