Once you are unplugged....

[The_411]

Sometimes people need to endure painful lessions in order to learn. The best we can do as friends is merely make recommendations but you really have to know your relationship with your friends well to know if they will react well to you coming down on them hard will make them see the light.

Other times people are in denial about the reality of the situation. They won't see the light becuase it is too painful for them to do so. They do not want to have to deal with the ramifications or issues that result from takinga long hard look in the mirror and doing a real assessment of themself.

 

[Lexington]

Remember, there was a character in the Matrix who chose to go back. He said he knew that the steak he was eating wasn't real, but the signal being sent to his brain told him that it was delicious. That was good enough for him and that's good enough for a lot of people.

It's a tough world out there. A lot of people would rather choose to live a fantasy than to face the harsh reality. It's quite understandable really. It's a lot easier to live a pleasant lie than to swallow a bitter truth.

 

[runner83]

Remember, there was a character in the Matrix who chose to go back. He said he knew that the steak he was eating wasn't real, but the signal being sent to his brain told him that it was delicious. That was good enough for him and that's good enough for a lot of people.

It's a tough world out there. A lot of people would rather choose to live a fantasy than to face the harsh reality. It's quite understandable really. It's a lot easier to live a pleasant lie than to swallow a bitter truth.

I don't understand...ha ha...

How can a dry d!ck be considered a pleasant lie...?

Unless they get their satisfaction from their supposed knowledge of what is right and honourable when dealing with women, even if they never get chicks wet from it.

Probably in the opinion of these losers hiding from reality, all those other guys (like me) who fvck women without taking them on dates
are just "jerks" obviously.

Well, no use trying to change some people..I personally now just leave 'em to their own devices...all the more for me.. :rockon:

 

[mrRuckus]

She wasn't the problem - she was simply being who she was.

Women will be women? Being who she is isn't a problem? Fvck that. That is absurd.

Some men rape people. We don't say "oh well, boys will be boys" and let it go. We don't shrug our shoulders and say "WHAT?! HE IS BEING WHO HE IS!! NO PROBLEMS! MOVE ALONG!" (unless it's in prison and against a man apparently: http://www.limbicnutrition.com/blog...c-reality-of-male-on-male-rape-in-us-prisons/)

Normal, decent people (even plenty of women) will feel bad about taking advantage of others, or at least have some reasonably placed line to limit how much advantage they're willing to take, and if it were my daughter convincing some love-struck puddle of weakness boy to escort her to her boyfriend's and back miles and miles, and it were 1850 before we went soft, I'd smack her in the goddamn face and tell her to stop embarrassing our family.

 

[Findog]

Women will be women? Being who she is isn't a problem? Fvck that. That is absurd.

I tend to agree with this. There are things that are broadly true of just about all women, basically the fact that on a biological level they operate and process things differently than we do, and if you want to generally be successful with them, you are going to have to learn game and figure out what they respond to and what they don't. But game will not necessarily protect you from a woman that is low-quality, doesn't have good character, is psychologically troubled, or is otherwise not suitable relationship material if you don't know how to spot red flags and run in the opposite direction.

I have in my past put my trust in the wrong person and gotten burned because of it. I was naive in certain ways and that naivety got me hurt really bad. So that was my process of unplugging from the Matrix. But I refuse to accept responsibility for somebody else's bad behavior. People need to be held accountable for their actions, male or female. There's enough quality women out there that you can't write off bad behavior from some of them as something intrinsic to the female gender.

 

[synergy1]

Remember, there was a character in the Matrix who chose to go back. He said he knew that the steak he was eating wasn't real, but the signal being sent to his brain told him that it was delicious. That was good enough for him and that's good enough for a lot of people.

It's a tough world out there. A lot of people would rather choose to live a fantasy than to face the harsh reality. It's quite understandable really. It's a lot easier to live a pleasant lie than to swallow a bitter truth.

I think everyone has parts of them that might relapse from time to time, and this was one such instance for me. That said, i'd never want to go back despite knowing what I know now. Its all part of growing up as this mentality reaches far beyond only women. These are the kind of things you realize as you see people do whatever it takes to get ahead, despite being spoon fed morals/ethics. Its what you realize when most people cheat. Its what you realize that people are ultimately selfish no matter how altruistic they might seem.

Knowing how things are, and focusing on them are different. I honestly believe I can live a content lifestyle without denying how things are. The difference is I don't need to make it a primary point in my life to meander over it. Accept, and move on.

