Once a slut always a slut?

[vatoloco]

With the story you gave us, I highly doubt she's conservative, or a devout Christian. I wouldn't mind u explain further how you came to this conclusion.

LOL. I'm surprised it took this long for someone to point this out. If she told you this, she is incongruent, therefore No Good.

What's the answer? In this case, take out the question mark from your thread subject and put a period.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Am I the only one who registers this sh!t?

So, for the past month or so, I've been dating this girl that has ****ed 17 guys at the ripe old age of 21.

She's also a conservative and a devout Christian, which is really bad.

Uheheheh,..

Holding onto it like a get-out-of-ƒucking-free card.


BLUELINE, why are you even considering monogamy with anyone? She doesn't want "official" exclusivity for the exact same reasons you shouldn't either. You're too young to compromise your ambitions and limit your experience with the liabilities that monogamy requires. I have more respect for her than you, at least she's honest with herself and not afraid to tell you. You've got ONEitis for this HB7 who thinks she deserves the attentions of 9s. That's what's bugging you.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I'm gonna send her this email:

"Our culture is so pervasively infused with this idea of love being a necessity in life that I will take it from any source that wants to give it to me. I'll do this even if I don't feel a mental connection with them just because I want that feeling of being totally accepted and wanted by someone. Is this appropriate, though? Should you really be giving people pieces of yourself like that when you're knowingly giving the other person pieces of your puzzle that do not fit in their puzzle? Is being in love simply having a beautiful person that has consistently great sex with you, is really sweet/supportive, stable, makes great food, makes you feel comfortable, and is pleasant to be around? That's certainly everything you need for a good lover. Is it what I want in a relationship? It's definitely a now required part of it. However, the most critical component for me here is friendship. How am I going to spend time with someone I can't talk about the aspects of life that I'm passionate about with? Can I grow as a person with this girl? The answer to both of these questions is that I can't with you.

Even for a couple months, I can't be selfish and tie down a person as wonderful (I mean this, you are a great girl) as you from meeting other people because you're in an exclusive relationship with me. Your twenties are meant to be enjoyed. We only have superficialities in common. Who knows, maybe you'll meet someone that is extroverted, muscular, happier, and likes to dance.

Sorry. Letting you go pains me quite a bit. If you want to talk to me about this immediately, do it through email. I am awful at articulating myself in person when the emotions are still this raw and I'm highly suggestible. If you still want to talk about this, call me in a couple weeks.

Best of luck,

blueline"

This belongs in the Beta Hall of Fame.

 

[Boilermaker]

^^

Big time.

 

[casaanova]

So, for the past month or so, I've been dating this girl that has ****ed 17 guys at the ripe old age of 21. She says she wants to exclusively date me, but that I can't call her my girlfriend because she doesn't like how the term implies being "tied down" and how she is really opposed to that label .

It's hard for me to read beyond this. Are you dudes this SLEEP? Why would you even consider being committed to that - 17 really means 51 (if not more), and "she doesn't like that label"? How stupid is that statement?

The mysterious thing about this girl is that she makes a great traditional girlfriend. She's cute, she cooks really well, she's very submissive in many aspects of her personality (aka good at sex), she's really supportive, really warm/affectionate, extremely stable/unemotional, she'll spend money on me all the time, and sex basically whenever I want.

They all do, as long you're offering them the chance at a relationship. I know this from personal experience, this is how I eventually got into Game (and after I learned the hard way why you can't turn a h-o into a housewife). As long as you're offering them the ever-so elusive chance at stability, or if she's just cheating on you and feels guilty, she will be overly giving. The second things are perfectly fine and content, all that will go flying out the window.

Unfortunately, she's a ****ing airhead (great SAT score and getting two honors degrees, though) and doesn't care about anything remotely intellectual, so I can't have an enjoyable conversation to save my life with her.

The biggest airheadiest sluts I've known did the best in school (don't ask me why, I'm still trying to figure out why). In the future this should be a red flag

I think what's going on here is that she goes to parties and just sluts it up with that tall, muscular, blonde hair, blue eyed, and square jawed beauty. I've seen the guys she's ****ed, they're all way out of her league. They're 9's and she's a 7, so they'd never date her. So, what's going on here is that she keeps getting humped/dumped by them and has literally been desensitized to getting treated like this so often that she doesn't care. All she wants to do is **** hot guys.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/08/21/sluts-are-not-less-discriminating/




Sluts never really change dude, it's an ugly truth most people try to deny. As long as guys give them attention, they will still have that gluttonous mentality. It's fine if you just want an fbuddy, but you do not want to get into a relationship with them, and most certainly DO NOT MARRY ONE. You will regret it. Just keep them at arms length and you should be fine.

 

[BlackMack177]

Sounds to me like you're catching hard feelings for a ho, bro. One should never get attached to a jump off.

You said you approached this girl to get laid, so why in the world did that change? From what you're telling us, she doesn't seem like wifey material at all. She's a slvt who doesn't want to be tied down, gives mixed signals, and has delusions that she is some knock out who deserves only top quality men. News flash, any girl can get a top quality man to fvck them. Men will drop down a few pegs to bust a quick nut. Women seem to think that men wanting to fvck them makes them valuable. it doesn't. It's the same as a HB 10 asking 10 AFC guys to do favors for her. The guys think they're getting play, but she values none of them. But that's besides the point

I would distance myself from this broad. She doesn't sound to great, and you are only setting yourself up for failure in the long run. A girl that really really wants you will try to make you her man, not run crazy game on you.

The sex must be out of this world for you to be falling this hard for a girl that even you admit isn't that great. Is it that good? Does she have you speaking in tongues?

 

[JoeMarron]

My god man! Why the hell are you making this complicated? You have the perfect fbuddy on your hands yet youre trying to destroy it with this save a ho nonsense smfh. And LOL at the devout christian part. You need to eject now. Youre cleary not capable of handling a situation like this yet.

 

[badboyjmm]

She doesn't wanna be save, this girl is bad news homie. I understand that sometimes, guys get ONEisit but not for a known h0rs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGobXsmPx78

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f_8m17jofDM

 

[Die Hard]

Interesting thread but I hope the last five posters do realize that it's ten months old???

 

[bigneil]

17 guys by age 21 is (sadly) about average for a modern girl in the 8 range. Most girls would sleep with more hot guys if they could - if they could.

Don't judge her based on it, but don't expect her to change if something major doesn't change. She should start to grow up, drink less, think more and find someone she loves eventually.

Once girls realize they aren't getting prettier they usually get scared straight a little. She's close to that age now. Wait until she gets her first wrinkle and try again.

Remember that if you treat people like family they usually treat you like family. If you trust them more they will be more trustworthy. Likewise if you don't trust them it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is, offering unconditional love (not needy love) is a good thing. It proves you are strong enough to give. It's ok to love people.

Also, a girl has to want to be a good girl at heart. If you not only believe she is but can prove to her that she is by observing her closely she will (usually) love you for it.

 

[Zarky]

There is some damage here and I'd like to penetrate the psychological armor.

christ, WHY? Why bother? Are you Captain Save-a-Ho?

17 for a 21 year old chick is quite slutty. Chasey Lain, the 90s porn star, "only" banged 10 guys in college before she got into the adult film industry. And she considered herself quite easy.

Keep in mind slutty behavior doesn't come from attraction, it comes from low self-esteem. This stays with a girl her whole life.

Now I love sluts, I do... for f*cking. But I certainly wouldn't have a rel'p with a 7 who's banged every guy in town. That's crazy.