There's enough quality women out there that you can't write off bad behavior from some of them as something intrinsic to the female gender.

Its the same effect as watching pro sports, and having the thought that everyone is a pro athlete. No, its not the case. We just have a disproportionately large percentage of our time focusing on them. I'd say the same goes for women here - we tend to focus on the bad more than the good. This thread makes me guilty of this as well.

We have to remember there are plenty of low quality guys who bring nothing to the table as well. For every problem or issue we bring up about women, one could easily counter with something ****ty a guy has done. Pointing the blame only at women is stupid without assigning a level of responsibility to ourselves as men. This is the theme I try and follow in each of my posts on this forum.

 

[The_411]

I think everyone has parts of them that might relapse from time to time, and this was one such instance for me. That said, i'd never want to go back despite knowing what I know now. Its all part of growing up as this mentality reaches far beyond only women. These are the kind of things you realize as you see people do whatever it takes to get ahead, despite being spoon fed morals/ethics. Its what you realize when most people cheat. Its what you realize that people are ultimately selfish no matter how altruistic they might seem.

Knowing how things are, and focusing on them are different. I honestly believe I can live a content lifestyle without denying how things are. The difference is I don't need to make it a primary point in my life to meander over it. Accept, and move on.

There's enough quality women out there that you can't write off bad behavior from some of them as something intrinsic to the female gender.
Its the same effect as watching pro sports, and having the thought that everyone is a pro athlete. No, its not the case. We just have a disproportionately large percentage of our time focusing on them. I'd say the same goes for women here - we tend to focus on the bad more than the good. This thread makes me guilty of this as well.

We have to remember there are plenty of low quality guys who bring nothing to the table as well. For every problem or issue we bring up about women, one could easily counter with something ****ty a guy has done. Pointing the blame only at women is stupid without assigning a level of responsibility to ourselves as men. This is the theme I try and follow in each of my posts on this forum.

This is true; however, I've found that it's extremely difficult to tell sometimes which ones are the good ones and which are the bad ones. either work by the axiom trust but verify or assume they're are untrustowrthy until the prove they are trustworthy.

 

[Findog]

This is true; however, I've found that it's extremely difficult to tell sometimes which ones are the good ones and which are the bad ones. either work by the axiom trust but verify or assume they're are untrustowrthy until the prove they are trustworthy.

Indeed. Sometimes it's too late and you're already hooked. Not every person who comes from a bad childhood/family background is going to be screwed up as an adult, just as not every person who comes from a stable/loving environment with parents that are still together will have their act together when they get older. There's an axiom that says a person's past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. But what about the fact that a lot of people are immature and still figuring things out in early adulthood? How relevant is it when you meet a woman at the age of 30 and she tells you things she did at 21 or 22 that would be considered red flags? I wouldn't want a woman to evaluate my fitness for a relationship based on things I did when I was in college or early adulthood.

What are you supposed to do when a woman reveals her dating history and by necessity her past that is filled with relationship failures? The way I see it, if you're a single adult and you've had a significant other in your life at some point, then all of your relationships have "failed." How do you differentiate between a woman who matures as she gets older, learns from her past relationships and improves her relationship skills, as opposed to a woman whose relationships keep failing for a reason, either because she has a bad picker or her relationship skills are underdeveloped? I kind of feel like this is where the concept of qualifying comes in, because it can take a long time to be able to suss out this difference in the woman that you are dating, and you need to be able to make an informed judgment about this before you decide to get married or commit to a long-term future. What is the answer? Sometimes dysfunction is very obvious and the red flags are literally waving wildly in front of you (Lindsay Lohan for one famous example), and sometimes it is subtle and only deploys in specific circumstances.

Obvious red flags - substance abuse, financial problems, very incongruent statements at odds with reality, very risky and promiscuous sexual behavior, "fast-forwarding" (saying I love you too soon, proposing moving in or marrying after a very short period of time, doing things days or weeks into a new relationship that are more appropriate after several months or years).

I'm really curious what the guys here think are some of the more subtle red flags. For me, I would have to say low self esteem is a big one. I'm not sure exactly why this is so, but it seems like girls with low self esteem have trouble with properly communicating their needs and concerns within a relationship, they don't have realistic expectations for their partners, they are unpredictable, etc. They will eventually treat you as poorly as they treat themselves.

 

[backbreaker]

Indeed. Sometimes it's too late and you're already hooked. Not every person who comes from a bad childhood/family background is going to be screwed up as an adult, just as not every person who comes from a stable/loving environment with parents that are still together will have their act together when they get older. There's an axiom that says a person's past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. But what about the fact that a lot of people are immature and still figuring things out in early adulthood? How relevant is it when you meet a woman at the age of 30 and she tells you things she did at 21 or 22 that would be considered red flags? I wouldn't want a woman to evaluate my fitness for a relationship based on things I did when I was in college or early adulthood.

What are you supposed to do when a woman reveals her dating history and by necessity her past that is filled with relationship failures? The way I see it, if you're a single adult and you've had a significant other in your life at some point, then all of your relationships have "failed." How do you differentiate between a woman who matures as she gets older, learns from her past relationships and improves her relationship skills, as opposed to a woman whose relationships keep failing for a reason, either because she has a bad picker or her relationship skills are underdeveloped? I kind of feel like this is where the concept of qualifying comes in, because it can take a long time to be able to suss out this difference in the woman that you are dating, and you need to be able to make an informed judgment about this before you decide to get married or commit to a long-term future. What is the answer? Sometimes dysfunction is very obvious and the red flags are literally waving wildly in front of you (Lindsay Lohan for one famous example), and sometimes it is subtle and only deploys in specific circumstances.

Obvious red flags - substance abuse, financial problems, very incongruent statements at odds with reality, very risky and promiscuous sexual behavior, "fast-forwarding" (saying I love you too soon, proposing moving in or marrying after a very short period of time, doing things days or weeks into a new relationship that are more appropriate after several months or years).

I'm really curious what the guys here think are some of the more subtle red flags. For me, I would have to say low self esteem is a big one. I'm not sure exactly why this is so, but it seems like girls with low self esteem have trouble with properly communicating their needs and concerns within a relationship, they don't have realistic expectations for their partners, they are unpredictable, etc. They will eventually treat you as poorly as they treat themselves.

this is why it's important to give every woman the "stress test" so to speak.

everyonne, or almost everyone, especially women without glaring flaws are going to look good to you under perfect conditions.

to test a woman out to see what she is really wroth, you have to give her the stress test, to see how she acts when things aren't in her favor, to see if her act is real or not.

how does a woman act when she has to compete for a man? how does a woman act when you don't call her back for 2-3 days or talk to her for 2-3 days? how does a woman act when you go on a vacation and don't take her? what's your woman's view on sex? is it a means to an end or is it for enjoyment? most men, have no idea because they never apply the stress test to the woman before committing. \

if you do not know the flaws in your woman before you get in a LTR, that's no one's fault but your own. if you are in a LTR with a woman, and you do not know everything you need to know about ther you were rushed into a LTR by her or by the scarcity mantra that she is the only peice of ass left on the earth and you must do whatever you need to do to get her. only when you are confident that you know wha tyou have in a woman are you into a LTR./ might be 2-3 months. hell it might be a year. each woman is different.

i have zero sympathetic for any man who does know what type of woman he has because it's his fault.

chris rock said it best. every woman you meet, you aren't really meeting them,k you are meeting their representative. you have to date a woman or get to know a woman long enough before her Representative wears off before you can see what you are really working with at the core.
this is why i am so adment about plate spinning. Women will call you a player, call you a dog, all that ****, but it's a MUST to find a good woman.

 

[Burroughs]

this is why it's important to give every woman the "stress test" so to speak.

everyonne, or almost everyone, especially women without glaring flaws are going to look good to you under perfect conditions.

to test a woman out to see what she is really wroth, you have to give her the stress test, to see how she acts when things aren't in her favor, to see if her act is real or not.

how does a woman act when she has to compete for a man? how does a woman act when you don't call her back for 2-3 days or talk to her for 2-3 days? how does a woman act when you go on a vacation and don't take her? what's your woman's view on sex? is it a means to an end or is it for enjoyment? most men, have no idea because they never apply the stress test to the woman before committing. \

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I agree a 1000% percent...a stress test must be implemented

that being said.

Backbreaker are you crazy!

Men these days ask their ladies permission when to take a dump, what clothes to buy, what haircut to get (only fags and henpecked dudes get frosted tips!), what shoes to wear, if and when they can have a fvcking cookie!

Its a complete AFC wasteland out there. Any trip to a local mall will show you that. Henpecked dudes walking around like zombies holding bags. Women scolding their BFs like toddlers, berating them in public....is this a male population that is even capable of TESTING a female

I don't think 99.9% percent of men have the ballz to test their women (they feel lucky they even HAVE women)...even though they most definitely should.

 

[backbreaker]

I agree a 1000% percent...a stress test must be implemented

that being said.

Backbreaker are you crazy!

Men these days ask their ladies permission when to take a dump, what clothes to buy, what haircut to get (only fags and henpecked dudes get frosted tips!), what shoes to wear, if and when they can have a fvcking cookie!

Its a complete AFC wasteland out there. Any trip to a local mall will show you that. Henpecked dudes walking around like zombies holding bags. Women scolding their BFs like toddlers, berating them in public....is this a male population that is even capable of TESTING a female

I don't think 99.9% percent of men have the ballz to test their women (they feel lucky they even HAVE women)...even though they most definitely should.

exactly.

the 800 pound gorilla in the room is that most guys are too happy just to have a woman interested in fvcking them to "risk" losing them.


most men, honestly.. don't even want to find out if their woman is LTR material. That's the real issue. They just don't want to "mess up a good thing". It comes back to bite them in the ass later with "issues that you couldn't see" 10 out of 10 times.


you cannot do anything until you give up the fear of losing a woman. your fear of losing pvssy is the hurdle that stops you from truly seeing if your girl is LTR material or not.

that's the irony of the game. to really get you a keeper, one that is a true LTR ride or die chick to the end, you have to be willing to lost her / let her go. you have to be willing to walk away and you have to be willing to let her walk away.


The avg male, meets a woman, gets her number somehow, takes her out to eat, they go for a walk in the park or some stupid BS, they kiss, he calls her the next day, they go out again 1-2 days later, the4y might or might not have sex, he calls her everyday for 3 days, he then takes her out again and by then he thinks there is some type of connection and asks her to be his GF.

tell me where in that situation do you actually have the time to find out your GF's true colors. both of you are wrapped up in the newness of the realtiosnhip / new pvssy smell to get a wiff of what she is and is not about.

I love jazz. I have been on dates with chicks that will tell me how they LOVE to listen to jazz and how they think it's cool i like jazz, only to go over their house and not see onne jazz CD or not onne jazz station saved in the radio on the car. I take mental notes like that. the longer you can string out a woman, the more you find about how fake that persons Representative is.

some **** i can get over. when i first met millie (my wife), i would come over and her house would be spick and span. I know in retorspect, that was her representative.. while she's not a pig, she's not the neat one in the relationship let's just put it that way. I can live with little **** like that. okay going to have to do the majority of the cleaning. not a big deal. I mean if I ask her to clean up she has no probelm doing so but she's not that can't sit down and watch TV if the house isnt' just 100% clean like i am.

but saying **** like... lol, i don't want kids, or how much she Loves sex or how she is good with money, only for her to keep hinting out loud how it's time for yyou to step up to the plate and get married, or find out that you only get in her legs when she wants something from you or how she has a 450 credit rating lol.. that's your fault for not figuring that **** out

 

[synergy1]

Quoted for truth.

We see it all around us. Especially when it comes to respect. Most men would accept disrespect from a woman if it meant even a chance of getting laid.

Hence you have so many men out there who don't "rock the boat". Their daily mantra being "Happy wife, happy life".

I wouldn't go out of my way to rock the boat vis a vis playing games, BUT under less than ideal circumstances, you'd better believe I am taking notes and making observations. As was well stated earlier, anyone can act nice under ideal situations, but all of that goes away eventually. Its hard at the onset of dating to be able to ascertain these types of traits.

One red flag that I take very seriously is how women treat or view other people who offer them nothing. This is a similar metric I apply to friends. If a women hates her family and talks a lot of trash about their siblings, or other women...that is a huge turnoff to me. In the case of the ex girlfriend of my friend, she called her sister a 'total *****' so that should have been a small indicator right there. Women are much better than guys are sweet talking people to get what they want - its hard to tell from face to face communications. However, women are also more than willing to divulge abhorrence towards other women so this is a much simpler than simply seeing how they treat you.

This is true; however, I've found that it's extremely difficult to tell sometimes which ones are the good ones and which are the bad ones. either work by the axiom trust but verify or assume they're are untrustowrthy until the prove they are trustworthy.

As they are teaching me in my field, remain skeptical until proven otherwise. Its not quite a pessimistic point of view, but doesn't fully exonerate untrustworthy either. There are good hardworking dilligent women out there, and its unfair sometimes to group all women in the same tranche as the crappy/crazy ones.

 

[Findog]

I wouldn't go out of my way to rock the boat vis a vis playing games, BUT under less than ideal circumstances, you'd better believe I am taking notes and making observations. As was well stated earlier, anyone can act nice under ideal situations, but all of that goes away eventually. Its hard at the onset of dating to be able to ascertain these types of traits.

One red flag that I take very seriously is how women treat or view other people who offer them nothing. This is a similar metric I apply to friends. If a women hates her family and talks a lot of trash about their siblings, or other women...that is a huge turnoff to me. In the case of the ex girlfriend of my friend, she called her sister a 'total *****' so that should have been a small indicator right there. Women are much better than guys are sweet talking people to get what they want - its hard to tell from face to face communications. However, women are also more than willing to divulge abhorrence towards other women so this is a much simpler than simply seeing how they treat you.

This is true; however, I've found that it's extremely difficult to tell sometimes which ones are the good ones and which are the bad ones. either work by the axiom trust but verify or assume they're are untrustowrthy until the prove they are trustworthy.

As they are teaching me in my field, remain skeptical until proven otherwise. Its not quite a pessimistic point of view, but doesn't fully exonerate untrustworthy either. There are good hardworking dilligent women out there, and its unfair sometimes to group all women in the same tranche as the crappy/crazy ones.

I really like what backbreaker said above about how under perfect conditions all but the most obvious dysfunctional trainwrecks are going to appear "perfect," "The One," etc. The beginning stages of a love affair when the oxytocin is flowing and both partners are on their best behavior trying to impress and make a good impression is as close to perfect conditions as you're going to get.

Most women are able to navigate the honeymoon period and appear "awesome." That's why later on you're left shaking your head and saying "I never saw this coming." It's just like a job hunt. You put a suit and tie on for your interview, and if you get the position, you bust @ss at first proving you belong. Both men and women do this in the courtship and honeymoon period of a new relationship. But reality intrudes at some point and then you learn what you are really dealing with. Birthdays are easy. Romantic weekend getaways are easy. Valentine's Day and anniversaries are easy.

What is not easy is when one of you loses a job, you get sick, a child you're caring for has special needs or gets sick, or when some other form of adversity strikes. Stick with somebody long enough and through life's ups and downs and you will eventually experience some sort of adversity with your partner. Then you know what you are dealing with. One day you're going to be in a foxhole and you need a woman who you can count on to be in that foxhole with you.

I think I understand now what it means to qualify a woman. Some women can hide their BS for awhile but it comes out eventually. If you do not do this, that does not excuse a woman's bad behavior if she turns out to be immature, a person of low character and morals, if she's psychologically unstable/crazy, or just plain bad relationship material...but it does mean that you played your own role and have some responsibility for the predicament you find yourself in. The frog is just as responsible as the scorpion. It's arrogance to think you can tame the scorpion, or naivety to not know it was a scorpion you were dealing with.

 

[Zarky]

Enjoy them for their poon and for the laughs. If you're looking for loyalty, get a dog. Even a dog's only loyal as long as you keep feeding it. Everyone's out for themselves, I don't blame 'em for it.

I really like what backbreaker said above about how under perfect conditions all but the most obvious dysfunctional trainwrecks are going to appear "perfect," "The One," etc. The beginning stages of a love affair when the oxytocin is flowing and both partners are on their best behavior trying to impress and make a good impression is as close to perfect conditions as you're going to get. Most women are able to navigate the honeymoon period and appear "awesome." That's why later on you're left shaking your head and saying "I never saw this coming.

Brother I've never felt that way about a woman in my entire life. The closest I've ever felt to that is when my folks bought me a black 1985 Pontiac Trans Am when I was 18. Like f*ckin' Knight Rider. Used piece of sh*t that it was, I loved that car until it started falling apart (literally) as I drove it.

 

[Findog]

Brother I've never felt that way about a woman in my entire life. The closest I've ever felt to that is when my folks bought me a black 1985 Pontiac Trans Am when I was 18. Like f*ckin' Knight Rider. Used piece of sh*t that it was, I loved that car until it started falling apart (literally) as I drove it.

There's a quote I like that basically says that falling in love is a mental illness. It's pleasurable, but still a form of mental illness. Have you ever been in love?

 

[Zarky]

Beats me. I'm a pretty rational guy, not very emotional either positively or negatively. And I usually don't go after chicks who are out of my league. So most broads I can pretty much take or leave. I've had crushes but I don't think that counts as "being in love."

So I guess no, I'm not really the fall-in-love type. Which has its plusses and minuses. I know a guy who has a very addictive personality -- overeats, smokes, had a coke habit for years -- and he's always falling in love. Me, I couldn't get addicted to something if I wanted to.

So I think the two are closely related.

 

[Nutz]

Last night I was out at the bar. I decided not to drink so I was just chilling with friends . When someone isn't drinking, they are generally more observant otherwise. Saw my buddies ex gf at the bar. in short, she went home with some dude. She knows my friend is trying to get back together with her. Regardless, she leverages this to get him to fix her car which I am witnessing right now. Its amazing how she can turn on the sweet talk and play him as if he has a chance just to get something for nothing. is this anything new? no. Anyone who is unplugged is well aware of women who can do this, but for some reason seeing it is just sad. I hate seeing my friend , who is a good dude, get taken advantage of time and time again by women like this.

I hope you told him about her using him and is only being nice to him right now because she's got something to gain out of it. Hell, it might even help to mention her going home with the guy (or banging her yourself if the circumstances call for it).[/quote]

All this does is fuel my negativity towards women. This in turn really hurts my game as I am generally more successful when I am more optimistic about things. My question to the community is how do you overcome being 'unplugged'. More experienced men might have some insight I hadn't thought of. I don't want to be a curmudgeon that 'hates' women because that is not a healthy way to live.

Thanks in advance!

This is the catch-22 of the community, when the Disney veil comes off and you see women for what they really are. How do you overcome being "unplugged"? You don't overcome it per se, but you certainly can adapt and form strategies to avoid poor quality women and to prevent the good ones from doing it as well. Basically qualify, set boundaries, and screen, screen, screen.

 

[DanelMadr]

...there is no going back. .............

Actually you can still move forward. Maybe on your way deeper to the rabbit hole you will realize you were not so 'all seeing' and actually that feeling of "superiority" or superiority deluded you. And you will realize that 'Now you know that you actually don't know and that you can never know.' People change or don't, universe is based on chaos but regaining balance. What a mess.
But now you can see that without your head hurting truing to come up with answer. Acceptance that there is no definitive answer or formula.

That girls is a Playa. Hell, most of pretty and young girls are. Not with every guy though ;-) and not forever. Old Chinese saying "
Rat does not steal and cat does not murder" It is just natural order of things. She will get corrected or not. You hating on her won't change it. So why do it?

They are both lying to themselves:

She: He will do my car for free because he likes helping Me.
He: I like doing it because I am a nice person and she should know that.

the truth:
She: I'm greedy and like to prove to myself and others I am desirable woman
He: I fear to burn bridges with her because I invested too much feelings in her for my own self worth. And I fear being seen as not nice....when I was little being nice made my mum love me.

They are both trapped.

 

[DanelMadr]

I kinda went through a similar phase when I was recently unplugged. "Fucking bitches! They've been pulling the wool over my eyes all these years! Oh look at this disgusting whore trying to pull her shit on that guy!"

But as I grew, I came to the following realizations:

• We are living in the Matrix. I am lucky I was unplugged and can now realize what's going on within this system.
• Women are doing what they are allowed and programmed to do under this system. Me getting mad at them for what they do would be like getting mad at a lion for killing its prey. That's what lions do.
• Me being unplugged means that I now have the freedom and wisdom to identify and eliminate the "bad ones" (or just pump & dump them) while concentrating my time, money and effort on candidates for "good ones."
• Chumps will be chumps until they realize what they are and want to change. No one can help you but yourself. I became frustrated enough that I looked for a better way. And that's what intelligent men eventually do.

"El que se enoja, pierde." (He who gets mad, loses.)

Once I came to the realization that getting angry was just a big waste of time, I let go of my hate and anger and decided to concentrate my efforts on bettering myself. Why waste time and effort on something I have no control over?

Now, I will drop hints to friends in trouble here and there but I never confront. "Unplugging chumps from the Matrix is a lot like triage – save the ones you can, read last rites to the dying."

^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Pure Gold

 

[DanelMadr]

Matrix was just inside our head. Created by our ego protecting mind. Make sure you don't treat one Matrix for a slightly different version....where for example all women are *****s and most of males losers.

In the v.1 you were the special one, because others were Jerks.
In the v.1.5 you are the special one because others are clueless.

In Reality the need of ego to be the special one creates the whole series of Matrixes to satisfy it's existence. Ego is only fear based primitive protecting mechanism (be like this so parents/alphas won't abandon/kill you) and shouldn't call the shots.

You can say ego is at work when you observe it labeling, judging, lost in mental movies, hoping for future or dwelling in past, keeping score etc.

And interesting observation...No ego = shyt tests fire blanks